Ask a Priest: “What If People Avoid Me Since My Conversion?”

Q: Since my conversion from Protestantism to Catholicism, I have been abandoned by some family members and friends on Facebook. These are cousins and friends from grade school and high school and beyond. I do not preach on Facebook, but I do express my love for the Catholic faith. Sometimes I share a reading from the Liturgy of the Hours, which I am devoted to. Each and every post is ignored and passed over by most of my family and friends. My audience has dwindled from 15 friends to only two. Most of my friends are devout Protestants. I don’t judge them, but I seek to understand why they have abandoned me. Is it normal for family and friends to reject someone’s conversion to Catholicism? Am I doing something wrong? — G.W.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC:

A: Without knowing more details, I’d say that your situation isn’t unusual.

As a Catholic you now have a different outlook than do your Protestant friends and relatives. You and they have chosen different paths.

Your posting of spiritual readings from the Liturgy of the Hours might come across as either too heavy for Facebook or as an attempt to proselytize them. Which might turn them off.

Moreover, given the availability of so many websites and social media outlets, people tend to gravitate toward things that reinforce their beliefs and shy away from those that challenge them.

Your Catholicism might simply be outside their way of thinking; hence, they have moved on. I wouldn’t take the online silence too personally.

My short advice is to cultivate a network of Catholic friends and get involved in volunteer work for the Church. That might give you something positive to aim at.

Count on my prayers.

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!