February 11, 2025

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: Is Gossip Gravely Sinful?”

Q: I have tried to avoid falling into any kind of gossiping but am by no means perfect. As a result, I have tried to avoid saying anything negative about other people or creating avenues for other people to do so. However, I inadvertently create those occasions without thinking about it. For example, I was talking to a friend and she mentioned being angry at a mutual acquaintance. Compulsively, I asked why and she proceeded to tell me what he did wrong. Also, I sometimes feel guilty for being in the presence of someone who is criticizing someone else and can’t seem to do more than mount a light or joking defense for fear of other thinking I’m chastising them. Am I overreacting by thinking my actions are gravely sinful? If not, what can I do about it? And, finally, where is the line between listening to somebody’s problems (even if they include other people) and gossip? – Manuel

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s good that you are trying to break this habit of gossip. It’s one of the most underrated sins.

While Ask a Priest can’t judge the gravity of any particular act of gossip, it can slip into serious sin more often than we think. Damaging a person’s reputation is no small matter.

Well did Scripture warn, “No human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison” (James 3:8).

So what should you do? There is no one-size-fits-all answer in every case. But a few suggestions might help.

First, try to cultivate the habit of saying only good things about people.

Second, keep doing your best to steer a conversation in a positive or different direction when someone starts speaking badly about others. Say something positive about the person being attacked if you can.

If someone wants to vent, you might try listening patiently and then asking probing questions to help the person start to see things in a more objective and sympathetic way.

This takes a bit of skill. But it’s worth pursuing. Practice makes perfect.

If you fall into gossip, mention it the next time you go to confession. This helps to keep you more sensitive in this area.

And whenever talk turns nasty, offer up a quick prayer and ask the Holy Spirit to help you tame the tongue.

 

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Where is God?

Faith, Hope, and Love abide, these three… (1 Corinthians 13:13)

Dear Friends,

 

Several years ago, I led a group of seminarians through a course on western civilization from the Investiture Controversy through the French Revolution. Like all human history it’s a tumultuous period, full of fits and starts and promises apparently unfulfilled. As we explored the ups and downs in the Church and in society, one of our leitmotifs came from Gerard Manley Hopkin’s magnificent poem “As Kingfishers Catch Fire” which ends with these words: “Christ plays in ten thousand places/Lovely in limbs, and lovely in eyes not his/To the Father through the features of men’s faces.” Together we attempted to see Christ present in those ten thousand places – and it’s remarkable what the eyes of our hearts can see when we really look.

This, it seems to me, is what faith accomplishes. Faith is not a vague irrational feeling that “somehow it will all work out.” On the other hand, faith is not a cold calculation by which we reduce God to a tidy idea or a divine problem solver.

Rather, faith is a relationship: passionate, intense, and at times difficult, in which we continually entrust ourselves to the Lord, whose goodness and kindness we know. Faith is a response of our whole person – mind, heart, will – to the living God who gives himself to us continually. And as we entrust ourselves to the Lord, we begin to share in his vision of our lives and of human history. History becomes salvation history.

All this enables us, in the Holy Spirit, to glimpse Christ and the Father always at work (John 5:17); and we also know that “many things greater than these lie hidden, for we have seen but few of his works” (Sirach 43:32).

What might that mean for me, today? How is the Lord inviting me to entrust myself, and others, to his love once again? Because yesterday, today, and forever, “Christ plays in ten thousand places/Lovely in limbs, and lovely in eyes not his/To the Father through the features of men’s faces.”   

God bless,

Fr. John Pietropaoli

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February 11, 2025 – Let the Word Shape You

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Tuesday of the Fifth Week in Ordinary Time

 

 

Mark 7:1-13

When the Pharisees with some scribes who had come from Jerusalem gathered around Jesus, they observed that some of his disciples ate their meals with unclean, that is, unwashed, hands. (For the Pharisees and, in fact, all Jews, do not eat without carefully washing their hands, keeping the tradition of the elders. And on coming from the marketplace they do not eat without purifying themselves. And there are many other things that they have traditionally observed, the purification of cups and jugs and kettles and beds.) So the Pharisees and scribes questioned him, “Why do your disciples not follow the tradition of the elders but instead eat a meal with unclean hands?” He responded, “Well did Isaiah prophesy about you hypocrites, as it is written: This people honors me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me; In vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines human precepts. You disregard God’s commandment but cling to human tradition.” He went on to say, “How well you have set aside the commandment of God in order to uphold your tradition! For Moses said, Honor your father and your mother, and Whoever curses father or mother shall die. Yet you say, ‘If someone says to father or mother, “Any support you might have had from me is qorban”’ (meaning, dedicated to God), you allow him to do nothing more for his father or mother. You nullify the word of God in favor of your tradition that you have handed on. And you do many such things.”

Opening Prayer: Jesus, may I approach you in prayer with an attitude of sincerity and purity of intention. Help me to overcome any blindness that there may be in me and give me a real openness to change.

Encountering Christ:

  1. You Hypocrites: Jesus directly accused the men in today’s Gospel of hypocrisy, using Isaiah’s prophecy from the Old Testament to define it: “This people honors me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me; In vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines human precepts” (Isa 29:13). Hypocrisy is as much a temptation for us as it was for the men of Isaiah’s time, and for these Pharisees. There are many manifestations of this sin. The Pharisees were self-righteously misjudging the intentions of the disciples. “How seldom we weigh our neighbor in the same balance with ourselves” (Thomas à Kempis). Is this kind of hypocrisy a weakness of ours?                                                                                     
  2. Their Hearts Are Far from Me: The Pharisees loved their own traditions to a degree that blinded them to truth and hardened their hearts. They were unable to recognize and embrace Jesus in their midst. We too can proclaim our love for Jesus to others while interiorly rejecting one or more of his precepts, especially those that require us to live counter-culturally. To keep our hearts close to Jesus, we must pray for the virtue of authenticity and frequently examine our attitudes for even the most subtle signs of interior division. May we have the courage and fortitude to be authentic disciples of Christ in all aspects of our life.
  3. You Nullify the Word of God: Jesus accused the Pharisees of nullifying the word of God by favoring and enforcing their traditions over the law. In other places, Jesus declares that they “tie up heavy burdens hard to carry and lay them on people’s shoulders, but they will not lift a finger to move them” (Mt 23:4). This is a stern warning for those of us in positions of spiritual authority over others—pastors, ministry leaders, parents, etc. We can avoid corrupting others’ experience of the word by remaining close to the heart of Jesus. In the exercise of our authority, we beg for humility, seeking only the very best for those under our care, and offering ourselves as a living sacrifice.

Conversing with Christ: Lord Jesus, you are calling me to a sincere living of my faith! You are calling me to an attitude of humility and self-examination. You are inviting me to have my heart set on you, and living as if my only fear is to be separated from you. May I take your word to heart and make it the driving force in my life.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will examine my conscience for signs of hypocrisy and repent, begging for humility.

Fr. Adam Zettel, LC, was ordained in 2017 and worked for three years as a high school chaplain in Dallas, Texas. Now he resides in Oakville, Ontario, serving youth and young adults.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!