Dear Friends,

July 29 marks the liturgical memorial of Mary, Martha and Lazarus, three siblings who represent hospitality. We can learn both the practical aspects and interior depth of hospitality from each sibling.

Mary of Bethany is, of course, known for her contemplative heart. She sits at the Lord’s feet, listening attentively to every word, observing every gesture, noticing every emotion. Her heart seeks to be in tune with her Beloved Master. The fruit of her loving attention is poured out in aromatic balsam that anoints, blesses and calls the attention of others. Yet, she does not seek to be the center. Her gesture of adoration serves as an invitation to examine our own dispositions of profound attention to the Lord.

Martha gets a bad rap every time. But she is the active one, sacrificing comfort in order to wait upon her Lord and all his disciples. She offers her gifts of service to all who arrive, regardless of their origin and background. Yes, she would like a little more help every once in a while. She invites us to learn equanimity in the midst of service, purifying our intentions so as to discern when to ask for help and when to simply serve with a joyful heart.

Lazarus is the faithful friend, eager to welcome Jesus. We can imagine that he does not patronize Jesus nor treat him as a distant idol. Jesus finds rest in this friend who welcomes him in simplicity and joy, willing to offer everything in his power. In his surrender unto death, Lazarus testifies that Jesus is the Messiah who gives life.

You won’t find hospitality among Thomas Aquinas’ classic divisions of virtues in his Summa Theologica. But perhaps it is time to add it to our list. It fits every personality. What gifts of hospitality do you naturally offer your family, friends, God? And how can you grow in a living disposition of hospitality towards God and others?

For further reading, check out the 2021 Vatican decree on the “Celebration of Saints Martha, Mary and Lazarus.”

Your Friend in Christ,

Jennifer Ristine
Author of “Mary Magdalene, Insights from Ancient Magdala” and “Nine Days with Mary Magdalene”