How Could God Love Us So Much?

Q: How is it possible that a Father who is all loving and whose love endlessly abounds is able to enter into our human realm and love us despite our transgressions and imperfections? I have been searching for Christ’s love and forgiveness in the sacramental life, but this is holding me back. I am pursuing a deeper, more intimate relationship with God, but I cannot grasp how I can be loved. — Maddie

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC:

God’s immense love for us is something that has puzzled people over the ages.

Psalm 8:5 sums it up this way: “What is man that you are mindful of him, and a son of man that you care for him?”

We are God’s beloved children, and since God is an infinitely loving Father, his love never gives up on us, even when we sin.

But what might be a more basic reason for his loving us?

One answer: We are made in his image, so when God the Father looks at us, he sees something of the Son and the Holy Spirit in us.

This is akin to a dad who loves his children in part because they remind him of his wife.

So be confident that you are lovable!

If you need more convincing, just look at a crucifix and remember that Jesus went on the cross for love of you. God the Father asked him to do that.

It could also help to look for a wise woman or mentor with whom you speak. Or look for a good weekend retreat; that would be a good opportunity to encounter God and his loving presence.

Books such as The Father, by Father Mark-Mary Ames, CFR, might be worth a look, too.

I hope that some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Uncle Eddy

Our Lady of Mt Carmel

Dear Candy, My prayers for you are especially heartfelt today, the day on which the Church honors the religious Order of Our Lady of Mt Carmel.  The Order was founded in Palestine (that’s where Mt Carmel is – the same mountain where the prophet Elijah took refuge back in the eighth century BC, and where hermits dedicated to contemplation have resided ever since) around the year 1154.  You know the story of how St Simon Stock, an English pilgrim who had joined the order during his stay in the Holy Land, returned to his homeland with the rest of the Carmelites after the Muslim conquests made the land of Israel hostile to Christians.  Then he began spreading the Order, revising their rule of life to include missionary and ministerial activity in addition to asceticism and prayer. (It was to him that, so it seems – the apparition has never been formally approved – Our Lady appeared holding the little brown scapular [two patches of cloth made into a kind of double necklace – a miniature version of the Carmelite habit] and promising that whoever died wearing it would be assured of salvation.)  Later, in the 1500s, St Theresa of Avila and St John of the Cross would bring some Carmelites back to their original ideal of solitude, extreme poverty, contemplation, and rigorous self-denial. Their reform led to the erection of the “Discalced Carmelites” branch, while Simon Stock’s branch was called the “Calced Carmelites” (the reformers went barefoot or with sandals only, thus the adjective “discalced”, “unshod”). The naming of St Therese of Lisieux as a Doctor of the Church in 1997 revived awareness of the spiritual force exerted by the prayers and sacrifices of the Carmelites, an Order still going strong today. Perhaps you don’t have a vocation to leave behind the delights and distractions of the world in order to dedicate yourself body and soul to love and serve the Lord, but that doesn’t mean you can start skipping Sunday Mass and abandoning your prayer commitments – as it would seem by your last note that you have begun to do.  Beach volleyball is fun, but beach volleyball in heaven is a lot more fun. If you cut out your prayer life, as St Theresa of Avila herself put it, you will “need not a devil to carry you to hell, but will bring yourself there with your own hands.” She, by the way, is also a Doctor of the Church. Your lovingly honest uncle, Eddy  

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July 16, 2026 – The Yoke of His Mercy

Thursday of the Fifteenth Week in Ordinary Time

 

Matthew 11:28-30

Jesus said: “Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart; and you will find rest for yourselves. For my yoke is easy, and my burden light.”

Opening Prayer: Lord Jesus, I come to you with my weariness and disillusions caused by placing trust in things that are not essential and distancing myself from you who matter most in my life. Grant relief and consolation for my soul to place my trust in you and my energy at the service of doing good.

Encountering Christ:

  1. Come to Me with Your Burdens: Jesus speaks with unique tenderness in this Gospel. He has come to heal, set captives free, and lift up those who are ailing. He calls people with many needs who are weary of life and burdened with hardships and difficulties. We hopelessly rely on our own means and are slow to put our trust in God. He invites us to follow him from where we are. To follow him along the journey of continual conversation as his disciple, we must first allow ourselves to experience his mercy. The Lord’s mercy is immense and inexhaustible! At Jesus’ invitation we find a response for our aching hearts: a life’s purpose as his disciple and a promise of finding rest in this life and the next.

