Q: A priest did not give me absolution for my sins because he said they were venial. What should I do, since he only believes that mortal sins should be confessed? – J.
Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC
A: The short answer is: look for another confessor.
Absolution can and should be given for venial sins.
While it’s true that only mortal sins need to be confessed, and that there are other ways to have venial sins remitted (such as worthy reception of Communion), the Church also encourages mention of lesser sins.
The Catechism in No. 1458 says, “Without being strictly necessary, confession of everyday faults (venial sins) is nevertheless strongly recommended by the Church. Indeed the regular confession of our venial sins helps us form our conscience, fight against evil tendencies, let ourselves be healed by Christ and progress in the life of the Spirit. By receiving more frequently through this sacrament the gift of the Father’s mercy, we are spurred to be merciful as he is merciful ….”
You might consider sending a note or e-mail to the pastor (anonymously is fine), pointing out what happened and including the Catechism number mentioned above. If the pastor was the confessor, you might instead send the note to the bishop.
In any case, keep bringing venial sins to the confessional. The sacrament can be a path toward holiness.
And pray that that priest doesn’t mislead souls.
