Q: I have recently begun a new relationship with an amazing Catholic man. I want our relationship to be pure and pleasing to God in every way. However, I struggle sometimes to know whether certain things might be displeasing to God. My biggest concern is hanging out in his room. Although we are both adults, we both are living with our parents for the time being, so there aren’t a lot of options for places to hang out. When I was over at his house he wanted to hang out in his room, but afterward I couldn’t help wondering if that was wrong. Thank you in advance for your help! — Maggie

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC:

A: If you are asking this question, that might be a sign that you think something could go wrong.

A man and woman in close quarters (a bedroom, no less) and alone for an extended period of time is an opportunity for temptation to grave sin.

As you mention, he is living with his parents. What would happen when they are away?

A better question to ask is this: What can you do to help each other stay chaste?

It might be good to give yourselves parameters and to plan your time together so that you are in public as much as possible.

This could involve a variety of things such as volunteer work at the parish, Eucharistic adoration, visits to museums, attendance at lectures, and meals with your respective parents or other relatives.

This will give you both the chance to learn about each other within venues that afford a healthy distance.

It might be worth having a heart-to-heart talk with your friend about this.

For related reading, see the Chastity Project page.

I hope that some of this helps. Count on my prayers.