FIAT Girls Encounter Truth at the UN Commission on the Status of Women

Elizabeth King-Howard has always had a passion for being a missionary in today’s culture.  She grew up Catholic while studying at public school in Maine, and then going on to Bowdoin College, a top-notch liberal arts college, in the 1980’s. Although as a teenager she had felt a strong personal call to say “yes” to Christ in any way that he called her to serve him, in the elite secular college environment she found that when faced with relativism, it became more difficult than she was prepared for.

Her college years made her realize that the top intellectual and philosophical leaders and institutions in our culture were often outspoken in ways contrary to what the Church teaches, and that many young Catholics are simply not prepared to encounter that and come away with their faith intact.

Years later, after moving to Georgia with her husband and children, Elizabeth encountered and joined Regnum Christi. She discovered Pinecrest Academy, enrolled her children, and became a teacher there.   As an educator, Elizabeth has a keen appreciation for giving young people a firm foundation in the faith that will allow them to encounter and confront the intellectual and muddy philosophies that secular society presents, and be able to come through it with a solid Catholic faith.

While she was working at Pinecrest Academy, the very first Fiat Girls to attend the 2009 United Nations Commission on the Status of Women were brought by a parent, Cathy Swygman, who believed it was important for young women of faith to have a voice at the United Nations. The girls had some advance preparation in terms of understanding that sometimes the solutions that this conference presented to protect and defend women at the international level actually run counter to the Church’s teaching on the sanctity of life. But they were caught completely off guard by how intelligent, logical, and seemingly “good” these solutions were, as were the people involved. Instead of seeing things as black and white, for the first time the issues discussed seemed more grey than they had realized.

As Catholic kids in a Catholic school, they hadn’t been challenged by relativism in the classroom yet, or had a chance to develop the critical thinking skills, the knowledge base, and the faith practices that are necessary for stepping into the world without losing their faith. And these were students with the distinct advantage of attending a very authentic, faithful Catholic school that taught more than most, with parents and staff who supported a rich faith life. It rocked their world.

Seeing this brought Elizabeth back to her own experience in college. She was inspired to prepare the students going to the UN to encounter secular culture in a way that she had not been prepared in her youth— to make them ready to confront relativism, knowing and understanding their faith, and knowing where to find the answers without giving up when they were obscure or vilified. The UN conference became a perfect vehicle for engaging young women and drawing them into the journey of building a mature Catholic conviction.

In years following, Elizabeth set the program in motion by solidifying its mission, developing a curriculum, and selecting a name that reflected a willingness to say “fiat” (latin for a personal “yes”) to each of our personal faith journeys.

Elizabeth is still saying yes to Christ’s call to be a missionary. She forms, prepares and accompanies Catholic girls as venture into the epicenter of international thought, the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women, with the Universal Fiat program.

The Fiat Program now consists of a detailed two-day preparatory class which is followed by a carefully structured week in New York. This week provides both active learning opportunities and discussions, as well as retreat and sacramental elements. Fiat participants are surrounded with resources—people and materials—who know and love their faith and who can serve as guides for the students on their personal, intimate journey with Christ. They enjoy the support of several religious men and women, Regnum Christi consecrated women, youth ministers, teachers, schools and parishes, whose guidance is absolutely intrinsic to the experience.

While in New York, the girls encounter questions, and they have the freedom and support to examine them in the light of their faith — questions about gender identity, divorce, political and economic policy.

It is an education in critical thinking, a mini-retreat, a professional conference and a mission trip all in one. Each day begins with Mass and rosary at St. Agnes. Then there is a planning meeting over breakfast until 10 am, and after that, girls attend UN  conferences the rest of the day—observing, taking notes, and comparing their knowledge of the dignity of the human person, solidarity, and the common good (Catholic Social Teaching) with what they’re seeing and hearing from women around the world. At approximately 4:00 pm, the college and high school tracks split to debrief, which is when much of the real learning and digesting takes place. In facilitated groups, girls discuss what they saw and heard throughout the day, explore the ramifications of the initiatives they’ve encountered, and identify and develop their personal responses to the issues.

