Q: I am having some issues in my marriage regarding my Catholic faith. I married someone who was brought up Methodist, but has been non-practicing for many years. Before we married, we discussed how important my faith is to me and that we would raise our children in the Catholic Church. He agreed to this and said it was fine with him. However, as my children are getting older and I am trying to teach them about our faith or even read the Bible with them, he constantly makes rude and hurtful comments regarding not only Catholicism, but Christianity in general. This is negatively affecting my kids. I have voiced my concern to him, but it does not seem to matter. Do you have any advice? – D.
Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC
A: I am sorry to hear about the tensions regarding religion in the household.
Faith is a gift, and as a gift, it is something that can be lost — for all kinds of reasons.
If you haven’t done so, you could ask your husband why his opposition to Christianity seems to be growing. This kind of thing doesn’t happen in a vacuum; there is a reason for his hostility.
Perhaps the both of you could speak with a priest or deacon or a marriage counselor. A third party could remind him of the commitment he made to allow his children to be brought up in the Catholic faith.
Above all, this is the moment to intensify your prayer life and sacramental life, and to offer up sacrifices for your spouse. The devil would love to cause tension in your home, so it’s good to remember that the evil one is lurking behind these problems.
Remember, too, that as a wife you have a special grace of state. “The unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife” (1 Corinthians 7:14).
This is the moment when you are called to make a deeper act of love for your spouse by praying for him and helping him toward the light. Don’t give up on him! God is at work in this situation! Stay close to the Blessed Virgin Mary.
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So often when asked about how you live your pro-life convictions, a few responses come up. The main ones are going to events like the March or praying outside an abortion clinic, writing your congressperson, and helping the local crisis pregnancy center.
Regnum Christi members live their pro-life beliefs through their family witness, and by sharing the truth about the dignity of life and of the human person in the way they form apostles in all of their evangelization efforts.
There are so many other creative ways to be pro-life: here are 12 ideas we got from being together with the Church during the March for lIfe.
Talk about It
Nicole of the Susan B. Anthony List mentioned how important it was to talk to your neighbors, “it doesn’t have to be hard; it doesn’t have to be intimidating. There’s a lot that people don’t realize: like Roe v. Wade and Doe v. Bolton actually legalized abortion on demand through all nine months of pregnancy… Did you know that we’re one of seven countries in the world that allow abortion on demand after five months of pregnancy? The culture is pro-life… the vast majority of Americans are not OK with the status quo.”
Rehumanize International tries to present the pro-life message to people with different philosophies. C.J. Williams noted, “It is important to be able to speak someone’s language when trying to reach them with the principle that human life is intrinsically valuable.” She explained how not understanding them can sound by way of analogy, “You go to Mozambique and you speak English and they don’t understand you.”
Fr. Matthew Schneider, LC, noted that we can be pro-life on social media. He stated, “Most people are in the middle and can be moved. Stories move them more than arguments and are less confrontational. There are so many stories of great things those saved from abortion have done. Posting one of them starts a conversation without starting an argument.”
Create an Environment to Help Pregnant Women and Moms
Several colleges at the Students for Life conference mentioned new initiatives in recent months to help support pregnant women on campus. At the Students for Life Conference, the biggest standing ovation was when Madeline Runkles came on stage. Madeline is the one who wrote a Washington Post opinion piece after feeling shunned by her Christian school for being pregnant and encouraging schools not treat young woman choosing life so harshly.
Emily at the University of Michigan spoke about an initiative fundraising for a scholarship for a new mother, which they are awarding to a woman giving birth in February. They’ve even arranged babysitting for the first 8 weeks when that mother has class from among the students in pro-life club. She values this, “Because it shows real compassion for real people who are struggling with real problems like child care and money.”
Colleen Connolly from Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond explained how they helped change a student guide: “I was able to edit the official document that VCU health gives students on campus to women when they get a positive pregnancy test. This paper has… the three options of abortion, adoption, and keeping the child. What the paper didn’t have was a lot of resources that were pro-life, resources such as OptionLine to help them make this choice… There are a lot of options out there to help students make the choice for life. We just need to be more educated, be more passionate, and be more ready to have the resources on hand to let these women know they are not alone.”
Showing the Value of the Disabled
Right now in the USA, 2/3 of babies diagnosed with Down Syndrome in the womb are aborted. Some Down Syndrome parents and people with Down Syndrome Marched to show their beautiful lives. One group had two signs reading, “Celebrating the gift of Down Syndrome,” and “Abortion is not the cure for Down Syndrome.” Another group called Keep Infants with Down Syndrome (KIDS) had young people with Down Syndrome carrying signs joyfully.
