Ask a Priest: “Is It OK to Have Non-Catholic Friends?”

Q: Most of my friends are non-Catholic, and some are non-Christian. I’m very open and upfront about being religious, so I don’t think there’s many cases where I’m forced to compromise my faith when I’m around them. They all respect the fact that I don’t have premarital sex or drink alcohol or curse, etc., and while some of them do partake in those activities, they know that I would not approve (I don’t harp on it unless directly asked for advice). They are all very kind people, and we do various hobbies together and have a lot of interests in common. I was wondering if having deep friendships like this with non-Catholics and non-Christians is OK or not from a Catholic standpoint. I’ve read some articles, and it seems that while there’s no prohibition or anything, it’s discouraged. I’d imagine this is probably because a lot of friendships like that put people in danger of sinning when around their friends, since their end goals aren’t aligned. I know that the most intimate form of friendship is between man and God, or between two believers who both seek to help each other grow in virtue. But is it possible for a Catholic to have a solid and deep friendship with a non-Catholic? — Kaitlyn

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC:

A: It’s great that you are open about your faith and that your friends understand and respect your views.

Part of our lives as Catholics is to share the faith with others and give witness by our example.

Some well-meaning people mistakenly think that we always need to keep our distance from others who don’t share our faith or who have no faith at all.

This isn’t how Jesus lived; he interacted with sinners and the marginalized. He went in search of the lost sheep.

If ever some of your friends might consider joining the Church, it might be in part because of what they see in you.

So, it’s OK to have friendships with people who don’t see 100% eye-to-eye with you.

That said, there are other things to keep in mind.

First, relationships and friendships can evolve, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.

You would need to step back occasionally and evaluate how you and your friends are influencing one another.

Do they seem to be growing in virtue? Are you growing in virtue?

Or do you perceive that you are getting more tolerant about the objectively sinful behavior of others? Are you becoming more open about your faith or less so?

In a word, are you helping to convert them? Or are they converting you to the ways of the world?

This is the kind of thing that needs to be gauged constantly.

A related consideration is, to borrow a phrase from economics, opportunity cost.

That is, when we decide to do or buy something, we are giving up the opportunity to do or buy something else.

If you spend Thursday nights watching movies with your non-Christian friends, for instance, you might be giving up the chance to attend Eucharistic adoration at your parish.

Or if you spend a Friday night socializing with three friends who happen to be in less-than-chaste relationships with their boyfriends, you might be giving up an opportunity to socializing with a young Catholic adults.

You get the idea.

One suggestion: Whatever you do, give yourself goals.

Look for things that help you go deeper into the faith. This could include prayer or study or Eucharistic adoration or even consciously trying to help a friend learn more about the Catholic faith.

Having such a goal will help you to stay aware of the need for constant growth in holiness.

For related reading, see my colleague Father Bartunek’s book Go! 30 Meditations on How Best to Love Your Neighbor as Yourself.

I hope that some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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April 3, 2026 – The Suffering Servant

Good Friday

 

