Q: In my life I have had some doubts. It seems to me that when questions are raised, clergy of many denominations are defensive or take offense. I want to be clear that I would never mock anyone for having a belief. So why do some clergy take offense at questions? I do not understand why combativeness or defensiveness or insults come into play. Why can’t we all have open dialogue? – W.B.
Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC
A: I’m sorry to hear about your experience. I can’t speak for all Catholic clergy, of course, much less those of Protestant denominations.
Ideally, Catholic clergy should be able to offer answers or at least point someone in the right direction. They should take up the advice of Scripture and “Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope” (1 Peter 3:15).
Being human, though, they might be caught off-guard in the middle of a difficult day. Or a question stumps them, and they feel bad about not being able to offer an adequate reply on the spot. Not everyone has mastered the art of apologetics.
Another factor could be the way a question is posed. Some inquirers, without realizing it, might come across as combative themselves.
So the reasons for the cold shoulders could vary. This isn’t to condone any bad behavior. But clergy are human and make mistakes too.
In any case, it helps to remember that we are here to help one another get to heaven. We want to stay focused on Jesus.
Where there is disunity, the devil is usually lurking in the background.