May 20, 2025

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: What If My Son Is Childless After Years of Marriage?”

Q: Should I ask (if so, how) my son and daughter-in-law, who are otherwise practicing their Catholic faith sincerely and consistently, why they are not having children? They are 31 and 30 years old, respectively, and have been married five years. They are both financially very well off. They are both from fairly large families, so it is familiar to them. – Elizabeth

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Your desire for grandchildren is understandable, and your apparent love of big families is admirable.

Whether and how to bring up the topic would depend on lots of factors that only you could gauge.

There might well be other factors unknown to you; for what transpires between spouses can be very secret and sacred.

If you have a good relationship with your son and his wife, you should be able to broach the subject respectfully and delicately.

In the meantime, it would be good to intensify your prayers for them.

They are living in a very anti-child world and might not enjoy the kind of support from their contemporaries that past generations of young parents had.

Count on my prayers.

 

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Faithful in the In-Between

Dear Friends,

 

Has the Lord ever placed on your heart a desire to serve Him in a particular way and then life seemed to complicate every effort you made to do so?

St. Francis of Rome was a lay woman who, from a very young age, felt called to a religious vocation. Her parents being of nobility had other ideas. She was forced to marry and take over the duties of managing a large household and upholding her state in society. Together with her husband, she had three children.

Francis’ love for the Lord inspired her to many acts of charity, often prompting her in-laws to reprimand her. It seemed her every inspiration was thwarted by her family members. However, Francis remained faithful, and through her pious living converted her household. When war and famine descended upon Rome, Francis served those less fortunate, despite losing two children. God worked many miracles through Francis, even multiplying food supplies to feed the poor.

With her husband’s support, Francis started a lay order of women, the Oblates of Mary, associated with the Benedictines. Eventually, they founded a house where widowed members could live in community.

God rewarded Francis’ faithfulness with an archangel, one she could see and converse with, to be her guardian. Francis took on fasts of bread and water and wore a hairshirt sometimes. Her angel once commanded her to stop her severe penances: “You should understand by now, that the God who made your body and gave it to your soul as a servant never intended that the spirit should ruin the flesh and return it to him despoiled.”

Widowed at 52, Francis was finally able to follow her heart’s desire to live as a religious. God never ceased to call Francis to Himself, He just had a lot of plans for her in the in-between.

If you feel frustrated in your life as an apostle, St. Francis is a great reminder that the path God leads each one of us down is often filled with twists and turns.

Yours in the Heart of Jesus,

Donna

 

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ECYD’s Pledge of Friendship and a Vision for the Future

ECYD’s Pledge of Friendship and a Vision for the Future

Over fifty years ago, a group of boys made a Pledge of Friendship with Christ in ECYD for the first time. Since then thousands of adolescents have encountered the Lord and decided to walk together with him. Many of them are now parents, priests, and consecrated laymen and laywomen who fondly remember that first invitation from Christ who approached and asked them, “Do you want to be my friend?” This friendship is the heart of ECYD – a pledge of friendship with Christ and with one another, to build a new world according to the Gospel.

Today, there are about 4,300 ECYD youth, in fifth grade through high school, currently participating in clubs, events, retreats, and camps across North America, and about half of these participants have made the ECYD Pledge of Friendship to Christ and have joined ECYD. And it only continues to expand: there are approximately 140 ECYD teams across the United States and Canada, with new teams popping up regularly in new locations, fostering the growth and development of ECYD and its mission.

In November of 2024, Fr. Michael Picard and Fr. Kenneth LeBlanc of the Legionary community in Calgary, Alberta travelled to Regina, Saskatchewan for the Feast of Christ the King, where 11 young people made the ECYD Pledge of Friendship. Although Regina has had a vibrant Conquest Boys Club for over 25 years, this is the first time that ECYD has been introduced into the section. Mark and Kirsten Joubert, who help to run the Challenge and Conquest Clubs in Regina, knew that they wanted the youth to take an extra step of intentionality and commitment in their own faith lives.

“We have great clubs here in Regina, but we wanted the youth to take that step of accepting Christ on their own. We understood the pledge as a way for the youth to take ownership of their faith, making Christ the center of their lives. ECYD was the missing link – the link between the Challenge and Conquest clubs and Regnum Christi. As we look to the future, we know that ECYD will play an important part in the growth of Regnum Christi here and in helping to fulfill the mission of loving Christ and serving the church, and it’s exciting to see how God is working in the lives of our young people!”

