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“Ask a Priest: Why Would Saintly People Go to Confession Weekly?”

Q: I have two questions. (1) Why do some people who live saintly lives feel the need to receive the sacrament of reconciliation every week? What on earth would these good people have to say in there? Are they not wasting the priest’s time? (2) I myself don’t receive the sacrament often enough, or as often as I would like to, for the following reason. Isn’t it so that if we are to be forgiven, we must first forgive others? Well, in my case, I have people that I do not, cannot forgive. These people contributed to the death of my only child, a teenager. It’s a long story, but I doubt that I’ll ever forgive them. How can I? It’s not possible for me. I love my Catholic faith, but I stay away from the sacrament. Thank you, Father. – L.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I am sorry to hear about the death of your child. It must be a heartbreaking loss.

This is a moment to recall that our faith teaches that death doesn’t have the final word. Faith teaches us that we can hope to be eternally reunited someday with our loved ones in heaven.

That eye on eternity is one thing that prompts even saintly people to go to confession frequently. They want to be prepared for death at any time.

Also, the sacrament of reconciliation is not only a means of receiving forgiveness and absolution for sins. It is a conveyor of grace that helps us to grow in the spiritual life. For more on this, you can see this post by my friend and colleague, Father John Bartunek.

We should all seek growth in the spiritual life. For we aren’t called to just avoid sin. We are called to be saints. Those saintly people you mention probably arrived at that stage in part because of their frequent use of the sacrament of reconciliation.

As for your personal situation: It’s good to remember that Jesus suffered and died for all of us, even those who contributed to the death of your child. He loves them all, just as he does you and your child.

Jesus wants the best for each of us. He certainly wants us to be at peace. That is one reason he taught us in the Our Father to pray, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

Jesus in his wisdom knows that our reluctance to forgive can weigh down our hearts. Ironically, this lack of forgiveness doesn’t affect the culprits as much as it does the person who won’t forgive.

You write that it’s “not possible” for you to forgive. I invite you to reconsider that stance. If Jesus asks us to forgive, it’s because we will have the ability to do it, with his grace.

Moreover, there are risks to not forgiving.

One, it can alienate us from God’s forgiveness of our faults.

Two, it can hurt our spiritual growth. For a person to hold on to anger and deprive herself of the sacrament of reconciliation is not a recipe for happiness or holiness.

Then too there is the physical and psychological fallout from a lack of forgiveness. For it takes more energy to hold on to anger than to let it go.

Behind all this is the devil. He might have incited others to sin and to do things that led to the death of your child. But the devil isn’t satisfied with that. Now he’s after you and wants you to stay away from the sacraments. Is this a victory you want to give the devil?

Perhaps it would help to remember three things.

First, you do have the ability to forgive, since forgiveness is an act of the will. And you have free will.

Second, this act of the will doesn’t necessarily mean that your painful feelings will evaporate. They might remain for a long time. This is understandable; you have the heart of a mom, after all. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you must have warm, fuzzy feelings for those who contributed to the death of your child.

Forgiveness does mean that you can say, “Lord, this loss is painful for me. But I want to forgive those who brought me this pain. I want to forgive them because they are your beloved children, and you want them with you in heaven too. I want to forgive them as an expression of my own appreciation at being forgiven so many times.”

Third, your act of forgiveness and your return to the sacrament of confession and the Eucharist would be important steps toward letting the Gospel shape your life.

This in turn will nourish a sense of hope that you could someday be reunited with your child. In the meantime you can offer up your prayers and your reception of the sacraments for the repose of your child’s soul.

Along the way you might find other missions in life, other ways to help people. You could give the world a powerful witness by your forgiveness and your willingness to move on. Count on my prayers.

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Regnum Christi Schools Worldwide Work on Evangelizing

Members of Regnum Christi’s international network of schools recently met at Francisco de Vitoria University in Madrid, Spain to share ideas and chart a path for how schools can evangelize. 