John 18:1-40, 19:1-42

Jesus went out with his disciples across the Kidron valley to where there was a garden, into which he and his disciples entered. Judas his betrayer also knew the place, because Jesus had often met there with his disciples. So Judas got a band of soldiers and guards from the chief priests and the Pharisees and went there with lanterns, torches, and weapons. Jesus, knowing everything that was going to happen to him, went out and said to them, “Whom are you looking for?” They answered him, “Jesus the Nazorean.” He said to them, “I AM.” Judas his betrayer was also with them. When he said to them, “I AM, “ they turned away and fell to the ground. So he again asked them, “Whom are you looking for?” They said, “Jesus the Nazorean.” Jesus answered, “I told you that I AM. So if you are looking for me, let these men go.” This was to fulfill what he had said, “I have not lost any of those you gave me.” Then Simon Peter, who had a sword, drew it, struck the high priest’s slave, and cut off his right ear. The slave’s name was Malchus. Jesus said to Peter, “Put your sword into its scabbard. Shall I not drink the cup that the Father gave me?” So the band of soldiers, the tribune, and the Jewish guards seized Jesus, bound him, and brought him to Annas first. He was the father-in-law of Caiaphas, who was high priest that year. It was Caiaphas who had counseled the Jews that it was better that one man should die rather than the people. Simon Peter and another disciple followed Jesus. Now the other disciple was known to the high priest, and he entered the courtyard of the high priest with Jesus. But Peter stood at the gate outside. So the other disciple, the acquaintance of the high priest, went out and spoke to the gatekeeper and brought Peter in. Then the maid who was the gatekeeper said to Peter, “You are not one of this man’s disciples, are you?” He said, “I am not.” Now the slaves and the guards were standing around a charcoal fire that they had made, because it was cold, and were warming themselves. Peter was also standing there keeping warm. The high priest questioned Jesus about his disciples and about his doctrine. Jesus answered him, “I have spoken publicly to the world. I have always taught in a synagogue or in the temple area where all the Jews gather, and in secret I have said nothing. Why ask me? Ask those who heard me what I said to them. They know what I said.” When he had said this, one of the temple guards standing there struck Jesus and said, “Is this the way you answer the high priest?” Jesus answered him, “If I have spoken wrongly, testify to the wrong; but if I have spoken rightly, why do you strike me?” Then Annas sent him bound to Caiaphas the high priest. Now Simon Peter was standing there keeping warm. And they said to him, “You are not one of his disciples, are you?” He denied it and said, “I am not.” One of the slaves of the high priest, a relative of the one whose ear Peter had cut off, said, “Didn’t I see you in the garden with him?” Again Peter denied it. And immediately the cock crowed. Then they brought Jesus from Caiaphas to the praetorium. It was morning. And they themselves did not enter the praetorium, in order not to be defiled so that they could eat the Passover. So Pilate came out to them and said, “What charge do you bring against this man?” They answered and said to him, “If he were not a criminal, we would not have handed him over to you.” At this, Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves, and judge him according to your law.” The Jews answered him, “We do not have the right to execute anyone,” in order that the word of Jesus might be fulfilled that he said indicating the kind of death he would die. So Pilate went back into the praetorium and summoned Jesus and said to him, “Are you the King of the Jews?” Jesus answered, “Do you say this on your own or have others told you about me?” Pilate answered, “I am not a Jew, am I? Your own nation and the chief priests handed you over to me. What have you done?” Jesus answered, “My kingdom does not belong to this world. If my kingdom did belong to this world, my attendants would be fighting to keep me from being handed over to the Jews. But as it is, my kingdom is not here.” So Pilate said to him, “Then you are a king?” Jesus answered, “You say I am a king. For this I was born and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to my voice.” Pilate said to him, “What is truth?” When he had said this, he again went out to the Jews and said to them, “I find no guilt in him. But you have a custom that I release one prisoner to you at Passover. Do you want me to release to you the King of the Jews?” They cried out again, “Not this one but Barabbas!” Now Barabbas was a revolutionary. Then Pilate took Jesus and had him scourged. And the soldiers wove a crown out of thorns and placed it on his head, and clothed him in a purple cloak, and they came to him and said, “Hail, King of the Jews!” And they struck him repeatedly. Once more Pilate went out and said to them, “Look, I am bringing him out to you, so that you may know that I find no guilt in him.” So Jesus came out, wearing the crown of thorns and the purple cloak. And he said to them, “Behold, the man!” When the chief priests and the guards saw him they cried out, “Crucify him, crucify him!” Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves and crucify him. I find no guilt in him.” The Jews answered, “We have a law, and according to that law he ought to die, because he made himself the Son of God.” Now when Pilate heard this statement, he became even more afraid, and went back into the praetorium and said to Jesus, “Where are you from?” Jesus did not answer him. So Pilate said to him, “Do you not speak to me? Do you not know that I have power to release you and I have power to crucify you?” Jesus answered him, “You would have no power over me if it had not been given to you from above. For this reason the one who handed me over to you has the greater sin.” Consequently, Pilate tried to release him; but the Jews cried out, “If you release him, you are not a Friend of Caesar. Everyone who makes himself a king opposes Caesar.” When Pilate heard these words he brought Jesus out and seated him on the judge’s bench in the place called Stone Pavement, in Hebrew, Gabbatha. It was preparation day for Passover, and it was about noon. And he said to the Jews, “Behold, your king!” They cried out, “Take him away, take him away! Crucify him!” Pilate said to them, “Shall I crucify your king?” The chief priests answered, “We have no king but Caesar.” Then he handed him over to them to be crucified. So they took Jesus, and, carrying the cross himself, he went out to what is called the Place of the Skull, in Hebrew, Golgotha. There they crucified him, and with him two others, one on either side, with Jesus in the middle. Pilate also had an inscription written and put on the cross. It read, “Jesus the Nazorean, the King of the Jews.” Now many of the Jews read this inscription, because the place where Jesus was crucified was near the city; and it was written in Hebrew, Latin, and Greek. So the chief priests of the Jews said to Pilate, “Do not write ‘The King of the Jews,’ but that he said, ‘I am the King of the Jews’.” Pilate answered, “What I have written, I have written.” When the soldiers had crucified Jesus, they took his clothes and divided them into four shares, a share for each soldier. They also took his tunic, but the tunic was seamless, woven in one piece from the top down. So they said to one another, “Let’s not tear it, but cast lots for it to see whose it will be,” in order that the passage of Scripture might be fulfilled that says: They divided my garments among them, for my vesture they cast lots. This is what the soldiers did. Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary of Magdala. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son.” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother.” And from that hour the disciple took her into his home. After this, aware that everything was now finished, in order that the Scripture might be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I thirst.” There was a vessel filled with common wine. So they put a sponge soaked in wine on a sprig of hyssop and put it up to his mouth. When Jesus had taken the wine, he said, “It is finished.” And bowing his head, he handed over the spirit. Now since it was preparation day, in order that the bodies might not remain on the cross on the sabbath, for the sabbath day of that week was a solemn one, the Jews asked Pilate that their legs be broken and that they be taken down. So the soldiers came and broke the legs of the first and then of the other one who was crucified with Jesus. But when they came to Jesus and saw that he was already dead, they did not break his legs, but one soldier thrust his lance into his side, and immediately blood and water flowed out. An eyewitness has testified, and his testimony is true; he knows that he is speaking the truth, so that you also may come to believe. For this happened so that the Scripture passage might be fulfilled: Not a bone of it will be broken. And again another passage says: They will look upon him whom they have pierced. After this, Joseph of Arimathea, secretly a disciple of Jesus for fear of the Jews, asked Pilate if he could remove the body of Jesus. And Pilate permitted it. So he came and took his body. Nicodemus, the one who had first come to him at night, also came bringing a mixture of myrrh and aloes weighing about one hundred pounds. They took the body of Jesus and bound it with burial cloths along with the spices, according to the Jewish burial custom. Now in the place where he had been crucified there was a garden, and in the garden a new tomb, in which no one had yet been buried. So they laid Jesus there because of the Jewish preparation day; for the tomb was close by. 