Fr. Patrick O’Loughlin took the Pledge of Friendship himself at an ECYD convention in Cornwall, Ontario when he was just nine years old. “I still remember where I was standing in the chapel, because it was a landmark moment in my life. It’s really cool now as a priest that my ministry is actually being able to facilitate those experiences in ECYD.”  Today, Fr. Patrick works out of Atlanta as the Director of the ECYD Life Department, a national team that serves and supports the growth and development of ECYD in the territory by offering support to the local ECYD Directors, adult formators, team leaders and members. This team, made up of ECYD leaders from cities across North America, meet regularly to grow the ECYD identity and plan programming and events. Some of these events include ECYD Mission Corps, a month-long summer missionary program for high school students, national conventions, international trips and pilgrimages, a national sports tournament in Indiana for middle school boys, and the Ignition Retreat, a five-day retreat for high school boys held at the Legionary seminary in Cheshire, Connecticut.

Fr. Patrick also credits ECYD’s trajectory of growth over the past few years to the decade-long Regnum Christi renewal, which gave the team an opportunity to reset and regroup, and to renew their own resources and organization. And throughout this renewal, the identity of ECYD became clear:

“ECYD is not just a program. It has programs – like Challenge, Conquest, the Leadership Training Program, and Knights of the Altar – but it’s more than something that kids attend. It’s something that they become a part of, that they bring into all the different areas of their life. It’s the Regnum Christi charism, articulated and adapted to adolescents who are living the charism in their own lives, at their own age.”

In ECYD, the RC charism is expressed fundamentally through cultivating friendship with Jesus, a friendship that resembles the same relationship the apostles themselves had with Christ. “We want them to have the same experience of Jesus that the apostles had, knowing that Jesus is their best friend and their King, someone who loves them more than anything else in the world,” says Fr. Patrick. “But also, they should feel challenged, called, and summoned to follow their King, to help build up his kingdom, and to go on this adventure with him.” This friendship and call is, indeed, the ECYD identity and vision: “We are ECYD apostles with a fire in our hearts: we proclaim to the youth of our world, ‘Christ our Friend, Christ our King!”

The ECYD plan for North America focuses on the years leading up to 2033, the 2000th anniversary of redemption. By this time, they team is planning and praying to have over 100 high school students from North America serving as ECYD missionaries. Over the next several years, ECYD will be rallying the youth of North America and Asia to prepare and celebrate the 2000th Anniversary of Apostles in 2033, taking up Matthew 28:16-20, the Great Commission, as their playbook, with the Apostles as their patrons. The “Apostleverse 2033” campaign will be a sharing of testimonies, apostolic ideas and experiences, challenges, and charism-soaked reflections to assemble youth and inspire them to be the heroic apostles that the world needs today.

To hear Fr. Patrick O’Loughlin speak more about the vision of ECYD, watch his interview with Br. Matthew Artall on YouTube.

 

To find out more about the pledge of friendship, read the essay “The pledge of friendship with Christ and with each other ECYD: The Regnum Christi Charism lived by adolescents”.

To learn more about ECYD, visit their website at ECYD – Regnum Christi. Find out about upcoming ECYD conventions here.

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Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: What If I Think I Failed as a Godparent?”

Q: I recently attended my great granddaughter’s baptism, and it struck me how important being a sponsor for a baptism is. I have five godchildren, all adults now, and only one I know of is still in the Catholic Church. I feel as though I failed as a sponsor, and I pray that I am not in mortal sin because I feel I didn’t take this seriously. I thought they would have reached out to me once in a while, which never happened. Maybe now that God put them on my heart, he is telling me to pray for them. So, I began to add them to my prayer time when I pray my rosary every day. Have I committed a serious sin? I feel terrible about not living up to my responsibility. ‒ Jean

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: If you feel the inspiration to pray for your godchildren, by all means do so.

As for whether you committed grave sins in the past by neglecting your role as a sponsor, the answer depends on lots of factors that only you know.

For instance, did you refuse to speak up and share the faith with them when you knew the Spirit was inspiring you to do so? Were you a bad example to them?

These are questions only you can answer. In any case, it would be good to take this matter to confession the next time you go.

And don’t lose hope. Where there is life, there is time for conversion. Pray for the godchildren and sacrifice for them.

And let them know you are praying for them. That might open a fruitful dialogue. Which in turn can help to guard the faith of a new generation of little ones – like your great granddaughter.

 

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May 20, 2025 – The Peace of Christ

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Tuesday of the Fifth Week of Easter

 

John 14:27-31a

Jesus said to his disciples: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give it to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled or afraid. You heard me tell you,
‘I am going away and I will come back to you.’ If you loved me, you would rejoice that I am going to the Father; for the Father is greater than I. And now I have told you this before it happens, so that when it happens you may believe. I will no longer speak much with you, for the ruler of the world is coming. He has no power over me, but the world must know that I love the Father and that I do just as the Father has commanded me.”