Other disabilities also matter as this woman in a wheelchair held a sign, “Life is intersectional to all human rights!” Abortion can be targeted against the disabled, and is thus a form of discrimination. Another woman was shocked when her brother and sister-in-law had a test done on their unborn baby for a genetic condition she had and would have aborted if the baby had that condition. She continues, “[They] had nothing to say when I asked if they thought I should be dead.” Abortion creates an environment that devalues the disabled and valuing the disabled tend to reverse this attitude.
At the Rally and Mass for Life, just before the March, the Archdiocese of Washington concretely helped the disabled by having a sign language interpreter on the corner of the screen the whole time to help the deaf.
Welcome Those Saved from Abortion in the Church
Several new programs have been designed to help Churches welcome mothers and children who might have considered abortion.
Care-Net runs Crisis Pregnancy Centers but wants to go further. Kathy LoBuglio explains, “Pregnancy is not a nine-month event. Crisis pregnancy centers are there to help women and men making pregnancy choices, to help them make a life-affirming choice. But many times women and men… are thinking about 18 years.” In response, she says, “The Church needs to step in and have a ministry for those people who are considering abortion. Then after they make that decision, the Church needs to be the organization and support structure for long-term discipleship.”
Embrace Grace lives by its slogan, “No single woman should walk alone.” Jessica Russo explained their mission: “We exist with the mission of equipping the local Church to love and support single and pregnant girls.” They organize a 12-week program about identity and value that culminates in a baby shower for the new mothers.
Promote Fertility Awareness
Dr. Robert Motley, MD of FACTS (Fertility Appreciation Collaborative to Teach the Science) notes how so often the discussion about fertility treats it as a problem. Many physicians are taught to assume Fertility Awareness (also known as NFP) is ineffective: however, they’re basing this on published information that’s 40 years old which wouldn’t fly anywhere else in healthcare. FACTS found many of the current methods are quite effective – well over 90% – in real use, which is similar to oral contraceptives. He suggests women get informed about the methods to be educated consumers who can either get help or a referral from their doctors.
Treating Everyone with Dignity
Bridget who’s currently at Franciscan University of Steubenville noted, “One thing that I think is important for us as pro-lifers is by visiting the elderly in nursing homes and caring for their life and their dignity.” Bridget was part of Challenge earlier and this is often an apostolate young woman in this youth ministry engage in.
Laura Kiziort with the American Life League gave a simple way to be pro-life: “I think you can be creative with pro-life if you treat other people in your own personal life with respect and dignity. That might mean cooking for a single mom or helping out a large family with their laundry and cleaning… If you pray at an abortion clinic that’s great; but then if you go home and treat your brothers and sisters with disrespect, you’re not being pro-life.”
Defending the Status of IVF Embryos
One of the new frontiers of pro-life legal action is what happens to frozen embryos when a couple who’s done IVF breaks up or similar. Embryo defense is trying to get a law passed to require consent of both parents before destroying embryos created via IVF. The current law allows one party to kill “their portion” of the embryos, even if the other party objects. Sasha McQueen explains: “Embryos should not be considered property and right now they’re considered property in all the states except Louisiana.”
Focus on Virtue
Marriana Leach of The Culture Project, a program based on John Paul II’s Theology of the Body, noted the importance of virtue. She exclaimed, “Virtue is what we need to restore the culture.”
Kimberly Bowler of Pure in Heart America in Boston spoke about virtue too: “Our mission is to proclaim the virtue of chastity and to uphold the sanctity of human life for all ages.”
Provide Medical Help Including Perinatal Hospice
Save the Storks provides mobile medical units that provide pregnancy tests and ultrasounds. Since they are redesigned buses, these 54 units can park outside a high school or on a college campus to provide woman with the tests they want, while offering them pro-life resources to help save their babies.
A creative form of medical help that is perinatal hospice, which is for families with children who won’t survive long after birth. A woman from Tepeyac OB/GYN explains their program: “We allow woman to have time with their baby whether it be minutes, hours, days or weeks.” She says, “It honors times between moms, and whole families, and their babies who have been diagnosed less than ideal outcome.” She went on to explain how they do a studio photo shoot and how they offer a stuffed animal that has the babies heart rate recorded to be activated by a press.
Art and Music
Rebekah Martinez recorded a pro-life musical track called “We Stand” about the fight to help women who feel alone. She thinks music is a wonderful way to spread the message because, as she says, “People listen to this music; they hear it and they hear the message.”