Brigitte, a 16-year-old participant from Georgia who attended this year’s Fiat UN trip a few weeks ago, said her eyes were opened to the impact of the Catholic Church on a global scale.  As someone who is deeply interested in promoting the true vision of the dignity of women she said that, “hearing from so many different countries who came to the UN to talk about solutions, some that were good, like supporting women’s entrepreneurship, and some that would make things worse, like increased sterilization and legalized prostitution, I saw something different about the delegation from the Holy See.  They showed how the Catholic Church was the delegation with concrete solutions to things like human trafficking and poverty. They were the ones doing things on the ground that actually impacted lives, and not just in one country, but around the globe.”

With God’s grace, the long-term effect of the Fiat experience is that these girls continue to feel embraced by Christ and encouraged to seek his truth (and their own “yes”) all their lives. In a practical way, the Fiat program has been instrumental in guiding many girls to their college majors and careers—from law and medicine, to public policy and international relations, to education and motherhood.

The program is designed to form, accompany and launch girls in their God-given mission— Elizabeth explains that this is the meaning of the word “Fiat” in their name. One of their taglines is  “Universal Fiat–because everyone has a “yes.” What’s yours?”

Fiat Girls agree, this program is life-changing:  Alumnae have chosen colleges, majors and even careers based on their experiences as a Fiat Girl.  In the last two years alone, Fiat Girls have:

 

  • organized an anti-human trafficking chapter on a college campus and another on a high school campus
  • initiated a hand-made blanket drive for the homeless in New York City
  • sponsored a full high school scholarship for a Rwandan student, a girl born of genocide war rape
  • provided training and supplies for for Traditional Birth Assistants in Isiolo, Kenya
  • presented an anti-pornography campaign and guest speakers for high school students in Georgia
  • provided funding for a summer camp to serve underprivileged children in Georgia

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In the fall of 2018, Fiat Girls (www.fiatgirls.org) reorganized as Universal Fiat, Inc., a non-profit organization with 501c3 status in progress. This move enables the organization to offer an expanded array of experiential learning/retreat programs and to accept tax-deductible donations, particularly those earmarked for scholarships. New programs will include a summer week similar to the UN week in March, for young women who can’t miss school in the spring.

There is also a leadership and social justice program that can be tailored to schools and organizations, a Fiat Life-Ethics weekend retreat/workshop at Georgetown (piggy-backed onto the National March for Life), and a week-long Fiat retreat in Bracciano, Italy in the works.

Find out more about the program at www.fiatgirls.org.

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“Ask a Priest: Is It OK to Join an Adventist Bible Study?”

Q: I am a Catholic university student and was planning to join a Bible-study club. But I noticed it is an Adventist Christian club. Am I allowed to join this club? My parents said it was not right since I am Catholic. – C.W.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I will assume that you are referring to the Seventh-day Adventists.

While Adventists embrace some of the same beliefs as the Church, they have many doctrines that radically differ from Catholicism.

Adventists believe, for instance, that the Catholic Church is the Whore of Babylon; that the pope is the Antichrist; that in the last days, Sunday worship will be “the mark of the beast”; and that on the last day, after a period of punishment in hell, the wicked will be annihilated and cease to exist rather than be eternally damned.

It seems likely that an Adventist’s beliefs will be reflected in how he interprets the Bible. That means you would need to be well-versed in the Bible and well-formed in the Catholic faith in order to refute dicey interpretations that might arise in the study club. If you aren’t proficient in Scripture already, you might put your own faith at risk.

To avoid that minefield, you might want to consider looking for a Catholic study group. This could make Bible study a lot easier.

This isn’t to rule out the possibility of people making mistakes about Scripture. But at least a Catholic group has a better chance of correcting itself. It has the Catechism at its disposal, should the doctrinal aspects of Scripture come into question.

For more reading about Seventh-day Adventism, see the Catholic Answers posting at https://www.catholic.com/tract/seventh-day-adventism.

For solid Catholic material on Scripture, you might consider signing up at the St. Paul Center for Biblical Theology.

You might also consider starting your own Bible study, using “The Better Part” and the Group Study Circle Guides available on our RC Spirituality website. No prior experience required!

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“Ask a Priest: What If My Daughter Says God Tells Her to Skip Church?”