Vero Fernández, who oversees ​​Regnum Christi Schools globally, explained the theme: ”“Reflecting and sharing how to live the Catholic identity and the evangelizing mission in Regnum Christi schools.” 

Representatives of campus ministry from all territories attended the meeting. The goal was, as Vero explained, “to clarify what we understand as evangelizing according to the Magisterium and what our school ideology is.” In addition, different territories shared best practices regarding students, teachers and the curriculum. 

Among the participants were Jorge López, Delegate of the General Director of Regnum Christi for Education, those responsible for campus ministry in each territory, delegates from several schools, and the director of Mano Amiga schools which provide education for underpriviledged children. 

It was the first time that those responsible for campus ministry met in this way. Now, they foresee an international meeting every two years. 

Jorge López, general director of the Lay Consecrated Men of Regnum Christi , gave a presentation titled: “Campus Ministry and evangelization in an RC school.” He presented the RC Education methodology and some magisterial documents that were used as sources. 

For her part, Vero Fernández gave a presentation analyzing who campus ministry is aimed at. In this session, she presented some reflections on evangelization as fruit of the recent Synod of Bishops and other ecclesial documents. Her objective was not so much to explain what campus ministry is, but rather how “our children, adolescents, teachers and families” are the main recipients of evangelization in Regnum Christi schools. 

During the second day, various best practices were presented, including Fr. Juan Antonio Granados‘ presentation on his work in evangelizing as director of the Stella Maris school in Madrid. 

Announce Christ and make him present as someone who is alive 

Among those present was Ignacio Hüe, Director of the School Development Center, in the Faculty of Education, Psychology and Family, of the Finis Terrae University in Chile. Ignacio answered some questions to show us the perception they have in their country about evangelization in Regnum Christi schools. 

What did you get out of the Regnum Christi schoola meeting held last week? 

Ignacio: In my case, the meeting was very meaningful in order to learn about the pastoral and formative lines of some of the Network’s territories and schools, along with meeting with several people linked to each of these experiences. Besides that, I was able to understand the project more deeply, and the challenges that we have as Regnum Christi schools in the world we live in and evangelize in. 

In your opinion, what should characterize evangelization in an RC school? Who benefits from campus ministry and evangelization in our schools? 

Ignacio: I think what should characterize evangelization in an RC school is the announcement of Christ and making him present, not as an idea or a theory, but as someone alive, who knows me and loves me intimately, is interested in me and saves me despite my imperfections. In this sense, I believe that evangelization should be a meeting between people who have in common a search and an encounter with Christ. Therefore, I think that the people who benefit from campus ministry and evangelization are all members of the educational community, without exception. 

In Chile, and knowing the experiences that exist in other places, what characterizes evangelization and campus ministry in the schools? 

Ignacio: I think that what characterizes evangelization and campus ministry in RC schools of the territory [of Chile] is the good relationship that exists between the schools’ campus ministry, Regnum Christi sections, and ECYD. I also see a desire to rethink current forms of evangelization in order to be up to the challenges imposed by the change of culture we are experiencing. I think working with alumni is also very positive. Maybe it is too early to comment on this, but perhaps work can be improved around the pastoral plans of the schools. 

You can read the original on the Regnum Christi site in Spanish. 

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Donna and Jeff Garrett: A Mission of Many Missions

Most average readers likely would have little difficulty meeting the requirements for a high-school diploma in the state of Nebraska. 

