November 11, 2025

“Ask a Priest: Is the Desire for Praise Wrong?”

Q: From what I understand, vainglory is the desire to receive compliments and praise from others. But I always thought that this was a natural part of being a pro-social human being; it’s normal to want to belong and to have our hard work acknowledged. I want to get a good annual review at my job. I want my boyfriend to like my new dress. I’ll ask my friends what they think of my new painting, hoping they like it. Is this wrong? Is this somehow sinful? I used to think it was only sinful when you were putting man’s opinions and praise over God’s, but is any desire for praise or affirmation by our peers and superiors a sin? — Kaitlyn

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC:

Like a lot of things, vainglory, or vanity, can appear anywhere on a wide spectrum.

As your comments suggest, it would be a bit unnatural if we didn’t appreciate being noticed, complimented or thanked, at least occasionally. Even Jesus seemed put off by the cured lepers who failed to show gratitude (Luke 17:11-19).

Seeking the attention of others, of course, can be taken to extremes.

It wouldn’t be good and indeed could be sinful if we spent our lives constantly seeking affirmation for everything we do. That would hint at self-centeredness or even narcissism.

Then there is the spiritual dimension.

One of the factors for a person’s growth in holiness is detachment from the things of this world.

This includes detachment from material things and money, etc., as well as the need for praise from others.

This doesn’t come easily to us. 

Jesus himself is the great model of detachment: He was born poor, lived poor, died poor.

And he kept focused on his mission even though at times his hometown rejected him, the religious leaders of the day conspired against him, and even his own apostles abandoned or betrayed him on the eve of his death.

Growth in holiness means, in part, the imitation of Jesus in his virtues. He made his Father in heaven his top priority.

The fact that you are raising questions about vainglory/vanity might be a sign that the Holy Spirit is nudging you to be careful not to seek the esteem of other humans too much.

So how could you grow in a spirit of detachment? 

The short answer is to try to do everything for the glory of God and for the good of others.

When you work, do it for God’s glory and to help others. When you dress, do it in a modest way that reflects your dignity as a daughter of God. If you paint, do it to help bring a bit of joy and beauty into the lives of others.

When doing acts of charity, aim to do them discreetly so as not to draw attention to yourself.

Also, cultivate devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary. Imitate her modesty and simplicity.

Do all this and you can be on the way to becoming a saint.

I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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Praise

Dear Friends,

 

Every day I will bless you, my God and King, and praise your name forever and ever… The Lord is faithful in all his words and gracious in all his deeds. —Psalm 145

The Psalms are the human heart’s great cry to God. Every emotion, every thought, every doubt, every hope, and every experience becomes a prayer. And God wants it thus.  As the spiritual masters put it, in the Psalms God teaches us how to pray.

And we notice something interesting as the Psalms progress. Some Psalms are primarily howls of anguish. Some Psalms are primarily exclamations of trust. Some Psalms are primarily prayers of petition or intercession. But the last five Psalms – Psalms 145-150 – are all songs of praise.

In fact, the Hebrew name for the Psalms (Tehillim) means, precisely, “Praises.” We are created to praise, to “live for the praise of [God’s] glory” (Ephesians 1:12).  In the end there is only praise.

And as the trees turn brown and the days draw short and the year begins to die, can we praise God? From our own lives – whatever they look like – can we, perhaps, pray the last lines of the last Psalm? “Let everything that breathes praise the Lord! Praise the Lord!”

God bless you,

In Christ,

Fr. John Pietropaoli
Two Priests and a Mic podcaster

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November 11, 2025 – Servant-Minded Identity

Memorial of Saint Martin of Tours, Bishop

 

Luke 17:7-10

Jesus said to the Apostles: “Who among you would say to your servant who has just come in from plowing or tending sheep in the field, ‘Come here immediately and take your place at table’? Would he not rather say to him, ‘Prepare something for me to eat. Put on your apron and wait on me while I eat and drink. You may eat and drink when I am finished’? Is he grateful to that servant because he did what was commanded? So should it be with you. When you have done all you have been commanded, say, ‘We are unprofitable servants; we have done what we were obliged to do.’”

Opening Prayer: Lord Jesus, make my heart more like yours. Grant me the heart of a true servant of God.

Encountering Christ: 

  1. Servant of God: The Catholic Church uses the term “Servant of God” when someone’s case has been opened for possible canonization and the Church is in the first steps of investigating the person’s life and works. The title is telling. These persons are not honored for his or her human achievements, as great as they may be. They are evaluated for their identity before God. Any holiness is primarily God’s doing, for only God is holy. We participate in his holiness through our life of virtue. To attribute holiness to one’s self is the very opposite of being a servant. It is an attempt to possess that which rightly belongs to the master.

     

  2. Attitude: Today’s culture decries anything that smacks of human rights violations, slavery included, and rightly so. But there is a difference between being a slave and being a servant. The former is imposed upon a person at the expense of one’s free choice. The latter can be a disposition of chosen service. It is a matter of attitude, a matter of the heart. In our duty and responsibilities, in our initiatives of noble endeavors, what is our attitude towards those we serve? Do we seek acknowledgement, reward, and our just due? Even if recompense is offered for one’s services, with what disposition is it received? Are we grateful to have had the opportunity to serve? Do we serve in light of our eternal goal? From what identity do we operate as we perform our daily duties? As a servant or as a master? As one who freely gives from the heart or as one who deserves to take?

     

  3. Useless Servants: Jesus invites us to understand our role, not to lower our self-esteem to the point of resigning ourselves. This seems like such a countercultural attitude, but the essence of the message is that we give what we have received. We participate in the work of our Creator and Redeemer. The great work of God is recapitulation: a bringing of all things under the reign of God. To effect this requires living in the truth, a humble standing in our true identity. We are God’s creation, made his children by baptism, and gifted to be able to participate in his life and work in this world. To do this, we seek to serve in a way that gives glory to God and assures that he reigns in the hearts of all.

Conversing with Christ: Lord Jesus, grant that I may recognize the tremendous gifts I have been given and not seek to be master of them, but to give them away to others. Help me be aware of my identity as a child of God and thus a servant of your great plan of salvation. Thank you for letting me participate as a useless servant in your saving work.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will examine my attitude toward my daily duty and toward others that I am called to serve. I will strive to be grateful for the opportunities I have to be a useless servant, participating in your mission in the world.

For Further Reflection: Fr. Robert Barron on giving away the grace you’ve been given.

Jennifer Ristine is a consecrated woman of Regnum Christi dedicated to spiritual and faith formation through teaching, conferences, writing, and spiritual direction. While serving in Ancient Magdala she wrote Mary Magdalene: Insights from Ancient Magdala and “Nine Days with Mary Magdalene.”

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!