     

  2. “Learn from Me”: Jesus is not suggesting that we live free from any yoke. Rather, Jesus places upon us his Jesus’ yoke is to fulfill the New Law, to love each other as he loves us. He wants to teach us that we will discover God’s will through him. Thus, receiving “Jesus’ yoke,” each of us enters into communion with him and makes sense of our sufferings by uniting them in the mystery of his Cross and in his work of salvation. It becomes lighter and easier to accept and take up what God has entrusted to us to carry if we do it with Jesus. We learn from Jesus, who made himself little and humble: “He humbled himself, becoming obedient to death, even death on a cross” (Phil 2:8).

     

  3. “I Will Give You Rest”: Throughout the Gospels, we see that Jesus is patient with human limitations and complaints. Jesus understands each of us better than we understand ourselves. He wants us to share with him our burdens, one by one, aware of our need to find rest, peace, and consolation. As he did with his first band of followers, he invites us to come apart to a quiet place and to rest a while. This “rest” of being known, understood, accepted, and accompanied banishes weariness and renews our energy. He shoulders it all with us. Jesus wants us to invite him to help with whatever we are carrying.

Conversing with Christ: Lord Jesus, help me not be afraid of carrying the cross and enduring any weariness or burden united with you. Let me not be scandalized or frustrated in accepting my sinfulness and limitations. Teach me to be more understanding, patient, and merciful with others who suffer and are overwhelmed. Show me how you want me to be an instrument of mercy by offering rest and help for others. Keep my eyes fixed on you, learning how to be merciful and forgiving.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will be a courageous instrument of mercy to reach out to someone I know who needs a shoulder, offering to help them carry their cross before I have to be asked.

Lucy Honner is a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi and the Assistant Director of Campus Ministry at University Catholic, a community of students in the Nashville area who are serious about their faith. Since 1998, she has exercised her apostolate as a speaker, spiritual director, integrated health coach, and retreat director throughout North America.

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Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Uncle Eddy

St Bonaventure

Dear Bonnie, I am glad you decided to major in history.  The ancients used to call history “magistra vitae” – the teacher of life.  Indeed, an attentive study of past human endeavors can create a wonderfully mature and supple mind.  Nevertheless, I feel it is my duty to warn you (before you get seduced by next month’s welcoming departmental cocktail hours) that historians are full of irrational biases, and so you must always take everything they tell you with a grain of salt.  Don’t draw any conclusions until you have consulted three or four different sources (about historical things, that is; when it comes to the faith, all you need to do is throw a glance at what the Church’s Magisterium has to say). Take the Middle Ages as an example.  The vogue view lumps everything that happened between the fall of the Roman Empire in Western Europe until Michelangelo into one big pile of ignorance, superstition, and oppression. They call it “The Dark Ages.” (And then they go and blame it all on the Catholic Church… Talk about ignorance and superstition!)  Nothing, absolutely nothing could be further from the truth. The Middle Ages produced some of mankind’s most arresting artistic achievements and laid the groundwork for everything modernity praises: science, universities, civil liberty, women’s rights, the fine arts, freedom of expression, democracy, legal order, and much more.  Take away the “Dark Ages” and the peoples of Western Europe and America would still be wallowing in witch-doctory, human sacrifice, and trial by combat. If you don’t believe me, just take a look at today’s saint. Bonaventure followed in the footsteps of the great St Francis of Assisi (who is another proof against the “darkness” of the Middle Ages), and eventually became the minister general of all the Franciscans, codifying their rule, resolving internal strife, and earning the title of “second founder.”  Blessed Pope Gregory X named him cardinal and summoned him to the Council of Lyons, where the saint so perspicaciously and charitably ran the proceedings that he instigated a reunion between the Catholics and Orthodox (after Bonaventure died, however, the Orthodox returned to their schismatic posture).   In addition to brilliant administration and delicate diplomacy, he showed spiritual eloquence and theological excellence in his prolific literary output.  He received his doctorate from the University of Paris together with St Thomas Aquinas, the two of whom brought scholastic philosophy and theology to its enduring climax.  And to top it all off, his Christian virtue ran so deep and was so contagious that the future Pope Innocent V said the following in his eulogy: “No one ever beheld Bonaventure who did not conceive a great regard and affection for him; and even strangers were desirous to follow his counsel and advice, simply from hearing him speak: for he was gentle, courteous, humble, pleasing to all, compassionate, prudent, chaste and adorned with all virtues.”  This “Seraphic Doctor,” as he was called (“doctor” was what they called professors at the time), achieved all of this before dying at the young age of 53. An epoch that could produce such a man can hardly be unambiguously labeled “Dark.”  So, I repeat, when the genteel and accomplished historians who will be your teachers are telling their stories, feel no need to grant them the benefit of infallibility. Your loving Uncle Eddy