Opening Prayer: Jesus, who died on the Cross for me, have mercy on me, a sinner. Your Passion and Death overwhelm me with grief and sorrow for my sins. Grant me the grace to hear and respond to your word.

Encountering Christ:

  1. The New Adam: Jesus our Savior has died for us. In his life and death, he became the new Adam. In the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus began to undo Adam’s original sin in the Garden of Eden. There Jesus bore the punishment God gave to Adam, who was cursed to toil by the sweat of his brow (cf. Gen 3:19). Jesus toiled and sweat until he bled: “He was in such agony and he prayed so fervently that his sweat became like drops of blood falling on the ground” (Lk 22:44). The thorns that the ground yielded because of Adam’s sin (cf. Gen 3:18) rose up to crown Jesus’ head in mockery. Finally, Jesus destroyed the eternal punishment for our sins, starting with the first sin when our first parents ate the fruit of the forbidden tree. Christ Our Lord became sin itself, hanging on a tree in a garden (cf. 2 Cor 5:21).

     

  2. Lamb of God: There on the Cross, Jesus reigns as our King. Throughout his Passion, he was interrogated, mocked, scourged, and vilified. The soldiers crowned him with thorns and wrapped him in a purple robe of nobility to mock him, but just as Isaiah prophesied, Jesus, the Suffering Servant, was meek and endured their abuse: “Though harshly treated, he submitted and did not open his mouth; Like a lamb led to slaughter or a sheep silent before shearers, he did not open his mouth” (Isa 53:7). Jesus, led like a lamb to slaughter, became our Paschal Lamb.

     

  3. Signs of Mercy: Christ’s final words from the Cross were a proclamation of his victory: “It is finished” (Jn 19:30). His mission of salvation through his Passion and Death was complete. Jesus, the Suffering Servant, “was pierced for our sins, crushed for our iniquity. He bore the punishment that makes us whole, by his wounds we were healed” (Isa 53:5). Immediately after he handed over his spirit, he was pierced, and the signs of God’s Divine Mercy were released: “One soldier thrust his lance into his side, and immediately blood and water flowed out” (Jn 19:34). Just as Adam’s bride was taken from a rib from his side during a deep sleep (cf. Gen 2:21-22), the bride of Christ—the Church—was born from the Blood of the new covenant and the waters of Baptism that gushed from his side when he was in the deep sleep of death.

Conversing with Christ: Jesus, today we roll the stone across your tomb. Grant us the courage to be stouthearted and wait, facing your tomb in the hope of your Resurrection and our salvation. Thank you for coming to save us and for dying for our sins in our place. Help us, your Church, to be your sign of mercy in the world.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will conduct today’s fast and abstinence with prayerfulness, reverence, and contrition.

