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“Ask a Priest: How Do We Know the Compilers of the Bible Got It Right?”

Q: I came across a couple of things I wanted a Catholic perspective on. I couldn’t ask these questions from anyone in my parish or Catholic friends, for fear of judgment. Here are my questions: 1) How do we know the compilers of the Bible were right for excluding some books but including others? 2) “It doesn’t matter how depressing it is that there’s no God, or how sad/depressed atheists are … that doesn’t mean there’s actually a God.” Do you agree with this? Is religion only a “fairy tale for people afraid of the dark,” as one prominent scientist says? 3) Is God personal or impersonal? Why? 4) Can God change his nature? 5) Why do good people, devout Catholics even, get severe depression? If they are devout, shouldn’t the Holy Spirit bring them ultimate joy? One that overcomes depression? In that line of thinking, why, theologically, does severe depression even exist? -C.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: You seem to be doing a lot of thinking lately! An answer to one of these questions could fill a book. But perhaps a few brief responses can point in the right direction.

1) We accept the Bible and its contents based on faith, and that is based on a belief that the Holy Spirit was guiding the whole process. For there is no way to prove that the compilers got it right. The Bible is too complex, and even contradictory in parts, to lend itself to “proofs.”

2) Some religions, indeed, might be little more than fairy tales. Christianity is not among them. There is too much in Christianity that goes way beyond the imagination of the people who first embraced it and preached it; in fact, it shows all the signs of being from Someone way above us. Simple humans wouldn’t have dreamt up the notion of the Trinity, for instance, which is the core mystery of the Christian faith. At any rate there seems to be something buried deep within each of us that looks for beauty, truth, love. We are restless until we find them. St. Augustine said that our hearts were made for God and that they are restless until they rest in him. And that is fitting, since God is ultimate beauty, truth, love.

3) God is personal all right. In fact, he is three Persons (or subsistent relations, in theological terms). But he is one God, one divine essence. We can think of God as a community of love between three divine Persons from all eternity.

4) God is infinitely perfect in himself. Change is impossible in God because change implies imperfection. God can’t change his nature because that would involve a contradiction.

5) Being a devout Catholic doesn’t necessarily spare anyone from pain and suffering. Even Jesus, who is God, suffered as a man. Theologically, depression, like physical illness, exists because we have a damaged human nature. This is a fallout of the sin of Adam. This, too, is a mystery, but one whose manifestations are plain to see.

Two books you might find helpful are Frank Sheed’s Theology and Sanity and Theology for Beginners, both available at Amazon and for Kindle.

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“Ask a Priest: How Can I Overcome a Habit of Lying?”

 
Q: I am fighting an ongoing battle with a habitual sin: lying. Since I can remember, I have lied about even the littlest things: to make myself seem more interesting, to engage in conversation … most of the time I do not even know why I do so. I am not sure what to do about it anymore, and I need some spiritual direction. I have recently become very serious about walking the narrow path to Christ through my newfound Catholic faith. But, my habit of lying is getting in the way. I know that it separates me from God, even when it is venial, yet I often feel the need to run to the confessional after I do so. For instance, today, I called out of work and lied to my boss telling her I was ill, just so I could stay home and get things done around the house. I knew it was wrong, but I did it anyway, because I did not want to suffer. Please, how can I overcome this? Where do I start? A.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good to hear that you want to walk the path toward Christ. He is ultimately the only one who can give you happiness; he is the one worth living for.

From what you describe, it sounds as if you are wrestling with the root sin of vanity.

We all have a root sin – be it pride, vanity or sensuality. Most of us wrestle with all three sins, but there is usually one that predominates.

Vanity is basically when we care more about winning the approval of others rather than doing God’s will. Vanity arises from insecurity. We worry whether people will like us, what they think of us, whether they think we are “cool.”

We can end up living on the surface, overly concerned about our appearance, willing to lie to make ourselves look good.

The result is that, deep down, we know that we aren’t being authentic. This feeds the problem, because we end up fearing that nobody would love us if they knew the “real me.” This feeds the insecurity, which in turn feeds the vanity. A vicious cycle.