Mark from Exodus Forty explains their evangelization through apparel. “The way we decided to attack what it is to be pro-life is to go to the youth,” he said, “Our idea is using the apparel that we as young people just love to walk around with.” They had a wide variety of clothes with Christian and pro-life messages artfully printed on them.
Targeting Pregnant and Abortion-Minded Women Online
Online our messages often go out haphazardly to everyone. However, the Human Coalition has discovered how to target women who might consider abortion through search engine marketing. Lauren Enriquez explains, “Human Coalition is a technology-driven pro-life non-profit and our goal is to rescue children by extending compassionate care to their mothers.” They find these women online then give them individual help.
Help Those in the Abortion Industry Get Out
It can be tough for those in the industry to get out: if your last job was nurse at an abortion clinic, it’s harder to be hired than if you were a nurse at hospital or family doctor. And Then There Were None helps those in the industry get out. Nicola states they’ve helped 419 abortion clinic workers quit in 5 years. She explains, “We offer financial assistance, emotion support, spiritual support… We have resume services; we serve as their job hunter so we don’t stop until we find them a job.”
What happens when the RC charism begins to grow in one of the oldest parishes in Chicago? What’s that thing called when the Holy Spirit starts to touch hearts and lives and begins to transform culture? It’s called The New Evangelization.
Yes, Immaculate Conception Parish, Highland Park, Illinois, has been serving the faithful for more than 170 years. By Roman Catholic standards that is fairly recent, but at the time, Illinois had been a state for less than 30 years and a young lawyer named Abe Lincoln had just been elected to his one term in Congress – as a Whig.
Our story is about the RC charism played out in a parish setting. The players: Eleanor Segraves and Mary Maher, both members of Chicago’s Regnum Christi consecrated community. The charism’s impact on the parish can be seen in various apostolates and activities, but Advent by Candlelight might be the most obvious.
Starting with the punchline, the 2017 Advent by Candlelight event was a remarkable success. More than 300 attended the sell-out combination retreat, dinner and social gathering. This event is the single most attended event at IC, and it’s all women.
While many parishes do similar pre-Advent events and often emphasize the social aspects, most especially table decorating, and by that, I mean, “Who’s table is the ‘best dressed’?” Mary, Eleanor, and the committee of women from the parish wanted to put the focus on the spiritual, with simple meditations on Mary, our model as women, testimonies by women from the parish, beautiful music from a women’s ensemble, and candles. Lots of candles.
“Advent by Candlelight is a spiritual evening for women in the parish and the greater community,” Eleanor said. “They come and intentionally prepare their hearts for the coming of Christ.” Mary added, “We realized when we began working at this parish that people were ready for something more. They were hungry for a deeper experience of God but struggled to find time for prayer. Advent isn’t a peaceful season for most women. Our culture focuses on presents and party planning, but we wanted this special night to be a moment of grace for them.”
The first Advent by Candlelight occurred in 2015. Mary was leading a women’s bible study and one afternoon, one of the members said, “We are receiving so much through this small group, but there’s got to be a way we reach more women of our parish.” After a high-spirited, idea-filled afternoon, they decided to propose Advent by Candlelight.
With a little more than a month before the event date, preparations began.
“They have to have an experience of God’s love,” Mary explained. “That is what we have to offer as consecrated women and this is at the core of our charism—small groups, personal accompaniment, and strong spiritual experiences.”
The Pastor of Immaculate Conception gave his permission for the event before Mary even finished explaining the concept. He had always wanted an event like this for Immaculate Conception.
“It’s the Blessed Mother’s parish, she wants this to happen,” he said.” And I want to pay for the event myself. It will be my gift to the women of the parish.”
The ladies planned, budgeted, purchased decorations and ordered food. They were hoping and praying for 50 women. Days before the event, more decorations were purchased and more food ordered. Registrations had hit 170.
The crowd surprised everyone, perhaps because it was near the 170th anniversary of the parish. Ironically, the crowd number 170, made the food bill a little higher than the Pastor has expected but he couldn’t have been more overjoyed at the turnout.
The 2016 event drew 204 women and, despite a $25 price tag in 2017, the crowd hit 300 – a sellout for the parish facility.
“As I stood outside the room saying goodnight to women the first year, I was overwhelmed by how many seemed to have been deeply touched by the event,” Mary said. “It was almost as if you could feel the Regnum Christi charism in the room. Something had happened that was not our doing. It was a tangible experience that Christ’s Kingdom was among us. He was near—Emmanuel, God with us.”