Carey Boyzuck is a wife, mother, freelance writer, and a lay member of Regnum Christi. She blogs at www.word-life-light.com.

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St Francis of Paola

Dear Frank, I am delighted that your report cards make your parents proud.  But I am worried that they might be making you proud as well. It’s OK for your parents to be proud of you (as long as they remember that you were created by God through their cooperation, not the other way around), but for you to be proud of you – that could be dangerous.  Of course, if God gave you smarts, you are wise to develop them – “to whom much is given much will be asked,” as the Good Book (that’s the Bible, by the way) says. But you would be foolish to think yourself great because of them. After all, they are not really yours; they are God’s.  He gave them to you. He could just as easily have made you dense. And if he gave them to you, any greatness they produce belongs to him, not to you. Your greatness ought to be in your humility, in your self-control, in putting your talents to work for the Kingdom of Christ… Virtues, my bright little nephew, Christian virtues: not even a 5.0 grade point average can make up for their absence, but they can make up for anything.  You would do well to consider the example of your namesake, St Francis of Paola. (Happy saint’s day, by the way.) He went off to be a hermit when he was 15 (in a cave on the coast of Calabria, Italy – you know, the “toe” of the “boot”), and never had more than the most rudimentary education. Nevertheless, his fame for miracles spread far and wide, such that King Louis XI asked the Pope to send St Francis to cure him from a deadly disease; and during his stay he so impressed the courtiers with his wisdom that the most learned men vied to be his disciples.  (He didn’t cure the king’s disease, but he did bring the king back into communion with God before he died – in St Francis’s arms.) So if you would be truly wise, my bright little nephew, remember that the report card we get at the very end matters most, and in the meantime, don’t let your grades go to your head. Hopes and prayers, Uncle Eddy

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40 Days to Peace and Union with God: Day 44 – The Final Lesson

“ ‘Consider well,’ he says to us, ‘that in loving I was first. You had not yet come forth into the light, not even the world itself had come into existence, when already I was loving you. Throughout my eternal existence I have loved you.’ ”

READ: JOHN 13:1–20

It was before the festival of the Passover, and Jesus knew that the hour had come for him to pass from this world to the Father. He had always loved those who were his in the world, but now he showed how perfect his love was. They were at supper, and the devil had already put it into the mind of Judas Iscariot son of Simon, to betray him. Jesus knew that the Father had put everything into his hands, and that he had come from God and was returning to God, and he got up from table, removed his outer garment and, taking a towel, wrapped it round his waist; he then poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel he was wearing. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, are you going to wash my feet?” Jesus answered, “At the moment you do not know what I am doing, but later you will understand.” “Never!” said Peter. “You shall never wash my feet.” Jesus replied, “If I do not wash you, you can have nothing in common with me.” “Then, Lord,” said Simon Peter, “not only my feet, but my hands and my head as well!” Jesus said, “No one who has taken a bath needs washing, he is clean all over. You too are clean, though not all of you are.” He knew who was going to betray him, that was why he said, “Though not all of you are.” When he had washed their feet and put on his clothes again he went back to the table. “Do you understand,” he said, “what I have done to you? You call me Master and Lord, and rightly; so I am. If I, then, the Lord and Master, have washed your feet, you should wash each other’s feet. I have given you an example so that you may copy what I have done to you. I tell you most solemnly, no servant is greater than his master, no messenger is greater than the man who sent him. Now that you know this, happiness will be yours if you behave accordingly. I am not speaking about all of you: I know the ones I have chosen; but what scripture says must be fulfilled: Someone who shares my table rebels against me. I tell you this now, before it happens, so that when it does happen you may believe that I am He. I tell you most solemnly, whoever welcomes the one I send welcomes me, and whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me.”

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REFLECT

Judas was still at the Last Supper at this point. He had already decided to follow through with his plan of betrayal, but he had not yet left to set it in motion. What was in Jesus’ mind when He came to Judas, poured water over his feet, and began to wash them? As Jesus finished drying Judas’s feet with the towel, and as He laced up the sandals again, He looked into Judas’s face and caught his eye. Jesus hadn’t given up on him. Jesus never gives up on us; He is the ever-faithful friend. The tragedy is that we are the ones who sometimes give up on Him.