You might consider four steps to vanquish vanity:

1) Work on purity of intention. That is, try to purify your motives; do the right thing because it pleases God, not because you win get an immediate reward. One way to do that is to treat everyone well, no matter how they respond or no matter how unappealing they are at a human level.

2) A corollary: Learn to see Christ in others, and then love Christ in others. “I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink” (Matthew 25:35). This is a powerful way to walk the path of Christ, because real love for him translates into love for neighbor.

3) Learn to admit mistakes quickly and humbly. This might be difficult at first, but you will sleep better, knowing that you deal honestly with people. Honesty also will endear you to people — they will love you more, not less, for your humility.

4) Make time for prayer and the sacraments. It would be helpful to make confession a regular part of life. If you can find a good regular confessor, all the better.

There is a deeper step that you want to consider, too. And that is to face the reason for your insecurity.

Here you want to remind yourself that your core identity is that you are a beloved daughter of God. So much loved are you that Jesus was willing to die on a cross for you. That kind of love should satisfy your deepest cravings.

Perhaps spending some time in front of the Blessed Sacrament would help. Being in the presence of Our Lord will help you understand his closeness to you, at all levels.

(For more reading see my article and my colleague Father Bartunek’s article. For a book suggestion, Navigating the Interior Life by Dan Burke would be helpful.)

I hope some of this helps.

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“Ask a Priest: Why Does St. Paul Seem so Sexist in 1 Timothy 2?”

Q: I came upon 1 Timothy 2:8-15 where it talks about women and men praying in church. It says, “Women should learn in silence and all humility. I do not allow them to teach or to have authority over men; they must keep quiet. For Adam was created first, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and broke God’s law. But a woman will be saved through having children, if she perseveres in faith and love and holiness, with modesty.” I have several questions about this segment. How come it details that women should learn in silence but not that men should? Why should women not teach or have authority over men? Yes, Eve broke God’s law, but then Adam broke God’s law too. Adam sinned just as Eve did, so why is it implying that Eve was the lone sinner and that Adam was innocent? If a woman does not have children, does that mean that she won’t be saved? Did Jesus endorse these verses, or are they solely Paul’s opinions? These verses are showing gender biases, which I thought Jesus had come to abolish. Why are such biased (sexist) things said in this segment? Thank you so much if you would reply, I appreciate your time! -R.R.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: That’s a good question! There is good reason to think that 1 Timothy 2 is a response to a rather particular cultural situation in parts of the Roman Empire during the first century, and is not meant to outline universal norms valid for today. Scholars have identified two situations particular to Paul’s era that can help explain why he wrote these instructions to the church in Ephesus, and why they don’t necessarily apply today.

The first was the “new women” movement. Ephesus, where Timothy lived, was a very rich city, and in the first century there was a movement among upper-class women called the “new women” movement. This movement in some ways was positive, promoting women’s role in the public sphere, for example. But most texts that we have about the movement emphasize that it promoted things such as abortion, sexual promiscuity and permissive clothing.

The movement came to be strongly associated in public opinion with promiscuity and licentiousness. The negative perception of the movement was widespread enough that the Roman Empire even legislated against the movement.

In 1 Timothy 2:9-10, Paul describes how women should “adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness – with good works.” This is the exact opposite of how the “new women” were seen in Roman society, and indicates that Paul’s instructions should be understood as a response to that movement. He doesn’t want the church in Ephesus to become associated with a movement that is widely thought to promote promiscuity and bad morals.

The second situation is the physical space of the churches of that time. 1 Corinthians 14:23 imagines an unbeliever simply walking in on a Christian worship service. That was because the worship services took place in the reception or atrium areas of larger homes, which were considered public areas open to all. In 1 Corinthians 14:23, Paul is worried about that someone will walk in on a worship service while a Christian is speaking in tongues and think that Christians are crazy. This could then make it more unlikely that person could come to know Christ. So, Paul tells the Corinthians to be careful to avoid these situations.

A similar worry might be present in 1 Timothy 2. In the particular situation of Roman society at that time, women speaking in public was associated with the “new women” movement. Paul is worried about given scandal and becoming associated with that movement. In a situation in which the church is still very small – very much “outsiders” – Paul knows that becoming associated with the “new women” movement might seriously damage the possibility of sharing the faith with others in Ephesus who could get the wrong impression about Christians.