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July 15, 2026 – Revealed to the Childlike

Memorial of Saint Bonaventure, Bishop and Doctor of the Church

 

Matthew 11:25-27

At that time Jesus exclaimed: “I give praise to you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, for although you have hidden these things from the wise and the learned you have revealed them to the childlike. Yes, Father, such has been your gracious will. All things have been handed over to me by my Father. No one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son wishes to reveal him.”

Opening Prayer: Lord Jesus, I don’t want to ever reject you, but always to give you comfort by accepting your word. Thank you for giving me a glimpse into God’s love as my Father and his desires for me as his beloved child. May I pray with renewed eagerness to learn and discover what awesome plans the Father has for me today.

Encountering Christ:

  1. Knowing the Father: God sent us his beloved Son as the very revelation of himself. He wants to be known and loved by us. Jesus Christ is the window through which our human hearts can know God. Christ’s very identity derived from his being from God. The more we go to Jesus—look to him, learn from him, speak with him, listen to his words—the more we will be discovering God the Father and how much he loves us. Jesus always turns to the Father expressing praise, awe, and thanksgiving. How much we can discover God’s love by turning our hearts and words in gratitude to him for all he gives and does for us!

     

  2. Simplicity of Heart: Our hearts yearn to enter into this intimate relationship with God the Father and Son. Yet, the more we try to figure out, understand, or grasp it, the more elusive it can seem. There is only one condition needed to experience, know, and accept this knowledge of God. It is revealed to us by way of encountering it, not as an intellectual exercise or the result of an achievement, but by becoming childlike, being simple. Jesus teaches us that intimacy with God requires letting go of any self-sufficiency. A childlike heart believes what the Father says is true, trusts in his promises, and knows what he asks us to do is for our good. The more we put our trust in God, and not in ourselves, the more we will encounter him and experience his love.

     

  3. Trust in God: Jesus knows who he is and from whom he has received what has been entrusted to him. His confidence is in the assured knowledge of his Father’s love. We are about to begin another day’s work. It can be tedious and wearisome to set out on our own. Having a good friend in Jesus at our side lightens the load considerably. Whatever burden, self-sufficiency, or challenge lay ahead, we know Jesus Christ wants to bear them with us. We are not alone; he is there to shoulder every joy and sorrow. He reminds us to keep turning to our Father, whose love provides and takes care of all we need.

Conversing with Christ: I want to be closer to you, Lord. I want to know what is on your heart, what concerns you, and what gives you joy and consolation. I want to know how happy you are with me and how pleased you are for creating me. I want to see your face and to encounter you in all things. Lord, let me see you and know you better through the events and people I encounter today.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will see everything as a gift of your love for me. Turning to you with thanks and praise, I will not begin anything today without first inviting you to be with me and strengthen me.

Lucy Honner is a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi and the Assistant Director of Campus Ministry at University Catholic, a community of students in the Nashville area who are serious about their faith. Since 1998, she has exercised her apostolate as a speaker, spiritual director, integrated health coach, and retreat director throughout North America.

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The Road Less Traveled

Dear Friends,

 

The great poet Robert Frost wrote a poem titled “The Road Not Taken.”

The premise of the poem is that all of us encounter forks in the road we are traveling that require us to make a choice as to where we will go next.

There has been a stir in the media as of late due to a recent post by an “influencer”. This is not a political piece nor a judgment on anyone but rather a journey down a path less traveled.

In May of 1962, a tiny little boy was born to a young military couple in their early twenties in El Paso, Texas. His name was Michael, and he had Down Syndrome. In 1960, little was known about this syndrome, and my parents were encouraged to leave him in an institution in Texas and resume their life. My parents chose to travel an unknown road.

No one could have guessed the incredible graces and love that would fill our household for the next 59 years. All of my siblings learned to experience life in ways only Michael could teach us. We learned to defend the weak and the “different” among us. We learned to be patient and above all things, we learned to see the inherent dignity in every human life.