This year the committee decided to focus the testimonies around three elements: spirituality, communion, mission – the three aspects of evangelization outlined by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops for Adult Faith Formation, and central aspects of the Regnum Christi charism.
Marta Stepniak, Vicariate I Director of Life-Long Formation, a key leader in the Chicago Archdiocese responsible for advising 70 parishes, attended the event and wrote the following, “Thank you is not enough to express my gratitude for the experience of Advent by Candlelight. The atmosphere was warm and welcoming and the Holy Spirit was truly present. The reflections were joyful, full of trust and love. I want that! I want that joy, that trust, that love! Incredible!”
“Those reactions are so deeply moving for us,” Eleanor said. “We didn’t invent Advent by Candlelight; it happens all over the country. But I do think what makes Immaculate Conception’s event special is the gift of our charism infused into every aspect of the event. Christ wants to touch hearts, and he wants apostles full of love, that reach out to those in need.”
Mary added, “The Northshore of Chicago can sometimes feel like a spiritual desert, but the Holy Spirit wants to do something in and through us. He wants Christ’s Kingdom to come. Now.” There are people in the pews waiting to be invited to share in the mission of Evangelization. Our small groups are one way people can live spirituality, communion and mission. Advent by Candlelight is a powerful example of the transformation from a group of friends to a team of apostles.”
Eleanor Segraves is from Atlanta, Georgia and proud of it! Before she was consecrated she studied at Franciscan University of Steubenville from 2002-2006 and then was a Regnum Christi Mission Corps volunteer in Louisiana. She was consecrated on August 18, 2007. During her formation years in Rhode Island, Eleanor traveled to Toronto and also helped with the accreditation process of Mater Ecclesiae College. She worked on the road team to Kansas, Iowa, and Nebraska from 2010-2012. Now she is full time in Chicago working as the Director of Religious Education at Immaculate Conception Parish in Highland Park.
Mary Maher grew up in Michigan, the second of six children. Her family is originally from Chicago, thus her sports loyalties; she’s an especially avid fan of the Cubs and the Fighting Irish.
She’s been consecrated to God for sixteen years and has served in Rhode Island, Mexico and throughout the Midwest. She holds a degree in Religious and Pastoral Studies from the Anahuac University. Her ministry has been primarily focused on faith formation of adult women; she is a spiritual director, and leads speakers series and spirituality groups. She’s also worked extensively with youth, as a spiritual coach, retreat leader, service coordinator, and director of international mission trips. (Building a house for a poor family in Mexico is one of her personal favorites!)
Mary loves to pray hard and play hard; some of her hobbies are running and spending quality time with family and friends. Next August Mary will resume higher studies as she pursues her Doctorate of Ministry (Pastoral Theology) from the University of St. Mary of the Lake in Mundelein, IL.
The 50th anniversary of the first incorporations of Lay Members of Regnum Christi was celebrated on January 3rd of this year.
Fr. Alfredo Torres, LC, and Fr. Juan Francisco González, LC, and one of the men from the 1st group, who is currently the territorial administrator of Spain, were present at the ceremony in the Basilica of Our Lady of the Pillar in Zaragoza, Spain. On this occasion, LaRed (the Legion of Christ’s internal communication service) collaborated with the General Historical Archive of the Legion of Christ to prepare the following article. It collected testimonies about the 1st steps in founding of the lay branch of the movement.
The 1965 journal of Collegio Massimo seminary of the Legionaries of Christ (now the General Directorate) in Rome noted that the decision to found a Legionary community in Madrid was announced to the community, and that the superior of that community would be the Fr. Alfredo Torres, LC. At the time, Fr. Alfredo was the rector of the Collegio Massimo in Rome.
The priests settled in a house in Madrid, which Fr. Alfredo later set up as a center for the formation and apostolate for young lay people. Fr. Alfredo found support in Archbishop Antonio Riberi, then Apostolic Nuncio in Spain. “He opened the doors of the Universidad Complutense to me,” writes Father Alfredo. He continues: “At that time, many young people were disoriented and confused… So, the first thing I did was help the young people to drink directly from the Sacred Scripture, the message of God. And, thus, the main way of sanctification in Regnum Christi was born, through personal encounter with Christ, in the style of Saint Paul.”
First group of lay members in Madrid.
