February 4, 2025

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: Is It OK to Believe in Energies?”

Q: I am really struggling with my faith. I come from a household where half of my family are Catholic, and the other half have no religion. I had attended a Catholic school and learned all about Catholicism while not being a Catholic (I didn’t receive Communion, etc.). I developed my relationship with God when my mental health got bad. I didn’t label my belief, but I felt a connection with God. I am now in a relationship. My boyfriend is super respectful of me. We have not had sex and have occasionally shared a bed but stopped because I had this huge fear of something bad happening. Will God cause bad if I do bad? I fear that if I do one wrong thing, God will punish me or those I care about. I believe in Jesus. I am also extremely spiritual. I feel a connection with the earth and energy and nature. But I am very torn on the right way to believe and follow God. I saw something on TikTok that a girl posted that mentioned about how if you do things that belong to spirituality such as put crystals out under a full moon, that’s fine if it’s something you enjoy, but if you believe that it will help you, then it’s wrong because you should turn to Jesus and God for that. This left me feeling awful because I believe in energies, etc. I’m also torn because I also read opinions about sex before marriage being a sin or not. Would God punish me for having premarital sex? Thank you. – C.M.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s good that you are asking these questions. It shows that you are trying to do the right thing.

If I understand your situation correctly, you seem to have been exposed to Catholicism but never joined the Church. On top of that, you are getting some of your ideas about religion from TikTok.

If you really want to know what God wants of you, you should consider turning to Jesus and to the Catholic Church he founded.

For now, let’s set aside the questions of God’s punishment and focus more on his love for you and his call to a deeper relationship with him.

A few quick observations if I may.

First, it would be good if you start studying the Catholic faith in depth. Otherwise, you won’t really understand the language of the Church or how all its teachings and practices fit together.

You might start by reading Youth Catechism (YouCat) or the Compendium of the Catechism or the U.S. Catholic Catechism for Adults. Another helpful resource, especially for specific questions, is the Catholic Answers site.

As an antidote to TikTok, try Father Mike Schmitz’s offerings on YouTube.

Above all, it’s vital to shift your belief away from “energies” and focus it more on Jesus, our Lord and only Savior. Energies won’t save you.

Second, you want to live your relationships in a way consistent with God’s will. This includes your relationship with your boyfriend.

Sharing a bed with him puts you and him in the near occasion of a big fall in chastity. Sex is meant only between a husband and wife who are open to life. Any sex outside marriage is objectively gravely sinful.

The Catechism under the heading “Offenses against Chastity” says:

“2353. Fornication is carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children. Moreover, it is a grave scandal when there is corruption of the young.”

A lot of theology and wisdom is embedded in that teaching. A helpful site on dating and courtship is the Chastity Project.

In the meantime, for your own good, quit sharing a bed with your boyfriend and dedicate more time to prayer and learning about the Catholic faith.

Among the riches of the Church are the sacraments of confession, confirmation and Communion. Those are immense helps on the journey through life.

You might consider contacting the nearest Catholic parish and ask about its OCIA program, which would teach the basic beliefs and practices of the faith with an eye toward your entrance into the Church.

I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

 

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The Merits of Martyrdom

Dear Friends in Christ,

 

February 6 is the feast day of St. Paul Miki and Companions, martyrs for the faith in late 16th-century Japan.

They were a diverse group: priests, religious brothers, laypeople. Some were Jesuits, others were from the Franciscan family.

Their bravery in the face of martyrdom is rightly commemorated by the Church.

But curiously, their sacrifice seems to have brought modest fruits.

More than four centuries after their deaths, the Catholic population in Japan makes up only about one-third of 1% of the nation. Perhaps the deep roots of faith planted in the time of Paul Miki and others will take a few more centuries to fully bloom in the Land of the Rising Sun.

Evangelization is rarely a straight-forward or quick process. The faith can blossom in places unexpectedly but flounder in others.

Then again, the merits of martyrs in one country can easily be applied by Our Lord to other nations. We might not know until the Last Judgment.

This is a reminder that we won’t always immediately see the fruits of our own sacrifices and prayers. Our prayers today might lead to a conversion of a loved one long after we have passed from this world.

That is why it’s important to pray and work with great purity of intention, and to seek the glory of God (and not our own) at every moment.

If that sounds like a tall order, we can count on the nourishment Our Lord offers in the Eucharist.

To reinforce your confidence in such a great sacrament, consider praying with our Retreat Guide on the Eucharist, Food for the Journey.

And remember that Paul Miki and his companions left their mark on Church history, even if the society of the day didn’t accept them.