Judas: I was more disgusted than ever at this repellent display of weakness. It confirmed yet again all my suspicions: this man had come not to restore Israel to its glory but to enervate it and despoil it. I wanted nothing to do with such an imposter, such a weak dreamer. I have to admit, though, that when He looked up at me — well, it made me think of the first time we met, when I heard Him speaking in the Temple and my heart surged with hope. He had looked at me then too, and I seemed to see in His eyes all the strength and wisdom and life that I knew existed somewhere but hadn’t been able to find. He invited me to come with Him then, and I couldn’t resist. I had never been moved like that before. And then there were the miracles, and the huge crowds, and His mastery over the Pharisees. It was all so promising, and I could even taste victory just around the corner. But He never took the final step. And then He started talking about the cross. The others ignored it, but I knew He was serious. And how could a crucified rabbi be the Messiah? How could weakness reclaim our glory? That last night, for a split second after He replaced my sandals, it occurred to me that maybe there was more to it than I understood. But then I looked at Him again, wrapped in that towel like a slave, washing my feet. It was repugnant. Peter was right — who would ever let a real Messiah sink so low as to wash our feet? But Peter was weak too; he caved in. I could never serve a Lord like that.

RESPOND

I glory in being able to call You Lord. I know that there is order in the universe. I know that my life has purpose. I know that the world is safe in Your hands and history is marching forward according to a law of hidden progress, surely guided by Your invincible providence. Jesus, my Lord, my Master! Here is my life. I put it at Your feet and at Your service. I offer myself to You.

So many items are on my to-do list. I have so many plans and hopes. I want to do so much for You, Lord. But in the midst of my programs and activities, I too often forget about the only law of Your Kingdom: I am to wash my neighbors’ feet. Only there will I ever find the happiness You intend for me. I must learn self-forgetful love. And each day, You provide so many chances for me to give myself in this way! Give me courage.

REST

You have washed my feet so often, Lord. Every time I go to Confession, You humble Yourself and wash my feet. Thank You for washing Judas’s feet. I am like Judas. Have I not betrayed You at times? You knew I would; You knew my heart as You washed my feet. A Judas is within me; don’t let me forget. As soon as I forget it, I will follow his example. Make me faithful, Lord; never let me be separated from You, never.

RESOLVE

How can I carry this encounter with me into the day? (Write / Journal)

CLOSING PRAYER OF THANKSGIVING

Most Blessed and Holy Trinity, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, thank You for Your love and Your grace in allowing me this time of prayer with You.

The world, the flesh, and the devil will all propose things I should focus on and run after today. I beg You to fill me with Your Holy Spirit and help me instead to know and embrace Your will. Help me to see what You desire of me each moment of this day. Give me the wisdom, strength, and fortitude I need to avoid distractions, discern Your will, and focus on and carry out that which Wisdom reveals. Help me to work and live at a pace of peace and prayerfulness, always attentive to You, able to hear Your voice and to say no to anything that hinders my journey to You and a complete yes to every Holy prompting from You.

Help me to humbly and purposefully live, light, and lead others to the path of union with You and to tell everyone about this way of life. Amen.

About the Author

Bartunek-headshotFr. John Bartunek was ordained in 2003. He has taught moral theology at various ecclesiastical institutions at the graduate and undergraduate levels, and has authored many books, including the Gospel companion, The Better Part, and Inside the Passion, the only authorized behind-the-scenes look at the film, for which he provided on-set spiritual support. His online retreat guides are available in multiple formats at RCSpirituality.org. Fr. John currently resides in Atlanta, where he is serving as territorial vicar for the Legionaries of Christ.

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April 2, 2026 – The Washing of the Feet

Holy Thursday

 

John 13:1-15

Before the feast of Passover, Jesus knew that his hour had come to pass from this world to the Father. He loved his own in the world and he loved them to the end. The devil had already induced Judas, son of Simon the Iscariot, to hand him over. So, during supper, fully aware that the Father had put everything into his power and that he had come from God and was returning to God, he rose from supper and took off his outer garments. He took a towel and tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and dry them with the towel around his waist. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Master, are you going to wash my feet?” Jesus answered and said to him, “What I am doing, you do not understand now, but you will understand later.” Peter said to him, “You will never wash my feet.” Jesus answered him, “Unless I wash you, you will have no inheritance with me.” Simon Peter said to him, “Master, then not only my feet, but my hands and head as well.” Jesus said to him, “Whoever has bathed has no need except to have his feet washed, for he is clean all over; so you are clean, but not all.” For he knew who would betray him; for this reason, he said, “Not all of you are clean.” So when he had washed their feet and put his garments back on and reclined at table again, he said to them, “Do you realize what I have done for you? You call me ‘teacher’ and ‘master,’ and rightly so, for indeed I am. If I, therefore, the master and teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash one another’s feet. I have given you a model to follow, so that as I have done for you, you should also do.”