1st meetings of lay people
Vatican II had recalled, not long before, through Apostolicam actuositatem, “Our own times require of the laity no less zeal: in fact, modern conditions demand that their apostolate be broadened and intensified.” On March 5, 1965, the first group of young laymen met in the new house in Madrid, and on March 23, the first Mass was celebrated in the center.
During those years, Fr. Alfredo regularly visited the schools of Madrid to give talks on priestly vocations. “Little by little, I managed to form a group of young men, aged 17 and 18. We established the first meetings that we called ‘Encounters with Christ,’ because they revolved around the Gospels. The Encounters were weekly. I fixed a passage of the Gospel for them to meditate on in their homes. Then, at the Encounter, each one said what the Holy Spirit inspired in him from reading of the passage and what conclusions each had drawn for his personal life,” wrote Fr. Alfredo Torres, LC. He added: “Immediately, those guys were bringing others. I explained to them that the Movement implied, as its name implies, to be a mover. Saint Paul said, ‘Woe to me if I do not preach the Gospel.’ ”
Regnum Christi in its ‘1st hour’
Fr. Afredo related that “On January 3, 1968, we arrived at the Basilica of Our Lady of the Pillar in Zaragoza, Spain. We were able to celebrate the Mass at the feet of the miraculous statue, during which I received the promises of the first eight official Lay Members of Regnum Christi.” Among these young men were Eugenio Blanco de la Quintana and Juan Francisco González Vidal, who years later would enter the Legion of Christ. In his priestly memoirs, Fr. Eugenio himself remembered affectionately the atmosphere of recollection and friendship that was lived in the group, and commented that at that time each talk began and ended with a visit to the Blessed Sacrament in the chapel.
First Lay Members to Incorporate in to Regnum Christi. Eugenio Blanco (the first on the left), and Juan Francisco González (behind on the right) with other young people from the first RC team during Spiritual Exercises in Salamanca, Spain in 1968.
Fr. Juan Francisco González, LC, commented: “The grace of God received on January 3, 1968 becomes more obvious and clear as the years go by and see what He has been able to do with the Movement throughout these 50 years. This is something that none of us who joined the Regnum Christi in the Basilica of Our Lady of the Pillar in Zaragoza envisioned, and that mustard seed placed by God’s love in his Church has grown into the great tree that is now the Movement.”
“I conclude with a small anecdote that happened at the end of the rite of incorporation. An old woman approached me and said: ‘Hey, young man, are you from those missionaries who are going to evangelize the Americas?’ I immediately responded: ‘No, ma’am, I’ve never considered going to the Americas.’ Later, God wanted me to work in the Americas for 40 years; no doubt, that old woman was like the prophetess Anna for me. I thank God a lot for calling me to be part of Regnum Christi in that first hour. Although, as in every life, there have been times of difficulty, I am very happy in the Regnum Christi and in the Legion. All the merit comes from God who called me out of love to be part of the Movement and keeps calling me with the same affection and delicacy of that first day.”
Shortly after, four more young laymen joined Regnum Christi and thus formed the first Regnum Christi team in world, in Madrid, with 12 young people. After these additions, others followed, and in 1969, a group of young men and women in Mexico City.
Last spring, Clear Water Academy in Calgary, Canada, raised enough money to help Mary’s Meals feed 265 kids in Malawi, Africa, for an entire year.
Clear Water students were very creative and generous in raising money for starving kids in Africa through various initiatives. One child offered birthday presents, and another First Communion presents, raising $1,370 between the two of them alone.
The child wrote: “I have decided instead of receiving presents for my birthday that I [want] Mary’s Meals to be able to help children who don’t have enough to eat and are hungry. I hope this donation helps.”
The Kindergarten class painted nativity scenes and angels made from fingerprints and handprints, and then made then into Christmas cards that families could buy, raising $215. The grade two class sold Freezies (a Canadian brand of popsicle) and raised $260. The fourth grade boys’ class did a bottle drive and raised $216.
The Kindergarten Class made Christmas Cards to raise money for Mary’s meals
Three times in the last few years, Clear Water Academy has run a blue day where you can wear blue clothes instead of a uniform for $2 donation, and through this they have raised over $14,000. On one of these fundraising days, the founder of Mary’s Meals, Magnus MacFarlane-Barrow, visited the school for a talk that day. He is inspired by his Catholic faith but has also received secular praise like being named a “Top 10 Hero” by CNN.
In October 2017, Clear Water had an Oatmeal day served by the school community in conjunction with Mary’s Meals World Porridge Day, raising another $2,755.