While Paul’s indications were valid only for a specific historical and cultural moment, there is a deeper message that is valid for all times and places. It is expressed well by Paul when he says, “I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some.”

An analogous situation at times occurs today for Christians living in Muslim countries, where Christian women oftentimes wear the hijab because it is what is expected by women in their culture. Doing so doesn’t mean that they agree with it, but is rather a recognition that adapting to cultural norms is sometimes necessary – even if we might try to work to change them long-term. As long as what the cultural norm asks us to do is not evil, this can be permitted. [Answered by Father Devin Roza, L.C., author of Fulfilled in Christ: The Sacraments. A Guide to Symbols and Types in the Bible and Tradition].

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Miracles of Mercy | A Retreat Guide On The Healing Touch of Jesus with Fr. John Bartunek, LC

Miracles of Mercy: A Retreat Guide on the Healing Touch of Jesus

When was the last time you reflected deeply, even meditated, on one of Jesus’ miracles? He performed an awful lot of them. Thirty-four are recorded in the Gospels. And St. John tells us that those are just a small percentage of the total. He writes:

“There are also many other things that Jesus did, but if these were to be described individually, I do not think the whole world would contain the books that would be written.” —John 21:25

If Jesus performed so many miracles, there must have been a reason. God must have something to say to us through all these miraculous deeds. What is the message behind these miracles? That’s the question that this Retreat Guide, Miracles of Mercy: A Retreat Guide on the Healing Touch of Jesus, will explore.

  • In the First Meditation we will look at two of Jesus’ miracles and see how they reveal God’s power and his love. In other words, they show that he not only is able to heal us, but he also wants to.
  • In the Second Meditation, we will reflect on a different event to see how all of Jesus’ miracles are also signs meant to point our attention towards our true destiny.
  • And in the Conference, we will see how we ourselves can become better and better living signs of God’s mercy, living miracles, as it were, by understanding and taming the emotion of anger. Let’s begin by quieting our hearts and turning our attention once again to the Lord, who never stops paying attention to us.

Let’s ask him for all the graces we need, most especially the grace to experience a fresh, through this Retreat Guide on Christ’s miracles of mercy, the healing touch of Jesus.

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“Ask a Priest: What If I Feel Exhausted Trying to Speak Up for Religion?”

Q: I’ve run into a bit of a wall with my faith. I can’t even in good conscience wear my cross around my neck anymore. My specific problem is not doubt of God’s existence, but rather it’s a sense of exhaustion. So many times I’ve spoken up for faith, not just Christianity but all faiths. Time and again I’ve been called to say something in defense of the concept of religion and religious people in general. More and more I feel outnumbered. More and more it seems like my eventual children will grow up in a world where churches and temples are naught but museums. I now am struggling to even still call myself religious because it seems like nothing I say can change anyone’s mind. I need counsel, a reason to keep this belief in my heart when all I can feel is loneliness and pain. Thank you for your time in reading this. -A.C.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is understandable if you feel a bit beaten down by the world. The West has been drifting into secularism for centuries, and that trend is unlikely to do a U-turn anytime soon. This is a moment to recall those words of Jesus, “In the world you will have trouble, but take courage, I have conquered the world” (John 16:33).

This is also a moment when Christian witness is even more important. This is the moment when the world needs to see believers, maybe more than ever.

You mention that nothing you say can change anyone’s mind. Perhaps it’s not your words but rather your actions that will make a deeper impact. Pope Paul VI noted, “Modern man listens more willingly to witnesses than to teachers, and if he does listen to teachers, it is because they are witnesses” (see his 1975 exhortation “Evangelii Nuntiandi,” No. 41).

So what can you do here and now? Perhaps three suggestions are worth considering.

First, it is good to remember that the Christian faith is about a relationship with Jesus. He is our savior and our redeemer. He suffered and died for us. He didn’t give up on us when things got tough for him. One way we show our gratitude is precisely by our faith in him when things get tough for us.

Even if no one else around us believes in him, we can. Like good soldiers in wartime, we stick with our brothers in arms, no matter what. Your sticking with Jesus in this secularized era brings joy to his heart. That has value in and of itself. And though you might not realize it, you are giving other people something to think about. Often, folks steeped in secularism have a hard time understanding why they aren’t happy.

