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“Ask a Priest: Why Can’t the Church Be More Flexible?”

Q: How can a Church so old and proud continue to function and reach out to people in today’s world? It seems that the faith is losing more than it is gaining by not allowing certain beliefs or values into the faith. I am not saying to change faith as a whole. But be more accepting of everyone. Isn’t Jesus merciful to all? He loves us all, as I was told and taught in CCD. So why does the Church stay with doctrines that are over 2,000 years old? Some don’t seem relevant anymore. – J.D.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: The Church teaches what Jesus has revealed. Certainly his message of mercy is a key part of what he revealed.

He also came to call people to repentance. In fact, his first words in the Gospel according to Mark were “This is the time of fulfillment. The kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, and believe in the gospel” (1:15). Note that word “repent.”

The Church recently had a Year of Mercy to remind people of Our Lord’s desire to wipe away their sins. A vital part of that part was an invitation to avail themselves of the sacrament of confession.

I’m not sure what you mean by “not allowing certain beliefs or values into the faith.” There can be flexibility in the way the Church presents the faith. Pope Francis has exhorted the clergy and the laity to find new ways of reaching out to people on the margins of the faith.

But there are certain core teachings the Church simply cannot or will not compromise — teachings about the sanctity of human life, for instance, or the indissolubility of marriage between a man and a woman.

The Church is here to present the fullness of the Gospel message. It might not always do so perfectly — it does have a fallible human dimension — but it will protect the deposit of faith. For this it relies on the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

On a practical note, it’s unlikely that the Church would gain many members even if it could change its core teachings. Denominations that have altered key Christian teachings have been declining for decades.

Church historian James Hitchcock put it well when he wrote, “The Church loses credibility not because it insists on teaching ‘outmoded’ doctrines but because it lacks the courage to continue teaching what it knows to be true.”

If the Church is old and proud, it’s because it teaches what Jesus wants to tell the world.

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Captivenia: A Magical Place Where Girls Experience the Calling of Christ, their King

Captivenia: A Magical Place Where Girls Experience the Calling of Christ, their King

From July 18-28, the land of Captivenia opened its doors for an 8th time, welcoming 95 girls to experience the truth & mystery of being “Chosen” by the King.

Hidden away in the foothills outside Calgary, Alberta, this camp is a protected & well-kept secret. It seeks to be a living experience for girls and young women of the truth of their identity and feminine genius. That sounds very abstract & ambitious, yet for camp director Valerie Doran and her team, it is God-given mission and a key for transforming the world.

As well-said by Fulton J. Sheen,

“To a great extent the level of any civilization is the level of its womanhood. When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.”

The girls that come to the camp are welcomed, cared for by an incredible team of young women, placed within a community and surrounded by beauty. At the same time, it is a camp that provides the most basic bare necessities, allowing the girls to experience some challenge & discomfort that builds resilience. It removes from the girls all the things girls and women often use to cover up or hide: cell phones, pictures, name brand clothes, make up, friend group. None of those things are bad but since they do not enter into the realm, the girls are left vulnerable and free, to be themselves and discover themselves in a new way.

A day in Captivenia is never dull and never the same. During the week, the girls have wilderness training, go on night adventures through the forest or “missions” as they are called, build forts, practice archery, race at obstacle courses, have scavenger hunts and face scary enemies on various adventures. As well, they have daily prayer times & mass, formation talks, activities, and adoration. Definitely not least important, are the characters of the land & the memorable moments the girls share with them, “the scenes”. Each camp unfolds a different drama in the land as the story-line and individual characters lives are developed. The campers are never mere spectators but are part of the scene and often are called upon to do acts of heroism and service to help the story unfold. This summer, one of the girls role models, the lead Messenger was kidnapped in battle and the girls later had to enter enemy territory to rescue her. As well, the throne of Captivenia was vacant and so they were in expectation for the naming of the new princess. The characters: with their personality, virtues, words, decisions, are living out in front of the girls everything the camp is trying to teach them. They become like living, breathing icons of the spiritual life: the care of a King, the danger of evil, the power of good, the effort of virtue, the importance of prayer etc.

Don’t miss out next years camp for your daughter, relative or friend! As well, check out the brother camp Arcātheos. See the websites for more details! www.captivenia.com and www.arcatheos.com

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Authenticity: Men of Character in a Culture of Personality 

Men have a choice to make, challenges Fr. Brett Taira, LC, either to pursue a personality that is admired by others, or to be authentic, regardless of whether no one is watching them or they are in the spotlight.

Fr. Brett quotes St. James as he gives advice to what he calls  “a double minded man,” one who sees himself in the mirror and forgets what he looks like.  “The person you see in the mirror when you get up in the morning, the man you alone see, that is your man of character. Then you put on your tie, walk out the door and become the man of personality.  And there is a problem if the man you see in the mirror and the man who walks out the door are not the same.”