Nebraska requires students to complete a minimum of 200 high school credit hours before qualifying for graduation. A minimum of 80 percent of these hours must be completed in core curriculum subjects. According to The Education Commission of the States, www.ecs.org, the requirements for high school graduation are as follows, but check with your local district for a more detailed list: 

  • Four credits English/language arts 
  • Two credits mathematics 
  • Three credits social studies 
  • Two credits science 
  • Health Education (determined locally) 
  • Physical Education (determined locally) 
  • Fine Arts (determined locally) 
  • Foreign language (determined locally) 
  • Approved Electives (determined locally) 

 Of course, families may add their own “requirements” for their offspring: 

  • Learn a musical instrument 
  • Participate in a sport 
  • Hold down a part-time job 
  • Volunteer in a local service organization 
  • Attend Mass every Sunday 
  • Save money for college 

And…if you grew up in the family of Regnum Christi members Donna and Jeff Garrett of Omaha, Nebraska, you had to go on at least one extreme mission trip to a foreign country. To be clear, the foreign location won’t be Paris or Barcelona; it will be off the beaten track, a place that lacks Starbucks and Walmart – and probably always will. 

Mission is in the blood and soul of the Garretts – and probably always will be. 

Cradle Catholics who had always been involved with their local Church, they become involved with Regnum Christi in 1999. Donna joined first, after participating in a parish renewal program that convinced her that God was asking her for a deeper commitment. Jeff joined six months after Donna. Their lives – and the lives of their four children (Katie, Chris, Aly, and Zach, now grown adults) – would never be the same. 

The Garretts admit to being a “mission” family and have been involved in the full range of Regnum Christi apostolates. All members of the family have been on foreign missions to either Mexico or Haiti. 

“In many ways, our involvement in various apostolates has followed the development stages of our children,” Donna says. As a result, when first involved with Regnum Christi, they became small-group leaders in Familia, helping other young couples learn the Church’s plan for their lives. 

Donna and Jeff and the kids were involved with Challenge, Conquest, and ECyD early on. Mom and dad both served as club presidents. That involvement lasted nearly a decade, but as the kids got older they transitioned to missions. And whenever possible, they did missions as a family. 

The Garretts also led summer leadership camps for young men and women for the better part of a decade. And they launched mission programs at a local high school and Benedictine College, taking students from those schools on missions to foreign communities in need. 

Jeff and Donna also have served as team leaders and section directors. It might be hard to recall all the ways of apostolic service they have embraced. 

Today, as empty-nesters, the Garretts work with young couples as professional and spiritual mentors; they provide the same counseling for priests and seminarians. And they share their experience and wisdom in various RC leadership courses, most recently for an international program for young men. 

In addition to all of this, Donna has spent the past five years as a member of the Regnum Christi Territory Committee. Under the new RC structure, that group will be phasing out and so will her assignment. However, she will retain her other volunteer job the North American Territory Delegate for Apostolate and will continue to serve on the territory’s Mission Support Team. 

For his part, Jeff provides business consulting for various RC localities and apostolates. And he is the driving force behind The Regular Catholic Guy, a weekly blog and podcast designed for, well, regular Catholic guys. 

Although they are deeply involved in Regnum Christi apostolates, the Garretts have served on their local bishop’s advisory board and the parish council. 

“It is vital for us to meet with local pastors about any apostolic work we are doing,” Jeff says. “We need to understand their needs and start by giving them the support they need.” 

“We consistently have served the parish, whether through a parish ministry or RC apostolate,” Donna says. 

That has led to the Garretts taking on various parish tasks over the years – from cleaning the church to gardening to babysitting. 

“You simply have to ask the pastor what he needs,” Jeff says. 

If you have read this far, you likely would expect that the Garretts are extremely proud of all they have done serve the Church and promote Regnum Christi. But they are quick to point out that what is most important for them, what they are most grateful for is 31 years of marriage, four children – and the recent addition of their first grandchild. 

They identify themselves as a mission family and believe that for Regnum Christi to succeed in the future it must attract the entire family. 

“If we want to grow Regnum Christi in today’s demographics, we have to attract the couple,” Donna says. “We need to minister to married couples by realizing that a married person’s primary vocation in life is marriage.” 

Their home is an open door to the Legionaries, the Consecrated Women of Regnum Christ, and other members of Regnum Christi who travel through Omaha. They are known for great steak, good wine, bourbon, and the man cave. 