Second, since we are human beings, and relational, we need the support of others. The whole idea of the Church is that we are a family united in faith. The Church is an ekklēsía (in Greek), a gathering of people. It would help a lot if you could find even a small network of faithful Catholics to bond with.

You might complement such a network with contacts online. Having at least two or three friends who can encourage you, and you them, would be a big help. You won’t feel so alone. You might look for such folks by getting involved in volunteer work or parish work. Good Catholics are out there. You just need to look for them.

Third, once you get a network of Catholic friends, it might help to look for ways you all can grow in your spiritual lives, either through Bible studies or periodic retreats (including RC Spirituality online retreats, and through some kind of apostolate, such as street missions or pro-life work. You personally might benefit from this retreat guide, “A Cure for Discouragement.”

The key point here is to be pro-active. The more we share the faith, the stronger our faith becomes. And the deeper we go in our knowledge of the faith and the richer our prayer life, the more the Holy Spirit can work through us.

You might consider looking into an ecclesial movement of some kind, such as Focolare or Regnum Christi, or a third-order branch of the Carmelites or Benedictines or some other religious group.

Above all, though, keep your personal relationship with Jesus at the center of everything you do. Savor your prayer life and sacramental life. And stay close to the Blessed Virgin Mary.

I hope this helps. Count on being included in one of my Mass intentions, OK?

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“Ask a Priest: I Feel Lost. What Should I Do?”

Q: I am educated in philosophy. Are you familiar with Seraphim (Eugene) Rose’s work on nihilism? I have written or come to the same nihilistic conclusions as Rose. The experience of nothingness is overwhelming and omnipresent. I am not sure what my question even is. At times I am the most confident in my beliefs (even though I do not like the consequences of nihilism), and other times I am in complete doubt. The nihilistic position is one riddled with contradictions, though the nihilist is not concerned with silly things like “logic” and “contradictions.” I guess my question is this: What do I do? I have no idea what to do. All religion, at least up till now, does not seem true to me, regardless if you take a view like Hick and say that all religions at least have some “portion” of the truth within them. I feel alone, empty and dead. Again, I am not sure what I am asking you. If you can make any sense of this, or have anything to say, then I am willing to listen. -A.M.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It would take a book-length answer to do justice to your questions. Let me attempt a quick response nonetheless.

We are made in the image and likeness of God. We have an intellect and a will. Now, God is a Trinity, three divine Persons in one essence, one Godhead. It is a mystery beyond our comprehension.

But those three divine Persons — Father, Son and Holy Spirit — give us a clue about ourselves. In a word, we are relational. We are made to be in relation with others. Ultimately the most important relation is with God. Our hearts were made for God, as St. Augustine said, and our hearts are restless until they rest in the Almighty. We can use our intellect and will — and our hearts — to search for God.

You seem restless. You need to find God. God certainly wants you close to him. You are his beloved son.

The surest way to find God is to focus on his divine Son, Jesus. So it might be helpful to take up the Gospels and read them. Learn about the person of Christ. See the way he deals with people. See his compassion, his mercy. He is the face of God on earth.

Entering into a relationship with him will help you set aside some of those abstract notions of nihilism, etc. We weren’t created for nihilism, after all. We were created for love — to love and to be loved. That is what our relationship with Jesus is about. That is what real religion is about.

Perhaps you might try browsing the Catechism of the Catholic Church or its Compendium. My hunch is that if you understood more about the Catholic faith, you wouldn’t dismiss it so readily.

Or try reading just about anything from Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger/Pope Benedict XVI, too; many of his works are gems.

It occurs to me that you might have been given the wrong impression of Christian philosophy. Our Christian faith is not unreasonable, illogical and self-contradictory, like nihilism. On the contrary, it has a long and rich tradition of facing and tackling the toughest questions that human beings have ever had to face.

If you are at all intrigued by this often-overlooked reality, you might want to dip into the works of some of the great Christian philosophers, whether recent ones such as Etienne Gilson, contemporary ones such as Peter Kreeft, or past ones such as St. Thomas Aquinas. I encourage you to take a look. As Our Lord promised: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7).

I hope some of this helps. I wish you well on your journey.