Opening Prayer: Dear Jesus, help me to realize what you have done for me by washing the disciples’ feet. Help me to accept your love and then humbly pour that love out to others.

Encountering Christ:

  1. Let Jesus Wash Your Feet: Jesus washed his disciples’ feet as a sign of love and service, and as an outward sign of their cleansing. When Peter refused to let Christ wash his feet, Jesus said, “Unless I wash you, you will have no inheritance with me” (Jn 13:8). Let’s face it, our feet can sometimes be unpleasant. Here, Jesus calls us to be vulnerable and allow him to love us by washing our feet. Let us be humble so that we can show him the ugliest, most unpleasant parts of our lives. Let him gently hold, cleanse, and restore the parts of ourselves that we want to hide from the world. Let us offer him our shame, failures, and faults so that he can redeem them. If we are to be Jesus’ disciples, we must allow him to wash our feet.

     

  2. Imitating Christ: In Jesus’ time, washing people’s feet was usually a task for the lowliest of servants. Jesus exhorted his disciples to wash one another’s feet (cf. Jn 13:14). We are called to imitate Christ and serve one another in the same way. May we seek to humbly serve others in Christ’s name. Let us search for the face of Christ in all people, so that when we serve others, we fulfill God’s command to love him by loving our neighbors: “Whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me” (Mt 25:40). If we are to be Jesus’ disciples, we must wash each others’ feet.

     

  3. Gracious Receptivity: If we are to wash one another’s feet, that means sometimes we will be the ones receiving the foot washing. Are we too prideful to allow others to minister to us? Let us seek to humble ourselves and allow others to help us in our daily struggles. May we give others the honor of serving Christ in us. We can practice this by doing small things, such as receiving compliments graciously, accepting others’ offers of help with gratitude, or asking friends to pray for us when we are in need. If we are to be Jesus’ disciples, we must allow others to wash our feet.

Conversing with Christ: Jesus, please wash my feet. I offer you my faults, failures, hurts, anxieties, and sins. Dear Lord, please redeem these parts of me. I am ashamed of them, but I trust in your tender mercy and love. Help me to wash other people’s feet through my humble service to them. Finally, grant me the humility to allow other people the honor of ministering to me when I am in need.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will take on humble or unpleasant tasks willingly out of love for you and others.

Carey Boyzuck is a wife, mother, freelance writer, and a lay member of Regnum Christi. She blogs at www.word-life-light.com.

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The laity are “living stones in the Church and witnesses in the world.”: Pope Leo’s Words Today

The laity are “living stones in the Church and witnesses in the world.”

In this week’s Wednesday audience, Pope Leo XIV continues his catechesis on the Second Vatican Council and ‘Lumen gentium,’ reflecting on the identity of the laity.

The laity are not simply those who are not part of the clergy or the consecrated life—they are the body of Christ. By virtue of baptism, the lay faithful participate in the priesthood of Christ.

The mission of the laity is not confined to the Church, but extends to the world—in the workplace, in civil society, in all human relationships—wherever they, through their choices, show the beauty of Christian life.

“The world needs to ‘be permeated by the spirit of Christ, and more effectively fulfill its purpose in justice, charity, and peace.’ And this is possible only through the contribution, service, and witness of the laity!”

To read more of Pope Leo XIV’s General Audience reflection, click here.

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St Melito

Dear Mel, Your recent postcard made me think of today’s saint, St Melito, bishop of Sardis (not Sardis, Ohio, mind you, but Sardis, Germany).  We barely know anything at all about the poor fellow. He died around 180 (we don’t know how), so I guess we can assume that he lived back then as well.  Supposedly he wrote a lot of wonderful works on the faith, but none have survived the long excursion through time. We only know one thing for sure about him: he wrote an explanation of Christianity and sent it to the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius (the same fellow who dies at the beginning of “The Gladiator”).  That’s why your postcard card reminded me of him. A lot of people spend Spring Break at the beach (lovely choice of photograph on the postcard, by the way – the dark gold of the sand and the bright gold of the sunset contrast powerfully with the deep blue of the ocean; I commend your taste), but very few spend it EVANGELIZING at the beach.  Just as St Melito’s attempt to convert the Emperor seems a bit naïve, so might your attempt to bring Christ’s light into the darkened, hung-over heads of your peers. But we still remember St Melito for his bold and courageous faith, and God will certainly not forget you for yours. Ciao. Uncle Eddy.