Q: One of my daughters says that God speaks to her. She says she feels as if she is in heaven, has no need to attend church, God loves everyone so much. She does not concern herself with anything that is going on in the world since God the Father has all the answers. It is almost like a new form of religion, though she does not like any religion. When I asked her how she learned so many things about God, she says she listens to this voice which she claims is God the Father. She is a very successful dairy farmer, works hard and seems mentally stable, and claims she is full of joy and peace. She teaches some of our family members what she is learning. What should I do? She was raised a Catholic but says the Church accepted pagan cultures and Christianized them. She claims the Church is a man-made religion. I am afraid she is deceived by some spirit, but what if I am wrong? I find it hard to love her as I should since I do not agree with her teachings to my other children. We are a large family. Mostly she is busy farming, but when we get together she tells us some things I do not agree with. And in our prayers she does not focus enough on Jesus but on the Father. She does not want any Christmas trees any more. Small things like that. – M.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I am sorry to hear about your situation. What you describe brings to mind the words of St. Paul, “Even Satan masquerades as an angel of light” (2 Corinthians 11:14).

It certainly isn’t God speaking to your daughter. After all, it was God the Son, Jesus, who founded the Church, who teaches us through the Church, and who through the Church instructs us to attend Mass on Sundays and holy days. Catholicism is certainly not a man-made religion.

God won’t contradict himself, telling the Church one thing and then whispering something else to your daughter.

It might be good to intensify your prayers for your daughter and to go deeper into the faith yourself. It is also important for you to converse sincerely in prayer with the Lord about how he views your daughter. God hasn’t stopped loving her, and neither should you.

You can still care deeply about her without approving of her current religious views. Pope St. John Paul II famously maintained friendships with Jews and other non-Catholics.

You don’t know the whole interior journey that has led your daughter down this path. Continue to think about and enjoy her good qualities, continue to sincerely seek what is best for her, continue to look at her with a gaze of sincere appreciation and esteem — just as God does. Don’t let your relationship with her be reduced to this issue.

It will be important that you can remind the rest of the family for the reasons behind Church teaching. If not, your daughter could end up undermining the faith of others.

We are in an age when even members of our own families have to be evangelized. “Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence” (1 Peter 3:15-16).

It seems as though your daughter was exposed to some kind of anti-Catholic materials. The media and Internet abound with them.

As a countermove it might be good to have lots of apologetics books and solid Catholic publications around the house. There are lots of accessible writers, such as Peter Kreeft, Patrick Madrid, and Scott Hahn, just to name a few.

You might want to keep the household radios tuned in to Catholic stations if available. Now is the time to be pro-active.

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“Ask a Priest: What If I’m Attracted to My Friend’s Husband?”

Q: I am a single woman in my 20s and recently started developing a deep friendship with a woman in her 30s. She’s married and has kids. I spend a lot of time with her family, including her husband who has become my friend as well. The problem is that I’m attracted to him. I am not worried that anything will ever happen between us physically, but I worry about emotional intimacy becoming sinful. He is a sweet person, and he and his wife have a good relationship and trust each other. I don’t drive, and sometimes she helps me run errands. She has sent him a few times to take me because she was busy. He texts me and asks me how I am doing. We are all very close. I am just not sure if it’s OK for me to be around him or for me to be texting him. It’s important to my friend that her close friends be a part of her family, and I am close to her kids. At this point there’s no rewind button. I can’t just hang out with her alone all the time. We have a good friendship, and I don’t want to throw that away. But I just feel dirty and wrong that while they trust me so much, I am battling thoughts of attraction to her husband. I am confused and just looking for some answers. Thank you. – D. 

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good that you are honestly facing this situation and recognizing your feelings in all this. You acknowledge that you are attracted to the husband and that you “feel dirty and wrong.”

It is understandable that you find him attractive. He sounds like a nice guy. He sounds stable, wholesome — the kind of man that a lot of young, single women would find attractive.

This should be a warning. The texting is also a warning sign, since you are communicating with him outside the immediate presence of his wife.

This isn’t to say that the texting is necessarily sinful. But that, and the attraction you feel for him, can be a prelude to something problematic. You say that you aren’t worried about anything physical happening between you two, yet you and he occasionally share a ride together alone.

Your confidence that nothing “will ever happen” between you and the husband might be ill-advised. Human nature being what it is, the ingredients for big trouble are already coming together.

If cutting off the relationship with the family immediately isn’t practical, you might consider two options.

First, limit your visits with the family. Go only when the wife is present. And think about stopping the texting with the husband immediately, as well as the solo car rides with him.

Second, try to cultivate other relationships with single people. It might help to start networking with others through church groups, volunteer organizations, Bible studies, etc. Can’t find any? Then think about starting one, in your parish or place of work or neighborhood.