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“Ask a Priest: Is It Wrong to Turn to a Medium?”

Q: Is it a mortal sin to see a medium? Would God forgive me? I’m not at peace with the death of my mother. -P.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: The short answers are: 1) yes, it could be a mortal sin, and 2) yes, God is always willing to forgive when there is a spirit of repentance.

The Catechism warns about recourse to mediums and other things dealing with the occult or spiritism. It is worth quoting a few numbers here, which appear under the header “Divination and magic”:

2115. God can reveal the future to his prophets or to other saints. Still, a sound Christian attitude consists in putting oneself confidently into the hands of Providence for whatever concerns the future, and giving up all unhealthy curiosity about it. Improvidence, however, can constitute a lack of responsibility.

2116. All forms of divination are to be rejected: recourse to Satan or demons, conjuring up the dead or other practices falsely supposed to “unveil” the future. Consulting horoscopes, astrology, palm reading, interpretation of omens and lots, the phenomena of clairvoyance, and recourse to mediums all conceal a desire for power over time, history, and, in the last analysis, other human beings, as well as a wish to conciliate hidden powers. They contradict the honor, respect, and loving fear that we owe to God alone.

2117. All practices of magic or sorcery, by which one attempts to tame occult powers, so as to place them at one’s service and have a supernatural power over others — even if this were for the sake of restoring their health — are gravely contrary to the virtue of religion. These practices are even more to be condemned when accompanied by the intention of harming someone, or when they have recourse to the intervention of demons. Wearing charms is also reprehensible. Spiritism often implies divination or magical practices; the Church for her part warns the faithful against it. Recourse to so-called traditional cures does not justify either the invocation of evil powers or the exploitation of another’s credulity. [end quoted material]

If you have gone to a medium, it would be good to stop immediately and permanently, and to go to confession.

Then you might consider taking advantage of the prayers and other helps offered by the Church. The best thing you can do for your deceased mom is to pray for her, to have Masses offered for her, to offer up sacrifices for the repose of her soul. If you feel a need for an intermediary, you might try turning to the Blessed Virgin Mary or a favorite saint.

Part of the hope we have as Christians is that someday we might be reunited with our loved ones. Death is not the last word. The resurrection awaits all of us.

If we stay close to Jesus, then someday we can rise again and be with him — and with our loved ones who have persevered in their love for Christ — for all eternity.

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“Ask a Priest: What’s a Worried Mom to Do?”

Q: My son was born with health issues. He is now 19 years old, and these health issues can be life-threatening. I pray to God all the time to help my son but also to help me to worry less. I’m so worried about my son dying and leaving me here in so much pain from his loss. This worry is constant. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong because I pray to God … yet I still worry. I don’t know what to do. Do you have any suggestions on what I’m doing wrong? Thank you. -C.H.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC A: I am sorry to hear about the life-threatening problems that your son faces. Our Lord has allowed a heavy cross in your life, no doubt. Your cross is not unlike that of the Blessed Virgin Mary’s, who watched her own Son suffer. Part of our faith lies in the belief that God loves each one of us, and that he can bring something good out of evil — including the suffering of a loved one. In many ways God has already shown you great graces. He has given you a son to love, and the fact that you continue to be a dedicated mom to him amid his suffering is a sign of how deep your capacity for love goes. So you have someone to love: your son. You know your mission in life right now: to support him as much as possible. A person to love, a mission to live — many people wish they could sense as much in their own lives. Maybe all of this is part of God’s loving response to you right now. Your commitment to your son is a powerful witness to those around you. Your love and fidelity is an example that the world needs to see. So often when we think we are weak and helpless, Our Lord is working through us to touch the hearts of others. Perhaps he is doing that through you right now. You might be helping others to discover what is really important in life. For now, it might be good to try meditating about God’s love for you and your son. Try to focus on the passion and death of Jesus as a sign of his personal love for you. You might want to consider doing the online retreat “Trouble with Trust” at RC Spirituality. Cultivate your devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary. Ask her for help. She knows the heart of a mom. She knows how much you love your son. Mary will be there to comfort. Beyond that, take things one day at a time. And remember that you will always be a mom to your son, no matter what. I hope some of this helps. Count on you and your son being included in one of my Mass intentions.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!