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Journey to Joy: Reflections on the 7 Sorrows of the Blessed Virgin Mary

How can joy and sorrow go together?  After all, you usually don’t find grieving widows laughing, nor newlyweds weeping. Joy and sorrow are so far removed from each other on the spectrum of human emotion that it seems illogical to stick them together. Yet there is a deep mystery here to unlock…

Your life has sorrows. You are meant for joy. Facing the reality of sorrow, we can either live in denial of the pain or dig deeper for meaning… and joy. In contemplating the seven sorrows of the Mother of Jesus, we can discover what so many Christians over the centuries have found: in Mary’s sorrows we find a model of faith and how to discover happiness in the midst of suffering.

A way to transform sadness into gladness? That is revolutionary! Discovering Mary’s method for converting sorrow to joy may just be the single most important step in your spiritual life.

Launch into these pages and begin your journey to joy: to the meaning, peace, and happiness for which you thirst.

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“Ask a Priest: What If Some People Think the Church Has Lots of Money?”

Q: I work in the construction industry and have heard this phrase a few times concerning construction projects that are owned or financially backed by the Catholic Church. Often, non-Catholics involved in the project, when discussing payment, will state: “Oh, we’ll get paid. They’re Catholics. They have all kinds of money!” I want to be able to defend the Catholic Church and provide a good response to others when I hear this. What do you think? – L.H.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I’m not sure whether there is a simple answer that would change their attitudes.

When people say that “The Catholic Church has a lot of money” they are often thinking that there is one centralized economy. The Church, in fact, doesn’t have one centralized bank account. Each entity — parish, school, diocese, monastery, etc. — has to pretty much fend for itself.

Some dioceses and parishes are wealthier than others. Many parishes live week by week, depending heavily on the collection basket. Communities of religious orders run the gamut from poor, simple ones in rural or inner-city areas to those attached to amply endowed institutions such as universities.

The Church does have a lot of property, but it uses that property in its work of ministry, education, health care, and aid to the poor.

In general the Church often struggles like anyone else to meet its expenses. Over the past 20 years especially there has been a lot of downsizing as parishes and schools were closed, chancery staffs reduced, and properties sold off. Whether your companions would be persuaded by any of this is another issue.

Perhaps the better approach is to look for opportunities to share your faith or to bring up moral issues in conversations.

Be prepared for skepticism, though. If people are critical of the Church, hear them out. And don’t be afraid to affirm them when they say something accurate. The Church has a human dimension which is all too fallible. There is no denying that.

Still, if we are willing to admit the Church’s mistakes, people might be open to us when we speak about its good points, such as its works of charity to the poor.

With this and your own example charity you might start a dialogue and open up the hearts of your companions.

Try to see your work as a place that you can evangelize. It’s a venue where you can share your faith and engage in fruitful discussions.

What might help is to pray for your co-workers each day. And keep up those acts of charity, especially through a habit of speaking well of others. All this will give the Holy Spirit something to work with.

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“Ask a Priest: What If a Relative Is Dabbling in New Age Stuff?”

Q: I have a relative who has been posting messages from a certain website. In this last one, which she posted on Facebook, it referred to this Angel 818 and all these things that would happen. It sounds like New Age stuff. I think she is a baptized Catholic and says that she prays to Jesus and Mary, but this doesn’t sound right. We are close relatives but not that close. My inclination is to write her a letter explaining as charitably as possible that these messages are incompatible with Christian belief and to be careful. Should I do so, or just pray for her and mind my own business? My guess is that it might be the end of what little relationship there is between us, but I don’t want to avoid a work of mercy if it is my duty to do so. – M.L.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Your concern for your relative is praiseworthy. While we aren’t called to go around policing others, we are called to look out for their spiritual well-being as best we can.

The key here is to do something out of love and out of a genuine desire to help a person.