The idea here is not to use this family as your main source of socializing.

You will do them a huge favor in the long term if you yourself can find other people to spend time with. The last thing you want to do is jeopardize the well-being of this family.

In the meantime you might want to intensify your prayer life and sacramental life. You need the help of the Holy Spirit. Don’t presume that you can let things continue on the same path with no troubles. I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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“Ask a Priest: Should I Leave My Non-Christian Husband?”

Q: I am a Catholic, and when I realized that God was real, I wanted to change my life. I had married my husband in a civil ceremony 10 years ago. I started going to church again and realized that my marriage was not valid. I recently had my marriage convalidated, but the priest had to get a dispensation from the bishop because my husband is not Christian. I am worried that what I have done is a sin. Ezra made the Jewish men who returned to build the Second Temple give up their foreign wives. I was too weak to do this. Also, Jesus is very angry at one of the churches in Revelation for following the doctrine of Balaam. Balaam taught the Moabites how to make the Jews stray by tempting them into marrying pagan women. What if the doctrine of Balaam refers to the union of a Christian with a non-Christian? What if this enrages Jesus? I beg my husband all the time to get baptized. It’s like talking to a wall. He refuses. Even if he did get baptized, I worry that this might be adding to our sins because I know he wouldn’t really mean it. I wonder if I should separate from my husband, then I think this is another sin because we are married now. I feel guiltier now than I did before my priest convalidated our marriage. Please help me. – N.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I don’t think you have to worry about your marriage. You had the bishop’s permission, which is crucial. He has the authority to dispense a Catholic from certain norms.

So you should be at peace. The Bible has to be interpreted in the light of Tradition (the oral transmission of the teachings of Christ and the apostle), which what the bishop is doing.

Another biblical passage that might bring you comfort is 1 Corinthians 7:13-14 — “If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband. For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife.”

Perhaps your mission now is to be a witness of the faith to your husband. Don’t try to nag him into the Church. That will likely backfire. Rather, be patient with him. Pray for him. Offer up sacrifices.

To help you go deeper in the spiritual life, consider some of the RC Spirituality resources, such as the retreat guides and the RC Daily Meditations. Other helpful resources could include “The Better Part” and “A Guide to Christian Meditation.”

Stay close to the sacraments yourself. And cultivate a devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary, too. She is a great intercessor. I hope some of this helps.

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Regnum Christi “Crossfit Camp” Builds Spiritual Strength

“If we want to lead someone, we have to first lead ourselves,” Father Georg Rota, LC, said as he began his talk on leadership to the young men present. “To do that, we need to identify our strengths and weaknesses, accept them, and make the most of them. Our society needs real men: men who can find their vocation, live it and inspire others for the good. Men who lead and bring others along through their example. ”

A total of 21 young men met at the end of November in the novitiate of the Legionaries of Christ in Neuötting-Alzgern.  The weekend’s program included three sessions of cross fit. Cross fit is a physical training method that combines weight lifting, sprinting, body-weight exercises and gymnastics. The goal is to develop in different fitness disciplines: stamina, strength, agility, speed, skill, balance, coordination and accuracy.

The spiritual fitness program also included prayer together, the Holy Mass and Eucharistic Adoration.  In addition, team workshops motivated the young men to think about their goals in life, and gave valuable formation on how they can be realized in everyday life.

In the breaks and during meals, the participants spent time with the novices. On the Feast of Christ the King, they joined many other Regnum Christi members to participate in the celebration in Bergen, Germany.

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“Ask a Priest: What If I Have Doubts But Choose to Believe?”