Opening Prayer:  My God and Father, I live in a world that is busy and filled with division and conflict. When I hear your promise of peace, I feel a great longing to experience it in my life. I believe that you are faithful and that if you promise something, you will give it. Help me remember, though, that it is your peace, not my idea of peace, that you give. Keep my eyes set on you, my ears open to your words, my heart open to your life within me. I hope in your providence that brings all things together for my good. I love you for your constant love, for your ongoing presence and care in my life.

Encountering Christ:

  1. Not as the World Gives: Thinking of peace may conjure up the idea of freedom from conflict or worry, but Jesus tells us the peace he gives is something different from worldly peace, and since it is Jesus who gives it, we know that it is something greater. The peace that Jesus is telling his disciples about is peace that comes from trusting the Father. As he faced his Passion, Jesus instructed, “Do not let your hearts be troubled or afraid.” His example shows us that peace does not depend on everything going right in our lives, but rather it is rooted in trust in the Father’s goodness and his desire for our ultimate happiness. He wants us to experience peace in the midst of the trials of our lives by trusting him with ourselves and all that is dear to us.

  2. A Fruit Through Order: St. Augustine described peace as the “tranquility of order,” and St. Paul teaches, “Let the peace of Christ control your hearts…” (Col 3:15). How do we do this? We allow the peace of Christ to be formed within us as one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit (CCC 1832; cf. Gal 5:22). Again, how? By living the kingly mission to which we are called and through which “lay people have the power to uproot the rule of sin within themselves and in the world, by their self-denial and holiness of life” (CCC 943; cf. Lumen Gentium 36). As we grow in union with Christ and conform ourselves to the will of the Father, we find order in our relationships with God and others and within ourselves. In that order, “the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard [our] hearts and minds in Christ Jesus” (Phil 4:7). Where in our life do we need order in order to experience greater peace?

  3. I Am Going to the Father: What might it have been like to be a disciple and hear Jesus say, “If you loved me you would rejoice that I am going to the Father…”? We might be incredulous and wonder how we could possibly rejoice in his leaving us. We might think about all we had experienced with him and learned from him and wonder, “What will we do without you?” Yet Christ’s leaving them allowed him to be present throughout history, all the way to this very day. His leaving is what allows him to be present to each of us through the gift of the Holy Spirit in our lives. A little later in this Gospel, Jesus said, “But I tell you the truth, it is better for you that I go. For if I do not go, the Advocate will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you” (Jn 16:7). Christ ascended into Heaven so that he could send his Holy Spirit, and it is through the Holy Spirit that Christ is alive to us right now.

Conversing with Christ: Jesus, I believe that you want me to live with confidence in you and your plan for my life. I believe that you want me to live in interior peace as well as in peace with those around me. Lord, help me see the things that rob me of my peace. Do I spend too much time on social media or watching the news? Do I take on too much of a sense of responsibility for things that belong to another’s free will? Do I really trust your love for my loved ones who have strayed? Lord, help me grow in the virtue of hope, and so trust you for all that I need to reach eternal life with you.

Resolution: Lord, today by your grace I will pray the Litany of Peace below and ask for the grace to see those situations in which I am most likely to lose my peace. As I notice these times occurring throughout the day, I will pray, “Deliver me, Lord Jesus; grant me your peace.”

For Further Reflection: Read the section of the Catechism entitled “The Joint Mission of the Son and the Spirit” (689-690).

“The Litany of Peace” by Fr. Matthew Guckin 

Litany of Peace

From the desire to control … Deliver me, Lord Jesus

From the desire to give my opinion … Deliver me, Lord Jesus

From the desire to project myself as the victim … 

From the desire to impress others …

From the desire to please everyone …

From the tendency to complain …

From all my irrational fears …

From all violent speech …

From failing to accept uncertainty …

From comparing myself to others …

From not accepting my limitations … 

From an unhealthy desire for perfection …

From an unhealthy attachment to others …

From excessive self-blame …

From holding on to grudges …

From holding on to the past …

From wanting more than I need …

From the impulse to justify myself …

From worrying about the future …

From thinking only about myself … 

From losing perspective on life … 

From not being able to laugh at myself … 

From not being able to forgive myself …

From overanalyzing the intentions of others … 

From the desire to change others …

From thoughts that this world is all there is …

From failing to trust in God …

From failing to see God in all things …

Peace Prayer by Fr. Matthew Guckin:
God of peace, calm me and heal me. 

Let your peace reign in my heart at this very moment and for all eternity. 

We make our prayer in the Name of Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace. Amen. 

Janet McLaughlin and her husband, Chris, live on a mountain in rural northeastern Oregon. She puts her Master of Arts in Pastoral Studies to work as she shares the beauty and importance of the lay vocation in her writing, speaking, and teaching on spiritual topics.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!