Human nature being what it is, it’s good to take into account how a person will receive a certain message. It’s one thing to say the right thing. It’s another to say the thing in the right way.

So how might you proceed? A few points might be worth considering.

First, your relative says that she prays to Jesus and Mary. That’s a good sign. That shows that she has some kind of a spiritual life and that she might be trying to live it as best she knows how. So there is good will here.

Second, this mention of Angel 818 gives you a pretext for dialogue with her. For starters, you could even compliment her on her interest in angels, etc.

This in turn could be an opportunity to bring her closer to the faith. For the Holy Spirit might use this moment to touch your relative’s heart and enlighten her mind, through you.

Third, you might want to check out that website (assuming that it won’t hurt your faith) and see if you can detect some of its specific flaws. Then, look in the Catechism for numbers that refute the site.

You might ask your relative how she found the site and what she thinks of it. Do a little probing. Again, with the help of the Catechism, you might be able to address some of her specific points.

Before doing any of the above, it would good to pray for guidance. Ask the Spirit to open your relative’s heart.

If your e-mails or calls come across as loving and respectful, that will help your relative be open to what you have to share.

You might want to be prepared to suggest some reading to her. One suggestion is a posting from Peter Kreeft: http://www.peterkreeft.com/topics/angels.htm. I hope some of this helps.

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Athletes from Regnum Christi School Medal in Worldwide High School Track Meet

Students from Everest Academy in Chile won two medals and helped Chile place seventh overall in women’s track and field. 

The International School Sport Federation held the World Schools Championship in Split, Croatia, May 13-19, 2019. Delegations from 33 countries participated. 

The Everest School of Santiago sent several students to represent Chile. Luz Ackermann won gold in long jump and Elisa Keitel won bronze in the 100-meter hurdles. Overall, they helped Chile place 7th out of 30 countries with young women’s delegations. 

Luz Ankermann triumphed in long jump with a leap of 5.78 meters (18.96 feet). Her record jump beat 28 competitors in her group and 57 in the whole competition. Luz exclaimed, “We are quite happy because we thought we could get into the top eight and, in fact, we did. We still want more, but we are very happy because almost all of us managed to make our personal bests and we surpassed what was expected. My personal best was waiting for me because all this semester I was very consistent and I had done well.” 

Luz added, “I knew I was at my best and that in a World Championship, with motivation and a bar like the one we had, I could make my best jump. I think this will help me a lot for the heptathlon, which is the competition that I want to continue to do throughout my life. This achievement motivated me quite a bit and I want to continue competing once I leave school, although I know it will be difficult.” 

Along with the two medalists, a few other students had top-ten finishes. Elisa Medel placed fifth in javelin (35.96 meters), Catalina Klempau placed sixth in long jump (5.56 meters), and Catalina also placed ninth in the 100-meter sprint (13.02 seconds). 

In all, 12 athletes from Regnum Christi schools represented Chile in the World Schools Championship. They had each qualified as top athletes in the Grand Prix of UC School Athletics in 2018. The Regnum Christi schools from Chile gained 695 points by the end of the competition and were only 73 points behind the champion Sportgymnasium Magdeburg from Germany. 

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“Ask a Priest: Does the Soul Receive the Divine Essence?”

Q: Does the soul receive the divine essence, and is it present in that soul when the human dies? And is receiving the essence different from what some call “participating” in it? — K.D.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: The divine essence is another way of saying the essence of God — what makes him God. In philosophical terms we could say that God’s essence is his existence. “I am who I am” (Exodus 3:14).

We don’t receive God’s essence – that belongs to him alone – but rather we participate in it. We benefit from it and “share in the divine nature” (2 Peter 1:4). Scripture says that to those who “did accept [Christ] he gave power to become children of God” (John 1:12).

This sharing in the divine nature is a little like a baby who is born to American parents in the U.S. The baby automatically benefits from certain privileges of citizenship that aren’t of the baby’s own doing. The benefits we derive from sharing in the divine nature, of course, are much deeper and greater.