Q: I was baptized Catholic as a baby and I’m now in my early 30s. I have been going through RCIA at my local parish to become confirmed on Easter. The problem I keep coming to is that I still have doubts about everything. My whole life I have always believed “something” created the universe, just not necessarily God. My brain keeps saying that the “Catholic God” or any god really could be wrong. Maybe we are all on the back of some giant space turtle. What if Jesus never really existed, or what if he was just a con man or there is some logical reasonable explanation for the whole story? I have all the doubts of your garden-variety atheist or agnostic. But I am choosing to believe. I choose to believe in God/Jesus and the Bible. But that doesn’t stop the other part of my brain from saying, “There are major holes in this whole thing.” My brain is hardwired to logically examine things and refuse them until I get concrete evidence that it is real. I’m not asking to test God or saying I deny his existence because I just don’t know either way. So the question is: If I choose to believe it, despite the voices in my head saying it isn’t real, and I live my life as best as I can according to the Church, am I OK? My priest pointed out John 6:68, and it really stuck with me: “Lord, to whom else shall we go? You have the words of eternal life.” I have chosen to turn to Jesus even if my head says it’s wrong because “to whom else will I go?” Can I be confirmed and still have my brain saying it’s a lie, but my will saying it’s true? Can I even receive reconciliation if I have these doubts? I have talked a little about it with my priest and at RCIA, but I haven’t gone into the full detail because I’m afraid of offending him or the other students. Thanks for any help. – J.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good to hear that you are taking your journey of faith so seriously. That is a sign that the Holy Spirit is at work in your heart.

Perhaps a few general points are worth mentioning right away.

First, there is no real conflict between faith and reason. God created them both. He gave us intellects, in part so that we could delve deeper into the truths of the faith. Throughout our life we will doing a kind of two-step — a bit of reason, a bit of faith.

Faith is like one of those lights that miners wear on their helmets: It helps illumine the darkness that they normally couldn’t penetrate with unaided sight. So it is with faith illumining places where reason can’t penetrate easily if at all. Yet, once we move forward in faith, we will often find that things are also reasonable. Maybe mysterious at times, but not absurd.

You mention that your brain “is hardwired to logically examine things.” Is that how you came up with the notion that we might on the back of some giant space turtle? Are the rules of logic really guiding you?

Second, it is one thing to have a difficulty about a point of Catholic teaching. It is another to doubt that teaching. The distinction is a fine but important one.

If you have difficulties, then you could certainly make an act of faith, a choice, and embrace a teaching even if you don’t comprehend it well. My suggestion would be to speak honestly with the priest in the RCIA and to tell him about your situation. Remember, many extremely intelligent people have held and spread the Catholic faith through the centuries — they were intellectually deep and honest. And many of them worked through difficulties, as you are trying to do now.

There is no point going into the Easter Vigil Mass trying to cover up things. You want to make an honest decision. You want to be forthright. The priest can probably help you.

It’s good to remember that we are all on the path to understanding our faith better. None of us has a 100% grasp on everything the Church teaches — its riches are so deep and broad. People can spend their lives learning more about the faith. So it is OK to have imperfect knowledge about the faith even as you profess it. People do something similar when they marry; they pledge themselves for life to a person whom they don’t know totally.

Some of the specific concerns you mentioned – such as whether Jesus existed or whether he was authentic – aren’t difficult to express. Jesus is probably the figure most written about in the history of the world. The New Testament attests to him, as well as the earliest Church Fathers and Christian writers, as well as pagan sources such as Tacitus and Pliny the Younger. Would it be logical to set aside all this documentation?

And as for Our Lord’s authenticity, it is logical to think a “con man” would possibly deliver the Sermon on the Mount, or pray for his persecutors from the cross?

Perhaps you might want to step back and see how you have been trying to nourish your faith. Have you exposed yourself to a barrage of anti-Christian material? Have you prayed for an increase in gift?

It might help to spend some time with Christian thinkers. Don’t just stop with the difficulties running circles in your brain. Keep seeking answers. Jesus said, “The one who seeks, finds” (Matthew 7:8). A few suggestions: Peter Kreeft’s audio course “Faith and Reason,” which you might find through your local library system; C.S. Lewis’ Mere Christianity; and Frank Sheed’s Theology and Sanity.

Remember, too, that there is someone out there who would like to lead you astray: the devil. He is there, all right. His handiwork is all around us. And he uses his little bag of tricks to sow confusion and doubt in the hearts of people. Maybe one way to fight that is for you to be open with the RCIA priest. Honesty will bear fruit.

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“Ask a Priest: What Does the Church Say If NFP Fails?”