Through all these combined small efforts, Clear Water has raised over $17,000 over the past few years, which provides over 1000 kids a year of meals each, since Mary’s Meals averages $16 a year to feed a kid one meal a day.
Clear Water Teachers wearing Mary’s Meals gear on a fundraising day.
Clear Water’s affiliation with the charity began in April of 2016 with Adele Taylor seeing with a flyer promoting a documentary film on Mary’s Meals. Reading through an 8-page flyer, she got excited and convinced two friends and coworkers at Clear Water to view the screening of this documentary in a local theater. The three of them were moved enough to present it to the entire school.
Adele Taylor proclaimed, “I have felt a personal attraction to this wonderful organization, and I am so happy to have been responsible for bringing it to so many people’s attention through Clear Water Academy and beyond.”
Mary’s Meals’ goal is to “feed every child a daily meal a day in their place of education.” They always work to buy and prepare food locally which helps the local economy as well as providing needed nutrition for kids. Mary’s Meals featured Clear Water on their website along with a few other Canadian schools.
The powerful story of Mary’s Meals and what they do can be seen in this video.
Q: I’ve been drawn to the Catholic faith for as long as I can remember, but have never taken any steps to convert because of some of the things I’d heard about the Church. Now, many of these things I’ve been able to address through research, such as some of the more untruthful things people tend to accuse the Catholic Church of (such as accusation of idolatry, “vain repetitions,” etc.). I’ve been able to confirm through this research and through personal reflection that the Catholic Church’s practices are not only acceptable, but truly in line with God’s word. That being said, I do have some issues with a few of the moral teachings of the Church regarding homosexuality, abortion and contraception. I will say, for the sake of being as clear as possible, that all my opinions on these matters come from years of studying the Bible and intense personal and spiritual reflection. I’ve prayed on these matters countless times. I’ve always been told that our conscience is one route through which God can speak to us, and through all this praying and contemplation, as well as pretty extensive research in the Bible, I have always ended up with views that don’t generally “jive” with what the Catholic Church teaches on these subjects. I want to make it clear that I’m not challenging the Church or saying that what they teach is necessarily “wrong.” My question is this: As long as my beliefs on these matters come from prayer and contemplation on the Bible and not from a place of vanity or immorality, would I still be welcomed into the Catholic Church? Thank you again for your time. – M.
Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC
A: It is good to hear of your interest in the Catholic Church and your willingness to research some of the criticisms against it.
It is good, too, that you are honestly and sincerely recognizing that you have difficulties with some key points of Catholic teachings.
A biblical basis could be found for the three points you mention.
The ban on homosexual behavior is obvious in many places in the Old and New Testaments. There is Leviticus 20:13, for instance: “If a man lies with a male as with a woman, they have committed an abomination.” And Romans 1:27 — “Males did shameful things with males and thus received in their own persons the due penalty for their perversity.”
Abortion can easily be inferred by the commandment “Thou shall not kill” and by the scene, for instance, of the Visitation (Luke 1:39ff).
Luke notes that the “infant” leaped in the womb of Elizabeth — not that a “clump of cells” moved around. Also, Elizabeth greets Mary as “the mother of my Lord.” Note the present tense. She doesn’t say “the one who is going to be the mother of my Lord.” The implication is that Mary is already pregnant with Jesus and thus already his mother, which implies he is already her Son, already living in the human nature that he had taken on. That is, it is a Person in her womb, not a clump of cells.
Then there is the fate of Onan (Genesis 38:9-10), which can be seen as a sign of the evil of the act of contraception.
If we could step back from Scripture for a moment, it is worth raising a bigger question.
If the Church is wrong on abortion, homosexuality and contraception, then that means it has stumbled badly on three crucial issues. And if the Church is wrong on these three crucial issues, why could it be trusted to get anything right? I, for one, would have a very hard time accepting Church teaching if it were 0-3 on some of the biggest issues of the day.
And if the Church is wrong on such crucial issues, why would you want to join it? I don’t mean this question in a sarcastic way. In fact, I don’t know why anyone would join a Church or stay in a Church that teaches error on such important issues.
Perhaps the real problem is that you simply need to pray more about these issues and dig even deeper.
If you haven’t done so, try reading Pope Paul VI’s Humanae Vitae and John Paul II’s Evangelium Vitae. Try reading theology of the body.
For insight into issues about homosexuality, the websites of Courage and Joseph Nicolosi’s website www.josephnicolosi.com might help. “The Third Way” video at might also help.
