July 19, 2024

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: How Can I Regain Ground With God?”

Q: I’ve been struggling in my relationship with the Lord. I thought that since it’s summer now, and school is over, I could focus on him, but it’s gotten worse. Maybe it’s because I’ve been spending time looking for a job or spending more time with friends and family. So, this question is a two-parter. 1) How can I grow my relationship with God? How do I become a better Christian? And 2) Is listening to secular music a sin? Is it really that bad? I love the music I listen to, but they don’t talk about God. Yes, there are some swear words, and possibly bad metaphors, but if it doesn’t affect my relationship with God, then is it okay? I feel myself going back into my old, bad habits. So I need guidance. Right now, the world has become my comfort, rather than God being my comfort. Please help. — Fatima

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s good that you are at least aware that your relationship with God needs to improve. That is a grace from the Holy Spirit.

Without knowing more about your situation, I’ll stick with general advice.

First, our relationship with God is a little like our relationship with others: We need to dedicate time to it to cultivate it.

So, it would be good to get back to basics. Dedicate three or four times throughout the day to prayer. Make this non-negotiable. Just as you need to eat three or four times a day to feed your body, you need to pray frequently to let your soul be nourished.

You might consider praying when you get up in the morning. Pray the Angelus around midday. Read Scripture for 5 or 10 minutes in the afternoon, along with praying a rosary or at least a decade or two.

At bedtime, do a short examination of conscience. Ask yourself how you did that day. Ask pardon for sins and resolve to do better the next day.

Also, consider drawing up a vocation statement for yourself, along with a program of life.

The vocation statement involves how you see yourself and your purpose in life. The program of life helps you focus on how to work on reaching goals and growing in the practice of the virtues.

You mention secular music. That means the Holy Spirit might be nudging you to do a rethink.

It’s good to remember that music can have a profound impact on us—that’s why we are drawn to it. Secular lyrics can shape our worldview subtly, especially in the area of purity. So don’t underestimate the impact of this music. (It could even be one reason for your current problem.)

You might consider housecleaning your media. Purge your shelves and devices of racy and irreverent music, and focus on something more elevated (Christian music, classical music, etc.).

And re-evaluate how you are spending your time. Try compiling a grid of your hour-by-hour schedule during the week. Do you do volunteer work? Some kind of work for the poor or homeless? Do you help at the parish? (All this could be included in a program of life.)

And stay close to the sacraments. Frequent confession with a solid confessor can be of immense value.

But before you tackle all the points above, ask yourself what the Spirit is asking you to do the most, right now. Then do it. Life is short. You want to make the best of it.

Count on my prayers.

 

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Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Uncle Eddy

St Macrina the Younger

Dear Yo,

It’s nice to know that you are becoming an expert in modern Catholic literature.  What pleases me most about this new passion of yours is its ability to keep you from wasting time.  (I am convinced that this is one of the greatest sins of your generation; in a world brimming over with time saving devices, too many people fritter away their valuable days in fruitless busy-ness.)  I only hope that this most recent fascination doesn’t eclipse the most important books of all, the ones you should never stop studying and meditating on – the books of the Bible.  Today’s saint can serve as a reminder of the power and importance of the Holy Scriptures.

Macrina was the daughter of St Emmelia and St Basil, and the older sister of St Basil the Great, St Gregory of Nyssa, and St Sebaste.  Her grandmother was St Macrina the Elder.  Quite a family, eh?  They lived in Caesarea, Cappadocia (modern day Turkey).  Her mother gave her a solid education, both in book learning and in running a household.  At age 14 she was betrothed to a prosperous young lawyer, who fell ill and died before the wedding.  She refused subsequent proposals, desiring to serve God solely, by serving her family.

This she did fabulously.  We all have cause to thank her for helping her brothers become the pillars of the Church that they became.  When they were young their father sent them to the best schools in the Mediterranean to receive a superlative education.  When they returned home they tended to have a rather self-important view of their achievements, which Macrina would deflate through good-humored jibes and irony.  Her brothers matured, and went off to become monks, priests, bishops, and Fathers of the Church.

Meanwhile, she and her mother responded to her father’s death with an act of Christ-like humility: they decided to live at the same economic level as their servants.  They liquidated their property, moved to the country’s family estate, and made their living with their own work.  Macrina would often come home with poor, sick, or hungry women in tow, whom the little community she and her mother had formed would feed and care for until they were able to return to normal life in society.  Many of these ended up staying on and forming part of the growing community.

Macrina and Emmelia also attracted companions from women of their own class, and Macrina drew up a rule of life that they followed, forming one of the first communities of religious women.  This rule became the basis of St Basil’s rule for monasteries in the East, still in use today.  Macrina’s deep spiritual insights and practical piety also gave her brothers plenty of fodder for their many writings, and her superior wisdom helped keep them humble as they soared to positions of power and influence in the Church and the Eastern Empire.  She died when she was only in her early fifties, eager to go and meet the Lord she had served so faithfully and joyfully during her earthly pilgrimage.

And how did this remarkable life of sanctity and happiness begin?  Where did it get its direction and sustenance?  You guessed it – the Holy Scriptures.  There were no schools for girls back then, so her mother taught her to read and write by using the Wisdom Books of the Bible, which she came to know almost by heart, and which served as her guiding light from here to eternity.  May they always be so bright for you as well.

Your loving uncle,

Eddy

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!