September 19, 2025

“Ask a Priest: Is a Surgery OK If It Could Tempt Others to Sin?”

Q: I would like to know if it is a mortal sin for me to get breast surgery for aesthetic purposes only, given that the surgeon and nurses would have to see those parts of my body and could have bad thoughts or be aroused? Thanks. – Monica

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC A:

The fact that you ask this question might be a sign that the Holy Spirit is nudging you to rethink this operation.

Health is a gift, and we should take reasonable care to protect it. This could include avoiding unnecessary procedures and medications.

Surgery of any kind poses a risk (and expense), so you might want to ask whether the operation is warranted. Is it purely for vanity?

It’s interesting that you are concerned about being an occasion of sin for the surgeon and nurses. Healthcare professionals are no strangers to seeing body parts.

But what about people who later might be tempted to lustful looks at your “enhanced” body parts? Have you considered them?

Of course, we can’t be responsible for how everyone around us reacts all the time. But it is laudable to avoid unnecessary things that might scandalize others.

Another issue is your self-esteem.

If you want more confidence, it helps to appreciate your dignity as a daughter of God, created in his image.

Jesus tells us to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). Sometimes we overlook the first part of that directive.

We should love ourselves in a healthy way, not in a selfish way. That implies accepting ourselves as we are.

This doesn’t rule out trying to cultivate our talents and keeping fit. We need to be careful, though, not to focus too much on surface things.

After all, a woman’s most beautiful feature is her loving heart.

Some of this might be worth taking to prayer.

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September 19, 2025 – Accompanying Jesus

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Memorial of Saints Cornelius, Pope, and Cyprian, Bishop, Martyrs

 

Luke 8:1-3

Jesus journeyed from one town and village to another, preaching and proclaiming the Good News of the Kingdom of God. Accompanying him were the Twelve and some women who had been cured of evil spirits and infirmities, Mary, called Magdalene, from whom seven demons had gone out, Joanna, the wife of Herod’s steward Chuza, Susanna, and many others who provided for them out of their resources.

Opening Prayer: Blessed are you, Father, Lord of Heaven and earth; you have revealed to little ones the mysteries of the Kingdom. Grant me the grace of humility to be a little one of God, the grace to understand what you reveal to me, and the grace to follow where you lead me.

Encountering Christ:

  1. The Women: To our modern ears, it is difficult to grasp how radical it was for women to be among Jesus and his disciples, especially women considered ritually impure due to their infirmities and sinful lifestyle. A Gospel commentary says, “Early rabbinic documents caution against speaking with women in public. The more common attitude of first-century Palestinian Judaism toward women is expressed in the Gospel of John (4:27): “At that moment his disciples returned, and were amazed that he (Jesus) was talking with a woman […].” To accompany means to be in association with, so Jesus not only spoke to women, he included them as his disciples. What could it have been about Jesus, an itinerant preacher, that encouraged women to break free of societal limitations and join him? In his Letter to Women, St. John Paul II explained, “Transcending the established norms of his own culture, Jesus treated women with openness, respect, acceptance, and tenderness. In this way he honored the dignity which women have always possessed according to God’s plan and in his love.” The Good News of the Kingdom of God proclaims every person possesses a dignity given by God in love. The bad news is many people do not know this. As disciples of Christ, may we be ambassadors of this Good News to our world.

  2. The Apostles: “Accompanying him were the Twelve and some women.” The Apostles had to learn, as the women did, to imagine a new way of being—what Jesus called the Kingdom of God. St. Cyprian, whose feast we celebrate today, said, “It may even be . . . that the Kingdom of God means Christ himself, whom we daily desire to come, and whose coming we wish to be manifested quickly to us. For as he is our resurrection, since in him we rise, so he can also be understood as the Kingdom of God, for in him we shall reign.” To set our minds and hearts on God, like the Apostles and the woman who accompanied Jesus did, we have to journey with him. Jesus took time with his disciples, teaching and witnessing to them about what life in God means. The presence of Jesus now dwells in the Church, through the Eucharist, the sacraments, Church teachings, and his word. Do we participate in the sacraments, especially the Mass and Reconciliation? Do we spend time with our Lord in Adoration of his Blessed Sacrament? Are we learning what our Church teaches? Are we spending time with Jesus, the Word, in Scripture?

  3. Christian Unity: From when Jesus walked among us, through the many centuries of the Church, and until today, men and women struggle with societal limitations. We continue to be disunified as a Church. St. Cyprian said, “You cannot have God for your Father if you do not have the Church for your mother…. God is one and Christ is one, and his Church is one; one is the faith, and one is the people cemented together by harmony into the strong unity of a body…. If we are the heirs of Christ, let us abide in the peace of Christ; if we are the sons of God, let us be lovers of peace.” The work of the Christian, as it was from the beginning, is to seek unity by lovingly accompanying each other, regardless of race, sex, religion, ideologies, politics, lifestyles, cultures, etc. It can be a daunting task, for which we need the strength of the sacraments.

Conversing with Christ: Lord Jesus, you came to unite all people to you. I continue to criticize, judge, and separate myself from others. I find strength and consolation in that, knowing our weakness, you gave us your Church to journey with us. I ask for the grace to persevere in helping you unite us all in your Kingdom.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will spend some time praying for unity before Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament.

For Further Reflection: The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops’ Synod Prayer for Unity.

Nan Balfour is an events coordinator for Pilgrim Center of Hope, a Catholic Evangelization Ministry that answers Christ’s call by guiding people to encounter him so as to live in hope as pilgrims in daily life. She is also a mother, writer, and speaker on Catholic topics.

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!