Q: A friend was telling me that her father’s cousin had 21 children. This to me sounds impossible. I’m not sure if this person used the rhythm method and it wasn’t working or she just didn’t use anything at all, and just had all the kids she could have. I know that the Catechism states that you have to be responsible when having children and that you shouldn’t have all the children possible. My question is: If someone uses the rhythm method or NFP but it does not work for them and they end up having too many children, what would the Church recommend? Would the couple have to live in separate rooms and start living as brother and sister without any marital relations for years? I have never had any children because I married too late so I find it hard to relate, and imagine this would be very hard. Besides, for me God gave me a different path in life because I worked all my life so that I could live with my mother and be there for her. I hope you have some encouraging words. Thanks. – O.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: First, it’s good not to try to make any judgments about this couple with the 21 children. They might, in fact, have welcomed every one of those children as a gift of God, which they are.

My hunch is that the couple did not use natural family planning (unless they used it in order to have children). NFP is much more reliable than the old rhythm method for avoiding pregnancy.

The Church does encourage responsible parenthood. It doesn’t force anyone to have as many children as possible. But nor does it discourage large families. The key thing is that the couple can reasonably handle a big family, in the sense that no one goes hungry or neglected.

Yet even in cases where unexpected pregnancies occur, the Church encourages couples to rely on God’s providence.

If that sounds idealistic, then consider the alternative. Are we to think that God will not provide for the children? That God will abandon the couple in their mission to raise children? That kind of thinking hints at a weak faith.

By the way you worded your question, you seem to envision a worst-case scenario. The question seems to imply that lots of children are a mistake, and that the only solution is years-long celibacy for the couple.

But children are a gift of God, and they represent the future. Unfortunately, many cultures and nations today are infected by an anti-child bias. It’s little wonder that so many countries now have below-replacement birthrates. Japan’s population is declining already, as are many countries in Eastern Europe. (For sobering reading see the Population Research Institute website.)

What will happen in the future, as the elderly outnumber children, is a bit scary to consider. Such are the fruits of contraception and abortion and other factors.

Now, if your path was to take care of your mom and marry later, then that could be the fastest path to holiness. But others are called to different paths — some to have big families. Those folks, too, we have to support with our prayers and other types of assistance if need be.

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“Ask a Priest: Should I Quit a Spiritual Direction Program Led by Liberals?”

Q: I am taking a three-year program to become a spiritual director. After praying, I discerned that the program was for me and that I am called to help others in this way. However, the religious sisters that run the program are on the liberal side. I feel I’m not learning anything, and sometimes it takes away my peace. In one class one of the sisters teaching Christology presented theology of liberation as a legitimate option. I grew up in South America and I know firsthand how toxic it was. I voiced my opinion — maybe too passionately — and after that I have been criticized many times. The nun told me that I am ignorant. I feel she wants me to quit. The other students, most of them Americans, researched theology of liberation after watching me get so upset. I want to become a spiritual director but not in this environment. I don’t know if I should give it more time, or quit and move on. – F.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good that you want to help others through spiritual direction. It can be a very noble task.

The best spiritual direction is usually done in an atmosphere of peace and calm. This program that you are in doesn’t sound as though it is cultivating peace in you.

Perhaps you own passionate reply to the talk about liberation theology might have fueled the fires of discord. But what is done is done.

You might want to consider a few points.

First, ask yourself whether you are learning anything good in this program. There might be elements that are very helpful. Part of the art of life is learning how to pick good fruits in a less-than-perfect orchard. Perhaps you could pick the good and leave behind what isn’t so good.

Here it helps to keep your eye on the horizon: You are studying with a view toward helping others in their spiritual lives.

Second, if the program becomes unmanageable — that is, if the tensions are too great and make it almost impossible for you to actually benefit from whatever good you find in the instruction — then you might look for an alternative. Websites such as siena.org and www.spiritualdirection.com offer formation through various means. With flexibility you might be able to find a solution.

Third, whenever debates arise, try to see them as opportunities for evangelization. In presenting the Church’s official teaching on liberation theology (as explained in these two documents by the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith: Libertatis Nuntius and Libertatis Conscientia), for example, try to see debates as an opportunity to love others by helping them understand Gospel truth more deeply.

(For more reading, see the section on “The Liberationist Approach” in the document “The Interpretation of the Bible in the Church,” by the Pontifical Biblical Commission.)

A good way to prepare yourself for spiritual direction, aside from a solid prayer life and sacramental life and intense studies, is to learn to deal calmly with opposing viewpoints in the Church, which, admittedly, can be difficult.

People look at things very differently. They might have valid points … and some not-so-valid points. This is where you learn to separate the wheat from the chaff.

This is part of what discernment is about. And part of what you will face as a spiritual director.

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!