Q: I’m a Catholic convert still living at home for financial reasons. I have received the preliminary sacraments (except confirmation) and was able to go to Mass for almost a year. Recently, however, because of some issues with my family, I haven’t been able to attend. My parents told me that I must leave their home if I am to start attending Mass again. I can’t afford to move out without a roommate, so I’ve been trying to find one online, but it’s been tough. I found a girl renting out a room that I think might be a good match, but she practices New Age, though to what extent I am unsure. She does have several Buddhist and Hindu statues decorating the apartment, and from her social media I have ascertained that she is into astrology. I am concerned about living in that sort of environment, but I also desperately want to go back to Mass. If I pass up this opportunity it might be a long time before I find another one. Would it be too risky to live with someone who practices New Age, or would it be OK as long as I don’t get involved? — G.
Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC:
My heart goes out to you!
The situation with your parents is unfortunate. In one sense, they have no right to infringe on your decision to be Catholic and to attend Mass.
You don’t mention why they are so opposed to your attending Mass.
Perhaps they harbor insurmountable anti-Catholic prejudices picked up from their own religious or family background. They might think they are doing the right thing by pressuring you to forgo Mass.
As for this potential roommate: It’s not ideal to be rooming with someone who is involved with New Age and astrology, etc.
Just being in the same quarters can open you up to problems, especially if her activities blend into the occult.
For now, you might consider a few steps:
— Speak with your pastor or confessor. And reach out to a family member who could help you to dialogue with your parents.
— Intensify your prayers and sacrifices for your parents.
— Keep looking for alternative housing. Perhaps there might be an older couple or a widow who would rent out a room.
— Keep looking for a Catholic roommate. See if there are any Catholic young adults clubs in your diocese. You might be able to connect with someone.
In short, try to see that your options are not just missing Mass or rooming with a New Ager. Pray to the Holy Spirit for help in finding a third way forward.