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40 Days to Peace and Union with God: Day 43 – The Taste of Love

“I am the same under each of the species, but not every soul receives me with the same living faith as you do, my daughter, and therefore I cannot act in their souls as I do in yours.”

READ: MATTHEW 26:17–35

Now on the first day of Unleavened Bread the disciples came to Jesus to say, “Where do you want us to make the preparations for you to eat the passover?” “Go to a certain man in the city,” he replied, “and say to him, ‘The Master says: My time is near. It is at your house that I am keeping Passover with my disciples.’” The disciples did what Jesus told them and prepared the Passover. When evening came he was at table with the twelve disciples. And while they were eating he said, “I tell you solemnly, one of you is about to betray me.” They were greatly distressed and started asking him in turn, “Not I, Lord, surely?” He answered, “Someone who has dipped his hand into the dish with me, will betray me. The Son of Man is going to his fate, as the scriptures say he will, but alas for that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed! Better for that man if he had never been born!” Judas, who was to betray him; asked in his turn, “Not I, Rabbi, surely?” “They are your own words,” answered Jesus.

Now as they were eating, Jesus took some bread, and when he had said the blessing he broke it and gave it to the disciples. “Take it and eat,” he said, “this is my body.” Then he took a cup, and when he had returned thanks he gave it to them. “Drink all of you from this,” he said, “for this is my blood, the blood of the covenant, which is to be poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins. From now on, I tell you, I shall not drink wine until the day I drink the new wine with you in the kingdom of my Father.” After psalms had been sung they left for the Mount of Olives.

Then Jesus said to them, “You will all lose faith in me this night, for the scripture says: I shall strike the shepherd and the sheep of the flock will be scattered, but after my resurrection I shall go before you to Galilee.” At this, Peter said, “Though all lose faith in you, I will never lose faith.” Jesus answered him, “I tell you solemnly, this very night, before the cock crows, you will have disowned me three times.” Peter said to him, “Even if I have to die with you, I will never disown you.” And all the disciples said the same.

YOUR THREE-STEP GUIDE TO DAILY MENTAL PRAYER

REFLECT

When Jesus and His disciples celebrate this first Eucharist, the New Covenant is established. In the biblical context, a covenant is a family bond, a mutual commitment that links two parties so that they become one thing. Marriage, for example, is a covenant. God’s promise to Abraham is a covenant. In establishing the New Covenant, Jesus abrogates the Mosaic Covenant, which was written on stone tablets, and fulfills Jeremiah’s prophecy that after Israel’s infidelity to the Old Covenant, God would make a new one — deeper, everlasting, and written on His people’s hearts (see Jer. 31:31). How curious it is that St. Matthew locates the establishment of this everlasting covenant right between two predictions of betrayal, Judas’s and Peter’s. Jesus is willing to commit Himself to us, body and soul; He offers us His undying fidelity, even knowing we will betray Him. When He predicts the betrayals, we can hear the sadness in His voice; dipping into the same dish was a sign of close friendship, and that is how Jesus describes His betrayer, as someone close to Him, someone trusted by Him. And yet He wants His disciples to realize that He knows what will happen, so that later they will reflect on it, seeing that He loves them no matter what, even knowing their weakness. He wants to remove even the last speck of doubt from our hearts: in Christ, we have found an undying, untiring love, the firmest of anchors in the stormy sea of life.

RESPOND

Will I abandon You too, Lord? You know that I already have. So many times I have failed to trust You, I have ignored Your voice speaking in the depths of my soul. I am weak, Lord, and I am inconsistent. Be my rock; be my shield! With the fortitude of Your heart, strengthen my heart.

Your generosity humbles me, Lord! Do I deserve the great gift You give me in the Eucharist? Do I deserve the forgiveness You offer me, even before I am aware of all my sins? Do I deserve Your friendship, which You promise never to take back, even if I betray You? Do I deserve to be permitted just to speak Your Holy Name, the name that says everything? Jesus: “God saves.” Lord Jesus, have mercy on me.

REST

I cannot receive You in the Blessed Sacrament right now, but at least come into my heart. Come to me, my Lord, and make me like You. You give without counting the cost. You love and forgive without ever demanding Your rights. I am so slow to give, so reluctant to forgive. But I know that with You I can do all things. Jesus, I trust in You.

RESOLVE

How can I carry this encounter with me into the day? (Write / Journal)

CLOSING PRAYER OF THANKSGIVING

Most Blessed and Holy Trinity, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, thank You for Your love and Your grace in allowing me this time of prayer with You.

