February 16, 2024

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: What If My Partner Doesn’t Want to Have the Marriage Blessed?”

Q: I was confirmed Catholic through RCIA when I was 19, I’m 23 now. After about six months of being an active Catholic I had decided to leave the Church and joined a non-Christian faith instead. Between then and now I had gotten married to a man who is not a Christian. I have been contemplating coming back to the Church for several weeks but was wondering: Could I be an active participant again while being married to him? He refuses any Church activities, and he has no interest in anything related to Christianity. I will not divorce him and I don’t want to pressure him into living or believing a certain way that he doesn’t want to. Is it possible or do I need to settle with living a non-Catholic life? – C.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s unfortunate that you stopped practicing the Catholic faith so soon after your confirmation.

Nevertheless, you are still Catholic and still a beloved daughter of God, though your marriage isn’t recognized by the Church.

It’s good, at least, that your desire to return to the sacraments. That shows the Holy Spirit is nudging you.

To return to the sacraments, you would need to find a remedy for your domestic situation. If you intend to stay with your partner, that means having the marriage convalidated (“blessed”). This assumes that there are no impediments — for instance, a previous marriage by your partner.

He wouldn’t need to convert, but you would need to promise to raise any children in the faith.

It’s interesting that you don’t want to pressure him into something he doesn’t want. Is he willing to extend that same courtesy to you?

Now, situations are rarely static. You and your partner are on a journey. Things can change for the better, with the grace of God.

It might be good to pray for your partner to be open to a convalidation. And think of offering sacrifices for him, too, such as fasting and other forms of mortification (less desserts, cooler showers, etc.).

It would be good to start attending Mass regularly, even though you can’t receive Communion.

You might also consider speaking with a priest at your parish.

With God’s grace you can move forward toward a resolution of your situation. Count on my prayers.

 

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Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Uncle Eddy

Sts Elias, Jeremy and Companions

Dear Jerry,

Let us talk plainly.  I commend your many apostolic activities, your letters to the editor of the campus newspaper, your participation in the debates and open forums.  You are showing a true conquering spirit, worthy of a follower of the eternal King.

But I sense the need to remind you of something essential.  All of this activity will do little good if not bolstered by the example of a holy life.  Remember, we human beings are not convinced to change our lives just by logic.  We are convinced by the experience of goodness and beauty – that wins over the heart, and the heart will open the mind and the will to the truth.

So you have got to back up your exposition of the truth with a constant presentation of goodness and beauty.  They have got to SEE in you all the Christian virtues: patience, kindness, respect, and most especially sincere concern for others – aka, Christian Charity.  Trust me, if you show your peers the beauty of an authentic Christian example, they won’t be able to resist the call of Christian truth.  This is the way it has always been.  Take today’s saints, for example.

Elias and his five Egyptian buddies left Egypt under the persecution of Diocletian in order to go north to Palestine and minister to the Christians who had been apprehended there and condemned to slave labor.  Great idea – but it got them into trouble with the authorities (did I forget to mention that you should get ready for trouble if you really want to live the Christian virtues?).

Going back into the city after a day at the mines, they were stopped at the gate and questioned.  They admitted who they were and what they were doing and they were taken prisoner.  As was usual at the time, they were racked and tortured before the official interrogation began.  Even so, once the official started questioning them, he couldn’t convince them to forego or compromise their faith.  Instead, their answers were like a living catechism.  For instance, when the judge asked where they were from, they answered, “Jerusalem, Jerusalem on high, which the Apostle calls every Christian’s true homeland.”

You can imagine what effect this kind of dialogue had on the pagan judge.  Infuriated, he had the tortures renewed, but to no avail.  Finally, he lost patience and ordered them beheaded.

But it didn’t stop there.  A young servant named Porphyrius was present.  He was so edified by their courage and poise amidst the horrible torments, that at their death he cried out that they at least deserved a decent burial.  The judge didn’t like that.  So he took the youth prisoner as well, and when he confessed to being a Christian, introduced him into equally horrible tortures in order to make him renounce his faith, even lighting a huge bonfire and leaving a blank space in the middle of it – reserved for Porphyrius, unless he denounced Christ.  The young warrior would do no such thing, and died a slow death, broiling in the flames as he sang Christ’s praises.

And it didn’t stop there either.  Seleucus was another eye-witness, and he couldn’t hold back his shouts of commendation at the young martyr’s fortitude.  At this, the judge immediately had him apprehended and beheaded, even without a trial.

And that’s how the faith was passed on and spread, through time and space: by the example of fidelity to Christ – acts of fidelity giving rise to other acts of fidelity, like links in a chain, until the faith reached our own day.  Keep that in mind as you continue your work of evangelization; beautiful words are good weapons by themselves, but they are made positively irresistible when accompanied by the torpedo of authentic Christian example.

Your cold and tired uncle,

Eddy

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February 16, 2024 – Time of Fasting

 

 

 

 

 

Friday after Ash Wednesday

 

Matthew 9:14-15

 

The disciples of John approached Jesus and said, “Why do we and the Pharisees fast much, but your disciples do not fast?” Jesus answered them, “Can the wedding guests mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them? The days will come when the bridegroom is taken away from them, and then they will fast.”

 

Introductory Prayer: Lord, you know how much I need you and depend on you for everything. You know my weakness and my faults. I put all my confidence in your love and mercy. I wish to trust in your power, your promise, and your grace every day. Today I intend, with your help, to follow you along the way of the cross with love and generosity so as to draw close to you.

 

Petition: Lord, let me learn to embrace sacrifice as the way of reparation and purification.

 

  1. These Are the Days: Jesus said the time would come when his disciples would fast. Now that the Lord has returned in glory to the Father, it is up to us to continue the work of salvation, “what is lacking in the afflictions of Christ on behalf of his body, which is the church” (Col 1:24), as St. Paul says. We join our sacrifice to that of Jesus in order to imitate him and bring grace to ourselves and to others. Every Christian life must incorporate a healthy spirit of sacrifice and self-denial.

 

  1. Feel the Hunger: The hunger we experience when we fast is a symbol of the deeper spiritual hunger we should feel for God and for heaven. This world often makes us all too comfortable, and we easily forget that this is not our true home. We are pilgrims traveling through a foreign land, far from our final resting place. Fasting reminds us of the longing a traveler has to reach his destination safely and finally to rejoice in being home for good. The true Christian looks forward with hope toward heaven, where he will rest with God forever in true happiness. He knows that all the good things this world offers are only shadows of the wonderful things God has planned for those who love him (cf. Rm 8:28).

 

  1. Hunger for Souls: From the cross, Jesus said, “I thirst.” That thirst was for all people to be reconciled to the Father. It was a thirst for souls to return to the love of God and find their way to the heavenly Kingdom. Voluntary sacrifice and self-denial, if we offer it for the conversion of the hearts of others, brings them the grace they need to change and turn back to God. No one can convert himself, and no one in serious sin can merit his way to the grace of God. We need to intercede by means of our personal prayer and sacrifice to gain others the supernatural grace they need to overcome their obstacles. The greatest act of charity we can perform and the greatest joy we can experience is to bring a soul back to the Lord. How many souls are waiting for our prayer and sacrifice?

 

Conversation with Christ: Lord, make me generous and joyful in sacrifice, knowing that sacrifice unites me closer to you and wins the grace of conversion for so many souls you love and for whom you died.

 

Resolution: I will choose one person I know who needs God’s grace and offer all my sacrifices today for them.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!