July 24, 2018

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“Ask a Priest: How Should I Pull Back From a Ministry?”

Q: I am involved with many ministries (RCIA helper, Respect Life leader, etc.) and I commute an hour each way daily and work full-time. I love everything I do for the Lord but sometimes feel overwhelmed with too much responsibility. I recently tried to back out of the leadership of one group but have been getting negative feelings from others. How do I respectfully withdraw from some of the ministries without feelings getting hurt and knowing that it is God’s will for me? – C.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good to hear that you are so active in the Church.

As humans, we have limited time and resources. So we have to prioritize.

Jesus himself prioritized. Recall the time when Our Lord did a number of miracles in Capernaum, and people sought him out the next morning. The implication is that the town wanted him to stay and do more miracles.

His response? “Let us go on to the nearby villages that I may preach there also. For this purpose have I come” (Mark 1:38).

Here, Jesus could have stayed and done more good things in Capernaum. But that wasn’t his core mission. He walked away from doing good in one town in order to pursue a greater good in many towns.

So what might you do in your case?

First, it would help to consider the demands on your time and take all this to prayer and see where the Holy Spirit is leading you.

If you have done so already and decided that it is better to step away from a ministry, then you should do it with a sense of serenity.

There are various ways of stepping away, however.

One is to do it on the spot. This rarely goes over well, and it might stir up a lot of bad feelings.

A better approach might be this: Calmly explain to the group why you feel the need to step back, and then propose a deadline when you plan to do so — say, two or three months from now.

In the meantime you could offer to propose a possible substitute and to help transition the person in. This will show your good will, and it could motivate others to take on more responsibility.

This kind of thing is not unusual in the work of spreading the Gospel and helping others.

Church personnel are reassigned all the time. Parishes and religious orders adjust. It is part of life.

Besides, organizations ideally shouldn’t be totally dependent on one person. Systems need to be in place so that things can continue if one or another person moves on.

Now, none of this is to deny that at times Our Lord will be asking us to go the extra distance and do something that isn’t easy for us. But if someone finds that he has too much on his plate and that his prayer life or health is suffering, it’s understandable that he rethink his use of time and recalibrate accordingly.

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For the Greater Glory of God | RC Retreat Guide on St. Ignatius of Loyola with Fr. John Bartunek, LC

For the Greater Glory of God: A Retreat Guide on St. Ignatius of Loyola

St. John Paul II observed that for people of faith there are no coincidences, only aspects of God’s providence that we have not yet fully understood. Another way of putting it is to say that there are no coincidences, only God-incidences. Among these God-incidences, one of the most remarkable is the story of St. Ignatius Loyola. For the world would be very different indeed if a cannonball had not struck him at the Battle of Pamplona in 1521, shattering his leg and confining him to bed for the next 6 months. During his convalescence, the young Spaniard had ample time to reflect about the meaning of his life, about time and eternity, and, above all, about God. And more than his leg was healed. By the time he recovered he had decided to live no longer for himself, but for God, and the echoes of his choice appear in the motto forever associated with his name: “For the Greater Glory of God.” In this Retreat Guide we’ll explore what those words meant for his life, and what they can mean for ours.

  • In the First Meditation we’ll reflect on St. Ignatius as a pilgrim seeking the greater glory of God and draw out several virtues necessary for our own pilgrimage through life.
  • In the Second Meditation we’ll look at how St. John the Baptist, a kindred spirit of St. Ignatius, taught his followers to seek the greater glory of God.
  • And finally, the Conference will delve into the examen prayer, a practical tool St. Ignatius warmly recommended in order to see God’s action in our lives, and respond with faith, with hope, and with love.

The Personal Questionnaire/Group discussion questions are available in the Companion Guide Book or Small Group Companion Guide or for purchase via Amazon. Pause the video at any moment to go to the Companion Guide Book or continue to the next meditation.

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Exploring the Sacred Heart with Fr. Bruce Wren

Fr. Bruce Wren, LC, recently published I Will Give You a New Heart in the RC Essays series from RCSpirituality.org. This essay has three goals: to propose devotion to the Sacred Heart as God’s fundamental gift to the Regnum Christi Movement, to understand the specific form this devotion takes in the Regnum Christi Movement and, finally, to understand how to apply this practically.

We recently spoke to Fr. Bruce about the book.

So, Fr. Bruce, I understand you just wrote I Will Give You a New Heart on devotion to the Sacred Heart in the movement. What led you to write about the Sacred Heart in Regnum Christi?

Fr. Bruce Wren, LC: In order to understand any reality, one must try to understand the origins or first causes of that reality. Through a long and personal process of study, experience, and prayer, I have come to the conviction that the devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus, understood correctly, is at the very foundation of the Regnum Christi Movement. I wanted to share that conviction and to explain it to the members of Regnum Christi.

What moment has most moved you personally in your devotion to the Sacred Heart?

Fr. Bruce: Besides those personal experiences of prayer that are not easily put into words — as the Latin saying goes, “Individuum est ineffabile!” (The individual is ineffable.) — I would say that Romano Guardini’s The Lord and reflection upon the Gospels themselves have been primary motivations for me to write this.

What do you hope Regnum Christi members will get out of this RC Essay on the Sacred Heart? 

I hope RC members get a better understanding of the Regnum Christi Movement! In the essay, I quote Aristotle, who wrote: “All men know that to be wise means to deal with the first causes and the principles of things.” How could we be “wise” members of the Movement if the very principle of the Movement is unknown or, at best, the guesswork of each member?

The table of contents list three parts of the book; I want to ask you a quick question about each part. In section one, you deal with the Sacred Heart in each branch; how does the Sacred Heart unite us?

Perhaps we could put it this way: it is the one great narrative that all RC members, as a community, can understand, and this then helps each individual member plot out the very personal journey they must make within the Movement. It is, I think, the “Map” on which we can all agree, though different members will follow different paths on that same map.

In section two, you speak of the meaning of “heart”; how would you summarize that?

I believe it is best to understand the “heart” (in the specific context of “The Sacred Heart of Jesus” and its consequent devotion) as the spiritual center of our affective responses, among which the principal response is love. In anthropological terms, the essay argues that the “heart” in this sense is a third spiritual faculty, on the same metaphysical level as the intellect and will.

In section three, you speak about practical applications; can you tell us about one that you consider important?

I think the correct use of music, literature and the visual arts is important in the affective formation of RC members.

How do people get your book? Do you have other books available?

Yes, I Will Give You a New Heart is available for $9.95 for printed or Kindle edition on Amazon. I wrote another RC Essay called Poetry Matters, on the relationship between poetry and integral formation, which is available on Amazon for the same price. I also have a publication of some of my own selected poetry, called Fending Off the Dragon Fire: Selected Poems, also available on Amazon. I’m not a good judge of my own work in this sense but, in my opinion, most of it is mediocre. Nevertheless, I do think there are a few good pieces included in the selection.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!