Once created, we depend on God to hold us in existence at every moment. We can’t exist on our own power. God alone exists on his own.

At death, the soul leaves the body and goes to its particular judgment. It remains essentially the same soul as it was before the death of the body. Which means it continues to participate in God’s essence by its (the soul’s) very existence. And this goes on for eternity.

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“Ask a Priest: What If I Feel Marriage Holds Me Back?”

Q: Sometimes I feel trapped in the vocation I am in. I am married, and don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and son so much, and I think my husband is the best a woman could pray for. But I have so much passion to do and be more for God than marital life would not allow. Also … how do you tell a husband that you aren’t interested in physical intimacy? This is the cause of 90% of our squabbles (I’ve been married for over 10 years). – A.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Every path to holiness is usually a path filled with crosses. That seems to be what you are facing now.

The key thing is to see, with the eyes of faith, that your fidelity to your marriage can be precisely the quickest path to holiness. It can be a genuine way to serve God.

As a married woman and a mom, you called to a particular form of living out the Gospel. You might feel the urge to be in adoration all day or to be a missionary in a foreign land. But that obviously isn’t the path to which God is calling you, at least not now.

But let’s step back a moment.

Let’s say for the sake of argument that God had called you to religious life when you were young. For whatever reason you chose the married life. God respects that choice. He will give you the grace you need to live that life if you are faithful to your prayer and commitments.

Married life for you might not be as easy as following a religious vocation. But what’s done is done. God respected your free will. Now you simply called to live out the consequences of your choice.

I don’t want any of this to sound fatalistic. On the positive side you should try to see that your day-to-day commitment to your husband and children can be a powerful means of grace for yourself and them and others around you. Your example might be helping other women in ways you don’t even realize.

This doesn’t exclude doing more for God, of course. Perhaps you can dedicate more time to volunteer work, such as visiting shut-ins or teaching catechism to young people.

There are also married women who dedicate some of their time to apostolic activities right in their own parishes (see, for example, the “Walking with Purpose” website).

You and your loved ones might also consider doing family missions (see “Family Missions Company,” for example, or Mission Youth). In some missions like this, you go door-to-door — in Holy Week, for instance — and share the faith and invite people to go to confession and attend the liturgies of the Easter triduum.

In this way you can do more for God while still attending to the needs of your family. For growth in holiness is compatible with your life as a wife and mother.

Regarding those squabbles with your husband in regard to physical intimacy: This is a normal area of disconnect for couples married for about 10 years.

Try to see this situation as an opportunity. Your sacrament (your marriage) will continue to be a source of grace in your own lives and for the world around you only if your relationship with your husband continues to grow and deepen. This always requires attention to four areas of intimacy: physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual.

The point here is that you still have more to discover about each other, and more (and deeper) joys to encounter. But you have to choose to pursue growth together.

It sounds as though these squabbles (as you put it) are a sign that your relationship might be ready for a season of transition. I would encourage you to take advantage of that. Learn about how to continue growing your marriage – and learn about it together.

You could go on a marriage renewal retreat (see Worldwide Marriage Renewal, for example).

Also, you could read some good marriage books together (for example, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman, or Holy Sex! A Catholic Guide to Toe-Curling, Mind-Blowing, Infallible Loving by Dr. Gregory Popcak).

If your husband is not open to those kinds of things, you can read the books on your own and then try to apply what you learn to your marriage. (Another worthwhile book for you would be Shaunti Feldhahn’s For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men.)

Remember: Nothing that takes you away from your marriage or causes it to stop growing is going to help you feel more fulfilled. So it’s important to be intentional in your efforts to continue growing in the marriage.

For more material about marriage from a Catholic perspective, you can visit this site: http://www.foryourmarriage.org/the-vocation-of-marriage/. I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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Alex Kucera

Atlanta

Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!