The world, the flesh, and the devil will all propose things I should focus on and run after today. I beg You to fill me with Your Holy Spirit and help me instead to know and embrace Your will. Help me to see what You desire of me each moment of this day. Give me the wisdom, strength, and fortitude I need to avoid distractions, discern Your will, and focus on and carry out that which Wisdom reveals. Help me to work and live at a pace of peace and prayerfulness, always attentive to You, able to hear Your voice and to say no to anything that hinders my journey to You and a complete yes to every Holy prompting from You.

Help me to humbly and purposefully live, light, and lead others to the path of union with You and to tell everyone about this way of life. Amen.

About the Author

Bartunek-headshotFr. John Bartunek was ordained in 2003. He has taught moral theology at various ecclesiastical institutions at the graduate and undergraduate levels, and has authored many books, including the Gospel companion, The Better Part, and Inside the Passion, the only authorized behind-the-scenes look at the film, for which he provided on-set spiritual support. His online retreat guides are available in multiple formats at RCSpirituality.org. Fr. John currently resides in Atlanta, where he is serving as territorial vicar for the Legionaries of Christ.

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April 1, 2026 – The Tragedy of Judas

Wednesday of Holy Week

 

Matthew 26:14-25

One of the Twelve, who was called Judas Iscariot, went to the chief priests and said, “What are you willing to give me if I hand him over to you?” They paid him thirty pieces of silver, and from that time on he looked for an opportunity to hand him over. On the first day of the Feast of Unleavened Bread, the disciples approached Jesus and said, “Where do you want us to prepare for you to eat the Passover?” He said, “Go into the city to a certain man and tell him, ‘The teacher says, “My appointed time draws near; in your house I shall celebrate the Passover with my disciples.”’” The disciples then did as Jesus had ordered, and prepared the Passover. When it was evening, he reclined at table with the Twelve. And while they were eating, he said, “Amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.” Deeply distressed at this, they began to say to him one after another, “Surely it is not I, Lord?” He said in reply, “He who has dipped his hand into the dish with me is the one who will betray me. The Son of Man indeed goes, as it is written of him, but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed. It would be better for that man if he had never been born.” Then Judas, his betrayer, said in reply, “Surely it is not I, Rabbi?” He answered, “You have said so.”

Opening Prayer: Jesus, I am filled with sadness when I remember how Judas betrayed you. I’m sorry for all the times when my own sins have caused you pain. Help me to trust in your Divine Mercy when I fall and come to you with a contrite heart.

Encountering Christ:

  1. The Wages of Sin: Judas was called to be an Apostle, one of Christ’s chosen Twelve. What a tragedy that a man who was so close to Christ became his betrayer. Judas looked to gain something from his relationship with Christ: “What are you willing to give me if I hand him over to you?” (Mt 26:15). Sin causes us to trade our most priceless gift—everlasting life—for fleeting pleasures. In the end, Judas got thirty pieces of silver, such a pittance for the Son of Man. As St. Paul asks, “What profit did you get then from the things of which you are now ashamed? […] For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom 6:21, 23). What do we want to gain from our relationship with Christ? Are the things we do meant to build up his kingdom in thanksgiving for the gift of everlasting life, or are they for our own glory?

     

  2. Denial and Despair: Judas answered Jesus’ question about who would betray him with a deceitful question: “Surely it is not I, Rabbi?” (Mt 26:25). Judas is clearly lying here, but could he also be in denial about his betrayal? Later Judas despaired for his sin, and he committed suicide (cf. Mt 27:5). Denial and despair can be common reactions when we realize the gravity of our sin. The greatest tragedy of Judas was that he forgot God’s merciful love. St. John Paul II wrote, “Mercy is the greatest of the attributes and perfections of God” (Dives in Misericordia,13). When we have sinned, may we always look to God’s mercy in the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

     

  3. The Hour of Divine Mercy: Jesus announced, “My appointed time draws near” (Mt 26:18). The hour of his Divine Mercy was approaching. It was the hour of his Passion and Death on the Cross when he fulfilled his mission of salvation for all who believe in him (cf. Rom 10:9-11). The holiest days of the year, the Easter Triduum, draw near. Let us prepare our hearts to enter into the mystery of our King and Savior’s hour. May we honor his most merciful gift to us: his life that he gave “as a ransom for many” (Mk 10:45).

Conversing with Christ: O my Jesus, I marvel at your mercy. You, for whom all things were made, gave us everything because of your immense love for us. I am struck with wonder and gratitude. Please help me to trust in your Divine Mercy.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will plan to go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation this week if I have not already done so during Lent.

Carey Boyzuck is a wife, mother, freelance writer, and a lay member of Regnum Christi. She blogs at www.word-life-light.com.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!