In Christ,

Father Edward McIlmail, LC
Ask a Priest contributor

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February 4, 2025 -The Healed Daughters

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Tuesday of the Fourth Week in Ordinary Time

 

 

Mark 5:21-43

When Jesus had crossed again in the boat to the other side, a large crowd gathered around him, and he stayed close to the sea. One of the synagogue officials, named Jairus, came forward. Seeing him he fell at his feet and pleaded earnestly with him, saying, “My daughter is at the point of death. Please, come lay your hands on her that she may get well and live.” He went off with him and a large crowd followed him. There was a woman afflicted with hemorrhages for twelve years. She had suffered greatly at the hands of many doctors and had spent all that she had. Yet she was not helped but only grew worse. She had heard about Jesus and came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak. She said, “If I but touch his clothes, I shall be cured.” Immediately her flow of blood dried up. She felt in her body that she was healed of her affliction. Jesus, aware at once that power had gone out from him, turned around in the crowd and asked, “Who has touched my clothes?” But his disciples said to him, “You see how the crowd is pressing upon you, and yet you ask, ‘Who touched me?’” And he looked around to see who had done it. The woman, realizing what had happened to her, approached in fear and trembling. She fell down before Jesus and told him the whole truth. He said to her, “Daughter, your faith has saved you. Go in peace and be cured of your affliction.” While he was still speaking, people from the synagogue official’s house arrived and said, “Your daughter has died; why trouble the teacher any longer?” Disregarding the message that was reported, Jesus said to the synagogue official, “Do not be afraid; just have faith.” He did not allow anyone to accompany him inside except Peter, James, and John, the brother of James. When they arrived at the house of the synagogue official, he caught sight of a commotion, people weeping and wailing loudly. So he went in and said to them, “Why this commotion and weeping? The child is not dead but asleep.” And they ridiculed him. Then he put them all out. He took along the child’s father and mother and those who were with him and entered the room where the child was. He took the child by the hand and said to her, “Talitha koum,” which means, “Little girl, I say to you, arise!” The girl, a child of twelve, arose immediately and walked around. At that they were utterly astounded. He gave strict orders that no one should know this and said that she should be given something to eat.

 

Opening Prayer: Jesus, feed me with your word. Help me to desire your healing and wholeness. Bless me as I encounter you in Scripture today.

Encountering Christ:

 

  1. Markan Sandwich: St. Mark used a literary device throughout his Gospel called a “sandwich.” Today’s Gospel reading is a great example. This device helps us understand the shared meaning behind the events in two stories that seem unrelated. Here the story of Jarius and his daughter in the clutches of death is sandwiched in the middle by the story of the woman with a hemorrhage. The key to understanding deeper meaning in this passage is to look for ways that the stories relate. Both are centered on coming to Jesus for healing. Both people were female, and both were miraculously healed. Another similarity is time. The girl was twelve years old, and the woman had suffered with a hemorrhage for twelve years. Her issue of blood made her unable to participate in her community; she was ritually unclean. Consider this: The woman had suffered in this way as long as the girl had been alive, equaling a “lifetime” of isolation, pain, and suffering. The little girl was presumed dead. Both needed Jesus to bring them back to life.                                                                
  2. Desiring Healing: In a mystical way, our healing is connected to our internal disposition; we must want Jesus to heal us. Notice that both Jairus and the woman approached Jesus and desired healing. The woman reached out her hand to touch Jesus, and his power flowed out of him to her. It is striking, almost as if she were instrumental in her own healing by reaching out to him. Jesus blessed the woman and told her that her faith saved her. Notice that he addressed her in a familial way, calling her “daughter.” When Jesus approached the little girl, he lifted her up, raising her from the sleep of death and restoring her life, even more powerfully than in the case of the woman. Both are returned to health, life, and community. Our conversion to Christ makes us part of God’s family. Jesus raised Jairus’s daughter and called her “little girl’: “Talitha koum.” The woman who was healed became a “daughter” of God, a “little girl” again. Both have new life in and through Christ. Do I truly desire and believe that I can be healed? Do I want to be God’s beloved child?                                                           
  3. Hidden Sacraments: This passage holds a key to two hidden sacraments. Both Jairus and the woman approached Jesus in humility and fear of the Lord. Jairus “fell at his feet,” and the woman “came in fear and trembling and fell down before him, and told him the whole truth.” This strikes an image of the sacrament of Reconciliation where we humbly kneel at Christ’s feet and confess the truth of the brokenness of our lives. When we make that short pilgrimage to our Church and stand in line for Confession, we are like the woman stretching our hand out to be healed. Another hidden sacrament is the Anointing of the Sick. Both the woman and the little girl were healed by Christ’s touch. In the Anointing of the Sick, the priest touches the sick person on the forehead and hands with blessed oil and speaks words of healing (CCC 1513). Christ’s words are also instrumental, as they are in the absolution at the end of Confession. “by the priest’s sacramental absolution God grants the penitent ‘pardon and peace’” (CCC 1424). Jesus tells the woman, “Go in peace, and be healed.” In the sacraments, Christ himself touches and heals us. Do I truly believe that Christ heals me through his sacraments? Do I want to be transformed by the Kingdom of Christ?

Conversing with Christ: Jesus, I want to be healed in every way that I am broken so that I can give glory to you and serve you with a whole and pure heart. Help me reach out to you when I need to be healed physically, mentally, or spiritually. Heal me with the touch and words of your sacraments, especially in the Most Holy Eucharist and Reconciliation. Restore my life and transform me into my deepest identity as your child.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will examine my conscience and ask you to reveal what is in need of your healing. I will then make a plan to receive the sacrament of Reconciliation.

Carey Boyzuck is a wife, mother, freelance writer, and lay member of Regnum Christi. 

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!