My parents could have taken the road traveled by the influencers and ended Michael’s life, and with it terminated six decades of incredible blessings and grace.

Life asks hard things of us all at one point or another, and rarely is the road we walk easy, but it is always an opportunity for God to show his goodness in ways we cannot foresee.

 As the poem closes, Frost writes:

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took  the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

I pray each of you remember you are never alone on the roads you travel, and God is ever present, loving us and blessing us each step of the way.

Yours in the Heart of Jesus,

Donna

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Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Uncle Eddy

St Camillus de Lellis

Dear Cammie, If I knew you less than I do, I would think it quaint that you have taken a summer job as a hospitality manager in one of those Las Vegas hotels.  Since I know you well, however, I am obliged to throw you a life preserver. I have always thought it highly appropriate that you inherited the same vice as your namesake, and I continually pray that through his intercession you will inherit the same cure.  Gambling, betting, games of chance – in and of themselves, most are innocent and entertaining. But when they start devouring money that you don’t have, monopolizing your time and attention, inspiring you to rejoice in others’ losses, or encouraging you to compromise your integrity in the interests of winning – these are telltale signs that the thirst for money (or power) is leading you into a deadly idolatry.  (And don’t tell me “Everyone does it! It’s no big deal!” Tell that to a lemming.) I only hope that God will not have to let you descend to the depths of misery, destitution, and shame that it took to bring St Camillus to his knees in repentance. Although, if the results are equally propitious, maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad idea. Camillus was a large man, 6’6”, and went off to fight in the wars with his dad when he was still quite young.  He contracted some strange disease in his leg, and had to spend time in one of those horrendously unhygienic pre-modern hospitals in Rome.  In and out of hospitals and wars, he repeatedly frittered away his livelihood by gambling, won a reputation as bad-tempered and argumentative, and led a generally unpromising life, until his regrettable state and the memory of a vow he had once made to God started him on the road to conversion.  He took a job as a construction worker at the erection of a new Franciscan monastery, and the words and examples of the friars brought the grace of God into his troubled soul. He so fully repented that he entered the Franciscan novitiate, but was dismissed on account of his diseased leg. He returned to the hospital where he had once been interred, and there began serving the sick.  The rest of his life was spent in gathering disciples who would dedicate themselves to reform the inhumane practices of contemporary hospitals and nursing. His efforts spawned houses of “Ministers of the Sick” throughout Italy, and though he himself suffered from a combination of illnesses until the day he died, he succeeded in bringing the love of the gospel into the lives of the most miserable of his countrymen.  He and his ministers would tend those whom no one else would tend. Once a fleet of plague-ridden ships was forbidden to enter the port of Naples, whereupon Camillus’s ministers rowed out to them in order to ease their suffering and help them prepare their souls to meet the Lord. Camillus also formed the first military “ambulance” unit; sending some of his men to the wars in Hungary, where they dedicated themselves full time to tend the wounded and dying. So you see, my energetic young niece, by the grace of God, this ornery and brusque soldier went from skinning his fellow men (or being skinned by them) to saving them; instead of aggrandizing himself at their expense (the bottom line of excessive gambling), he ended up ennobling them at no expense.  May our Lord lead you down a similar path. Sincerely, your Uncle Eddy

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Am I Living My Role as a Catholic Mom Well?

Q: I’m a Catholic and my husband is non-Catholic. We had our first child a few months ago. My question is about how to properly live out my role as a Catholic woman, with submission and respecting my femininity. My husband is entirely selfless, kind to everyone he meets, and supportive of my faith. We’re a strong partnership, and we talk through everything. My husband, however, struggles with faith. He was baptized Methodist but never got a true faith foundation. He’s been starting to develop his faith and has been coming to Mass with me for the last two years. Recently, I had a reawakening of my faith and started learning what the role of a Catholic wife and mother looks like. From my limited understanding, it’s the husband’s role to lead in faith and provide for the family. Since my husband is still learning the faith, I’ve been trying to support him by leading him to the faith. So, I have the role spiritual leadership, and it’s my job to lead my daughter in her growth as a Catholic. I also do things like taking care of the finances because I have gifts with numbers and organization. My husband and I consult each other, but I know he likes to let me have the final say because he trusts my financial judgment. We need two incomes to stay afloat. I can’t afford to stay home with our infant daughter, especially if we want to send her to a Catholic school. I’m struggling to figure out how to live with femininity when I find myself needing to lead at home, provide for family through my work, and develop leadership at work. What can I do? — A.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC:

It’s great that you seem to have a positive effect on your husband’s journey in faith.