You are still on a journey, and I would encourage you to continue on that path. Intensify your prayer life, do some more research, and stay close to the Blessed Virgin Mary.
If and when the day arrives when you want to join the Church, you will want to do it a gesture of confidence in its truthfulness and its role as an instrument of God’s sanctification in the world. My guess is that your own sense of integrity would prompt you to want to come to a basic acceptance of Church teaching before you decide to publicly enter its embrace.
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The story of formation in Regnum Christi is a critical one. After all, none of us is perfect. We all need formation.
It seems that three questions about formation in Regnum Christi have been adequately answered already: we know why we seek formation (for the mission), we know what kind of formation to seek (integral), and we know the tools at our disposition to form ourselves.
But there is another question that seems less adequately resolved: how do you form someone? When you are personally motivated, it’s simple enough for you to seek out formation and better yourself. But what do you do when you are in a position to help others, or when you are responsible for your own children or the formation of students, employees, parish youth, or RC section members? When someone lacks knowledge, will, drive, experience, passion—or even the desire to attain what they are lacking—how can we move them toward the fullness God wants for them? That how isn’t so clear.
In this Essay, Until Christ Be Formed in You, we will explore this how in three chapters: (1) How not to form someone, (2) How Jesus formed his disciples, and (3) Implications for Regnum Christi. By the end of this essay, you won’t have all the answers, but you’ll have a clearer picture about how to form someone.
“At the end of the day when I’m tried and my knees hurt, a child comes out screaming, ‘This is the best day ever!’ which makes is all worth in.” Said Laura Juarez of Nativity Catholic Church in Washington, DC, where the event was held. Nativity is in a tough neighborhood where poverty and crime are common.
Games for the children of the parish were run by LTP volunteers
On December 9, they organized an “Angel for a Day” program for 100 kids and about 50 parents at Nativity, offering a Chuck E. Cheese’s style game room and an opportunity for local parents to get presents for their kids. Most of the volunteers came from the Leadership Training Program (LTP), a virtue-based mentoring program from Regnum Christi, designed to bring out the best in tomorrow’s leaders. Brandon, a high school student standing outside in the snow to direct traffic, was one of them. He is involved in LTP at his parish, St Raphael’s. “Now that I’m in high school, we’re doing camps here at Nativity to assist the poorer kids.” He continued, “It’s made me a better person because you never really understand your little bubble till you get out of it, and it’s life-changing to see everything else that’s out there and realize you can help them out.”
Ms. Juarez explained how events like this help her parish. “The effect of Angel for a Day is great because what we want is to attract more families, and to bring them, we need to begin with the kids. When the kids come, the families follow. The first time we had a youth day, families started to ask ‘When’s the next one? When will it be?’” She explained how this is important for that neighborhood, “The children don’t just come and play, but they’re also in a safe place and they are learning. We’ve found that the kids transmit this learning to their own parents.”
Jon, a young professional doing registration, said, “It’s been very edifying to be with a bunch of volunteers from all over who each radiate the joy of Christ. They’re all looking to celebrate Christmas and show what Christmas is all about… It is great to see children run around and have fun with the games, the three kings, the footballs, etc.”
Handing out prizes to the kids of Nativity Catholic Church
In the games room, there were half a dozen different games set up where you’d win tickets. Another high school student named John was in charge of the prize bins where those tickets could be exchanged for trinkets. He explains how he got involved via Leadership Training Program, “We were presented with the idea of running this event about a month or two ago. We were told it would help local families who didn’t really have anything for Christmas. We decided to take advantage of the opportunity to serve and help organize it.” Regarding the event itself, he noted, “Everything seems to be going pretty well. Everyone seems to be enjoying it and you can see the children having fun at the games.”
Mrs. Kimberly Moore was one of the parents helping out with the gift room while her 15 and 17 year old children were working elsewhere. She explained how they got involved, “Br Luke Rawicki, LC, invited us to participate in a Thanksgiving mission in DC. We had such a wonderful time and it was such a great opportunity for my kids to give back to the community at large. My kids enjoyed it so much that I asked him for other opportunities for my four children to participate in events that help out, and he invited us to this celebration of Christmas charity.”
Both young men and young women involved in ECYD programs in the area had collected the prizes that were given out to the children. One young women even told her friends to get gifts for this event, rather than gifts for her on her birthday.
Br Andrew Torrey, LC, talked about his experience, “We were bringing the love of Christ to these people and being totally available to serve them with whatever they needed. Some were taken back by how much we wanted to serve them; some were naturally shy and weren’t expecting us to be so open and welcoming.”