Listen to the podcast of his talk originally given to the Regnum Christi men of Chicago and learn how you can be authentic and unashamed of being your true self, the man of character, the new man in Christ.

 

 

 

 

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“Ask a Priest: What If I Don’t Want Foreigners in My Homeland?”

Q: I am in my late 20s, Irish, but live in New York City. I deeply love my homeland, I am a nationalist and a patriot. I am also a renewed Catholic – I was raised Catholic back home, then lost the faith in college but regained it when I left to work in London for three years. That is where my love of Ireland turned into an anti-English mindset (in my defense, I was on the receiving end of anti-Irish racism a few times). Since moving to America, my anti-English mindset became an anti-foreigners-in-Ireland one. I know this is ridiculous as I am a foreigner here in America, and the world took millions of Irish in when we had to leave. Firstly, I ask you to pray to God to guide me into a better direction, and secondly, how can I love my country but not be in violation of God’s teachings? – K.M.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: As Catholics we are called to build a better world, which in practice often means being good citizens.

The Catechism in No. 2239 says, “It is the duty of citizens to contribute along with the civil authorities to the good of society in a spirit of truth, justice, solidarity, and freedom. The love and service of one’s country follow from the duty of gratitude and belong to the order of charity.”

In practice this means we can have a special love for our homeland. But that shouldn’t interfere with our Christian duty to help others in the world. This should include immigrants, especially refugees. We are, after all, all sons and daughters of the same heavenly Father. And Jesus’ own words point up our obligation toward expatriates and refugees: “I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me” (Matthew 25:35).

Given the tendency of many immigrants to enrich their adopted countries, you could try to see the immigrants in Ireland as people who will benefit the old sod – just as the Irish helped enrich North America and Australia and other places that became their new home.

It might help to cultivate a spirit of gratitude for all God’s gifts in your own life, not least of which was the grace of regaining your faith.

This might be a moment to take all this to prayer and see where the Holy Spirit is leading you. This could a moment to see immigrants of all backgrounds as people for whom Christ suffered and died. And if they were worth the blood of Our Lord, that speaks volumes of their value in his eyes.

Finally, it might be useful for you to spend some time reflecting on what St. Paul describes as a kind of “dual citizenship” enjoyed by every Christian. We are citizens of this world, but only temporarily. Our true and everlasting “citizenship is in heaven, and we eagerly await a Savior from there, Jesus Christ” (Philippians 3:20).

For more reading see the U.S. bishops’ conference posting on immigration. I hope some of this helps.

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ECYD Cup Includes Values & Encouragement from Roberto Carlos 

In just over a week (November 1-4), the ECYD Cup will happen in Madrid where teams from ECYD clubs compete in sports. This tournament focuses on virtues and got a some encouragement from Roberto Carlos.

Roberto Carlos’ Video 

Roberto Carlos was a top soccer player, considered the “most offensive-minded left-back in the history of the game.” He played for Real Madrid from 1996-2007 and was on the Brazilian team in three World Cups. He greeted the ECYD Cup with a video.

In the video, he says, “Hello to all. This year the ECYD Cup will happen in Madrid from November 1st through 4th. I wish luck to all the athletes: a big hug to you all. Good bye and good luck!”

The values of the ECYD Cup  

400 Athletes will compete at the Highlands School El Encinar near Madrid in three age categories.

Fr. José Ignacio de la Barreda, LC, director of ECYD at the Highlands school, explains that “each of the categories will have its first, second and third place. In the same way, in soccer there will be a trophy for top scorer and top goalkeeper. In basketball there will be the similar trophies.”

Now, the most important thing about the ECYD Cup goes beyond athletic success. As Fr. José Ignacio explains, the most important thing that these teenagers are going to take home are the values that they live during these days: “Sportsmanship, fair play, companionship… Of course, we must also count on spiritual values, he continues, as the experience of charity or participation in the liturgical life.” Throughout these days, he reminded us, there will be a chapel at the competition on the José Caballero pavilion.

Nine rules in sport 

The ECYD Cup employs nine rules in Sport for competition. They hope that the boys and girls in the competition can follow them to live the Spirit of ECYD at the ECYD Cup.

These are:

  1. Play clean above all.
  2. In sports, there are no enemies, only rivals.
  3. Basketball is not violence, but skill.
  4. If you can make mistakes, so can the referee.
  5. From the stands, everything looks easier.
  6. Insults never increase the score.
  7. If an opponent is hurt, fire the ball out of bounds.
  8. Bad methods result in bad games.
  9. There will always be someone who beats you. Accept it with sportsmanship.

You can read the original on Lo+RC, the Spanish Regnum Christi news site.