I wouldn’t get too concerned about who should be the spiritual leader in the house.

From a Catholic perspective, the ideal of the husband being the leader assumes that he is Catholic.

For now, be confident that you can hold on to the reins, so to speak, since you have the true faith and you are the key person who will teach your daughter the faith. And you will likely have a big impact on your husband’s possible entrance into the Church someday.

The same could go for the financial end of things. If you as a couple have decided that you should manage the books, that’s fine, too. Every marriage is unique, and it’s great that you two can dialogue about all these issues.

From what you say, it seems that you are living your femininity well.

You are supportive of your husband and daughter and try to keep the family living within its means, all the while keeping an eye on the spiritual well-being of everyone. All this is a sign of a feminine heart.

Be sure to nurture yourself. Dedicate time to prayer and the sacraments; these are the fertile ground on which to build a solid life.

Then, take things one day at a time. That you are struggling is normal. Struggles help to keep us humble and close to Our Lord in prayer.

One suggestion: Try to form a network of friends with other Catholic moms. That could provide a great support group.

A helpful book is Sacred Marriage, by Gary Thomas (a Protestant, but with a very sacramental view of marriage).

Count on my prayers.

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July 14, 2026 – Reproach for Repentance

Memorial of Saint Kateri Tekakwitha, Virgin

 

Matthew 11:20-24

Jesus began to reproach the towns where most of his mighty deeds had been done, since they had not repented. “Woe to you, Chorazin! Woe to you, Bethsaida! For if the mighty deeds done in your midst had been done in Tyre and Sidon, they would long ago have repented in sackcloth and ashes. But I tell you, it will be more tolerable for Tyre and Sidon on the day of judgment than for you. And as for you, Capernaum: Will you be exalted to heaven? You will go down to the nether world. For if the mighty deeds done in your midst had been done in Sodom, it would have remained until this day. But I tell you, it will be more tolerable for the land of Sodom on the day of judgment than for you.”

Opening Prayer: Lord Jesus, let me never tire in spirit or become interiorly resistant to see where your love is calling me to ask for your forgiveness. May my help and my salvation be always to lean more deeply upon your mercy and to be more spiritually aware of what in my life causes your heart sorrow.

Encountering Christ:

  1. Repentance: Throughout this discourse, we can detect in the voice of Jesus a note of exasperation. His heart is lamenting the unrequited love of stubborn hearts unwilling to repent; the ingratitude, indifference, and rejection of such hearts in this moment of anguish. He finds no comfort in hearts who betray him and cannot see what mighty deeds he has done for us.

     

  2. Rejection and Remorse: The spiritual battle going on in our hearts is real. There are difficulties, struggles, and hardships that we have to conquer to be faithful in courageously living for Christ’s Kingdom of justice and love. We are all caught up in this drama. While following the Lord, I have fallen and turned away from him and resisted his will. At times, I have said “no” out of fear, defiance, and greed. Lord, I come to you and humbly ask for your forgiveness and mercy. Forgive me my sins. Do not let me turn away from you.

     

  3. Judgment Day: The hour is coming, our hour to be welcomed into the eternal embrace of the Father. It will also come with a settling of accounts where we will see the truth of our lives in the full light of God’s merciful love. Jesus’ passionate exhortation invites us to look into our hearts now, to imagine our final reckoning. This practice can be a good remedy against any inclination we have to pass judgment on others. It can help to soften the harshness or stubbornness of our hearts.

Conversing with Christ: Lord, be with me throughout this day, guiding my mind and heart to see the wonders of your actions, the great things you are doing in my life. Grant me the courage to face whatever happens today by responding in a way that pleases you so that I can see the Father’s plan for me more clearly. Open my heart and mind to be attuned to your presence both within me and through those around me today.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will be quick to seek forgiveness of any fault or harm I may cause you or others, and I will make a special effort not to judge others, asking for your grace to dismiss any harsh thoughts or criticisms.

For Further Reflection: Check out “The Last Four Things,” a YouTube video by Fr. John Bartunek, LC. 

Lucy Honner is a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi and the Assistant Director of Campus Ministry at University Catholic, a community of students in the Nashville area who are serious about their faith. Since 1998, she has exercised her apostolate as a speaker, spiritual director, integrated health coach, and retreat director throughout North America.

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Alex Kucera

Atlanta

Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!