Fr. Matthew Kaderabek, LC, chaplain of the lower school of Pinecrest Academy in Cumming, Georgia, was invited to bless a nativity scene placed inside the Georgia State Capitol building on December 5, 2017. He spoke with us about the event.
Fr. Matthew, can you please describe the event?
For the past four years, Mrs. Annie Witt has been organizing a Nativity Dedication down at the Georgia State Capitol. It was a simple Nativity blessing ceremony lasting half an hour.
I began the ceremony with a Blessing of the crèche, taken right out of the Book of Blessings. Then I sprinkled the crèche and the entire crowd of about 150 people with holy water. Then the 70 young members of The St John Bosco Academy children’s choir sang “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel.”
I came back up to the podium and preached a fired-up Advent message to the crowd. Annie told me not to worry about watering down the message just because we were in the State Capitol. She said, “This is our event. We can make it as Catholic as we want.” I let them have it with both barrels, so to speak, drawing from the theme of that Sunday’s Gospel: Stay awake!
“Be ready!” I encouraged them to be like Mary, Joseph, the shepherds and the Magi, who were all very ready for Christ Jesus’ arrival, whereas King Herod, the scholars of the law who knew where the Christ would be born, and the innkeepers were not at all ready. I urged them to make time for prayer and works of charity, and rip out bad habits from our lives.
Fr. Matthew Kadarebek LC preaches at Nativity Blessing event.
Then we had Agriculture Commissioner, Gary Black, perform two Christmas songs with his bluegrass band, including “O Holy Night.” This man has a big voice and didn’t need a microphone.
Georgia State Senator, Michael Williams, then recounted for the crowd what Jesus was willing to suffer for us in order to save us from our sins. No one was expecting to hear about the Passion of Christ during Advent but there it was.
The school choir sang another beautiful song, and then I came back up to say a closing prayer, and give them all my blessing.
If it is the fourth year, who else has done the blessing?
The first one to do the dedication was Archbishop Wilton Gregory himself. The next year, it was his auxiliary, Bishop Luis Zarama. I’m not sure who did it last year, and this year they ran out of important people to do the dedication, so they asked me.
There must be a reason Mrs. Witt chose you. How do you know her and her family?
Mrs. Annie Witt is a former Pinecrest Academy mom who had two kids graduate from our school in the past few years. She has been the chairperson of the Georgia Nativity Scene Commission whose purpose is not only to celebrate the birth of Christ, Our Lord and Savior, but also to inform the media and public about the constitutionality of private expressions of religious faith in the public square. Getting the Nativity displayed in the public sphere is part of their mission.
She knew me from Pinecrest and she seems to have run out of bishops to do the ceremony.
What is the legal status of this display? How is it possible to put up a nativity scene in a State Capitol given the separation of church and state?
Apparently, some years ago, the Catholic lawyers from the St Thomas More Society in Chicago went to court to fight for the right to display the Nativity in public places, and they won their case. The last three years, Annie has been allowed to leave the Nativity up in the Capitol for one week.
Unfortunately, someone in the Capitol or from the ACLU didn’t want this to happen this year, so they put new conditions on Annie and told her that she could only display the Nativity for a week if she put it up and took it down every day! Sadly, she wasn’t organized enough to line up a crew of volunteers to do this each day since it is not easy to get downtown to the Capitol, so at the end of the day, she had to take the Nativity down. We’ll see what she is able to do next year. She is a pretty determined woman.
What was your personal experience of the event?
I thought it was very beautiful to be witnessing for Christ at the Georgia State Capitol. Preaching the word of God at the State Capitol added a bit of nervousness and excitement, on government property for the first time in my life. There’s a certain human respect wondering if you’ll have a receptive audience, but the audience was almost entirely Catholic and really receptive.
How did the people react?
The Georgia Senator, Michael Williams, who isn’t Catholic, was impressed and thanked me for the Advent message I preached. The children in the choir looked very receptive and very attentive during my talk.
What do you think it says to have a public display of religion like a nativity scene in a public building like the State Capital?
I think it serves very well to remind the world what Christmas is all about. As the bumper sticker says: “Jesus is the reason for the season.” It is so easy to get caught up in Christmas shopping and Christmas parties that people easily forget it’s Jesus that we’re celebrating. To be able to have a nativity set up right where the whole world sees it is a beautiful way to witness to what the season is about. It shows Christ loved us enough to come down from his heavenly throne to save us.
Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.
In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.
Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.
From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.
Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!