 

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Young Adults Seek Christ in New York City 

Jeannine and BJ Agugliaro of Basking Ridge, NJ, both members of Regnum Christi, have been the leaders of the Holy Week Missions for youth at Old St. Patrick’s Basilica in Soho (Manhattan) for the past 7 years.  In that time, they have seen many young people return, year after year, for the incredible experience of evangelizing on the street corners and inviting people back to the sacraments before Easter.  The spiritual thirst they saw in the young adults who came to be missionaries inspired them to find a way to bring them closer to Christ through a retreat. 

“The idea came up as a result of the college and young adult track we had at the Holy Week Mission in Soho this past March,” said Siobhan O’Connor, a consecrated woman of Regnum Christi.  “When the mission ended, Jeannine and I both thought that they needed a retreat on their level in order to be spiritually fed.  They had given so much of themselves as team leaders working with kids in the high school track on the mission.” 

On Friday, August 17, thirteen young adults arrived at Bishop Molloy retreat center in Queens, NY, for a silent spiritual exercises weekend retreat.  Led by Fr. Stephen Dyas, LC and Siobhan O’Connor, CRC, the retreat was facilitated by Jeannine and BJ Agugliaro of Basking Ridge, NJ, both members of Regnum Christi.   

Jeannine personally followed up with all the college students who were leaders at the mission to invite them to come to Spiritual Exercises.  For the majority, this was the first time they had ever done a silent retreat.  On Friday, August 17, thirteen young adults arrived at Bishop Molloy retreat center in Queens, NY, for a silent Ignatian-style weekend retreat.  Led by Fr. Stephen Dyas, LC, and Siobhan O’Connor, CRC, the retreat was facilitated by Jeannine and BJ. 

The weekend followed the plan of St. Ignatius’ Spiritual Exercises, with meditations on the life of Christ, conferences on prayer, discernment and making a personal spiritual plan, as well as a viewing of The Passion of the Christ to illustrate the meditation on Christ’s Passion and Death.  This was followed by adoration of the Blessed Sacrament on Saturday night and a moment to experience the Sacred Heart of Christ in silent prayer. 

Fr. Stephen remarked, “It was great to see these young men and women so hungry for God and willing to give him some of their time. Doing a silent weekend retreat is not easy but everyone was so happy afterwards. Confession and Mass, along with some personal accompaniment, go a long way in a person’s life.” 

After ending the retreat by renewing their baptismal promises, the students had a time to share about their experience during the retreat.  Words such as “joy”, “renewal”, “light” and “peace” came up repeatedly. “We hope that this can become an annual event,” said Jeannine. “It has been a blessing to see these young people grow in their relationship with Our Lord this weekend, and I can’t wait to see the next step for each of them.” 

For more information on the NYC Holy Week Mission 2019 (High School and College tracks), and future retreats for young adults:  www.regnumchristinyctnj.org

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“Ask a Priest: How Should I Deal With My Strict Catholic Boyfriend?”

Q: So I am not religious, I had some really bad experiences growing up and wouldn’t go back to a church. However, my boyfriend is a very strict Catholic, he goes every Sunday, is waiting till marriage, and doesn’t drink or smoke. For me, I have been able to give up some of the things he really can’t stand, because I would do almost anything to make this work. He is the most genuine, kind person. But I’m not sure what to do. It’s really hard because I don’t understand where he’s coming from, and I really do want to stay with him and am concerned eventually it is going to become a deal breaker for him. Is there any advice you could give to someone like me from the outside looking in? – E.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It sounds like a grace of God that you have met this young man. That’s not to say that you two are headed for a perfect marriage — I won’t try to speculate about that kind of thing.

Nevertheless, it is a grace because you have encountered someone you admire, and this is someone who identifies strongly with his Catholic faith and his relationship with God.

Perhaps this might be a moment to step back and rethink whether there might be something worthwhile in a church — in this case, the Catholic Church.

The Catholic faith isn’t something established by men. It’s about God and how God revealed himself to the world. He revealed himself in the fullest way in the person of his son, Jesus Christ.

What did Jesus come for? To bring a message of hope and forgiveness, and to suffer and die for you and me and everyone else.

God the Father, who sent us Jesus, is your Father, too. You are his beloved daughter, and he only wants the best for you. He wants you to get to know him better.

I mention all this to give you a sense of what animates your friend’s faith. His faith has probably formed his character deeply. And you can judge for yourself the results.

So maybe that is a place to start. You admire your friend for being such a genuine person. Perhaps you might want to learn more about the faith that has shaped him. For Jesus said, “Every good tree bears good fruit” (Matthew 7:17).

For now, you might want to cultivate your friendship with this young man. Little by little you might want to bring up the questions and fears and wounds that are on your heart.

It sounds as though your friend is keen on keeping the relationship chaste. This shows his respect for your dignity as a woman.

Chastity is also an enormous help in giving the both of you the time and space you need to learn about each other as persons.

For more reading about the Catholic faith, you might find the Compendium of the Catechism helpful.

Helpful, too, could be the Youth Catechism, or YouCat.

I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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A Bookstore Becomes an Evangelization and Formation Hub 

In Chile, Regnum Christi members have turned a bookstore into a place of formation, spiritual transformation and evangelization.

The Red Stone Bookstore is a center of personal formation and meeting of many souls that arrive at the Regnum Christi mission center of Las Condes. Ximena Undurraga and Vivian Dowding run the store: along with making themselves available to those who seek some spiritual reading or a sacred image for their home, the two try to meet others where they are. The bookstore has been transformed into a space that often gives support to souls that need a word of encouragement. What began 9 years ago as a small recreation area has become a nerve center of the life of the movement where books often take a back seat.

“When the Lord gives us a gift, it is not to save it, but to share it.” Fr. Donald O ‘Keefe, LC, said to motivate Ximena to transform the recreation area into a bookstore with a lending library of books and spiritual items like rosaries. Although Ximena was not very sure of taking on this task, she began to tackle her new challenge the very next day.

Today, the Red Stone Bookstore has about a thousand books on its shelves and is a space where Regnum Christi members can go to acquire texts and works that help them learn, reflect and meditate on a variety of current and spiritual issues. Ximena told us, “People come to seek information, they ask with clarity and without shame, about several issues that are relevant in the national discussion today. And above all they ask about issues related to the family that is the basis of life and of the Church.”

Evangelizing and making God known is one of the main objectives of this space, but there is another one that is even more relevant. Vivian Dowding added, “Many people open their hearts in the bookstore, we are a link with priests, because we take these people to speak with a priest so that with his words, he can guide them in their day. That’s the way to shelter the people we have here.”

And what does it mean for these two women, who are members of Regnum Christi for 19 years, to work in the RC Red Stone Bookstore? Ximena explains, “Besides evangelizing through books, it is working in my second home where I feel good, understood and listened to and where people feel accompanied. It is an apostolate where I return to the Lord all that he has given me in life.” While Vivian states, “Apart from evangelizing, it is sharing my way of being and my joy with the members of the RC family. It is to serve the clients well, in a close and affectionate way.”

Read the original on the Regnum Christi Chile site.

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“Ask a Priest: How Should I Speak About the Archbishop Viganò Case?”

Q: I’m concerned and struggling. I do not watch mainstream news, but I follow certain Catholic-oriented and TradCat sites on Internet and Facebook for the latest news and updates regarding Archbishop Viganò’s letters and the Vatican response. I speak to my husband and my mother regarding the situation, I try to be cautious about what I say so as to not sin against clergy, per the Blessed Mother’s request; but after I’ve shared any info I feel as if I have committed a grievous sin! Can you offer me any guidance on what constitutes sins against clergy in this particular situation? I don’t believe in burying my head in the sand as my sisters do. I want to know what is going on, but I do not want my curiosity to be an occasion of sin. – J.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Thanks for your note and for your obvious concern for the Church.

It’s a sad state when the divisions in the Church are so high-level and so public. Behind all this is the devil, who is anxious to stir up disunity among the faithful.

It is understandable if people are talking about the items that pop up in the news.

A key element needed in these conversations is charity. This includes the virtue of justice, which means that we refrain from judging or condemning anyone.

For the moment the surest thing we can say is that Archbishop Carlo Viganò, a past apostolic nuncio to the U.S., made some accusations and the Holy See has basically denied them. Here, a principle from the Universal Declaration of Human Rights is helpful: A person should be presumed innocent until proven guilty.

Perhaps there will be no “trial” and no definitive conclusions reached. We might just be left with conflicting accounts about what happened. If that is the case, it would be good to refrain from making any judging or at least not sharing those judgments with others.

None of this means, however, that we have to stick our heads in the ground. The Church still needs purification.

Maybe the positive route is for all of us to intensify our prayers for the Church and to discuss ways that we can help the clergy and hierarchy, all with an eye toward safeguarding the vulnerable among us. This could take many forms: adoration for vocations; fasting; and opportune and respectful suggestions to the right people.

Some of the problems we see today have been brewing for decades, if not centuries. Reform will take a while. But it is something we can begin today, with our own striving for holiness.

An extra suggestion: To guard your own spirit of peace, you might want to try to get your news from balanced and civil outlets. Sources that pour fuel on the fires raging ’round won’t bring much calm to your heart. The Spirit prefers to speak in “a light silent sound” (1 Kings 19:12). Also, you might find it useful to read my colleague’s blog post about the recent scandals: https://rcspiritual.wpenginepowered.com/weekly_email/a-response-to-disaster-weekly-message-for-09-11-2018/

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!