June 9, 2023

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: How Should We Help a ‘Lost Sheep’?

Q: Many of us suffer greatly when our loved ones have strayed away from the faith and taken a less-than-attractive path. In addition to our prayers and sacrifices, how can we avoid going “overboard” in our efforts to encourage a conversion of heart? What is the best way to discern when to speak and when to be silent? -E.D., New England

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: This problem is painfully all too common today. Even the best of Catholic homes have their members who drift from the faith. Many parents and grandparents and siblings are heartbroken to see a loved one who lives far from the faith.

This is where the virtue of hope is so vital. We should never give up on a soul. Christ loves each and every person, and he is anxious to have everyone with him forever in heaven.

That said, we need to recall that conversion, like faith itself, is a gift of God. It is beyond our power. We simply can’t force anyone to convert. Only the Holy Spirit can enlighten a darkened heart and lead it back home.

To avoid going “overboard” in our efforts, first we need to commit ourselves to intense prayer for a soul. Prayer keeps us close to Jesus, reminds us of how much we need him, and how much he loves the person that we love. So offer up your Masses and your rosaries.

Second, offer up sacrifices for your loved one. Sacrifice helps make prayer that much more effective. A video on sacrifices appears at http://rcspiritualdirection.com/blog/2013/02/18/what-does-it-mean-to-offer-it-up.

Third, look for the right moments to share your own experience of faith. That is, let your loved one know how much your faith helps you. In a word, be a witness. Let the loved one process that data: He might not understand your faith, but he will be faced with the fact that it has deeply impacted your life.

Fourth, keep loving the other person. Christ certainly does. And don’t lose hope. The grace of conversion could come at any time.

As you do all of these things, trust that the Holy Spirit will guide you as regards knowing when to say what, and how much to say. God is even more interested than you are in bringing his straying sheep back to the fold.

When you feel your helplessness, throw yourself into the arms of the Good Shepherd and exercise your trust in his goodness. In the end, it is not up to us to save the world; it is up to Jesus. We are just junior partners.

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“Ask a Priest: Why Was It ‘Us vs. Them’ Before the Coming of Christ?”

Q: I’m aware that if you are not Jewish, you are a gentile. I am also aware that Jesus came to save all people — gentiles and Jews. But I’m confused on how this came to be. Why was there an “us vs. them” before Jesus? Why couldn’t the Jewish people convert the pagans to Judaism? Why were they different nations? We are all from Adam and Eve, we all came from Noah, all made by the same God. Is it only because of Isaac and Ishmael? Either way, God still had a hand in the rise of both these nations. Why did some people have no way to God before Jesus came? Thank you. – Anna

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: An adequate attempt at a full answer to your questions could fill a book!

This reply won’t even try to be exhaustive. Nevertheless, a few ideas might be worth considering.

You ask why there are different nations.

Some of the differences between peoples are natural. Terrain and climate shape people and local economies in various ways. And people in a given area tend to develop their own customs and dialects and even languages over time.

Some of the harsher differences between peoples, such as those that lead to rivalry and war, are among the aftereffects of original sin and a sign of our fallen human nature. We can’t blame those on Isaac and Ishmael.

Now, salvation history is a history of God revealing himself more and more openly. He could have done this all at once, to all peoples. He did, of course, reveal something of himself to everyone through the beauty and unity of the created universe.

But as for more explicit revelation – the stuff of the Bible – God chose to establish a covenant with a particular people, in this case, the Israelites. He did it through Abraham, whom he led him to a new land.

Once God’s relationship was grounded and nurtured among a given people, he would then reach out to the wider world.

This approach allowed for a slower, more organic growth of faith. God generally seems to prefer to work that way.

Let’s go back to your question about the us-vs.-them mentality that seemed to mark much of the Old Testament.

To prepare the Israelites to follow him more closely, God insisted on a high degree of their separation from the pagans around them. This made sense in the ancient world, where religion and families and political life were tightly bound together.

This separation from the pagans gave the Israelites, at least in theory, breathing room to absorb and live the commandments of the Lord.

In practice, many Israelites dabbled in pagan practices, some of them quite nasty. Hence, the prophets were kept busy, railing at those who followed pagan ways (think of the Golden Calf incident at Mount Sinai or the clash between Elijah and the 450 prophets of Baal in 1 Kings 18).

There were some gentiles, by the way, who converted to what we think of as Judaism, though it wasn’t a widespread occurrence.

Those conversions were a hint of what was to come later. In fact, prophecies such as the one found in Isaiah 66:18-20 foretold that the nations (“the gentiles”) would all come to Jerusalem to worship. The chosen people in effect would be a beacon to the world in regard to the true God.

Ultimately, God’s plan wasn’t to bring the world to Judaism, but rather to Christianity. For it was Christ who was the fullness of God’s revelation to the world.

A helpful read could be A Father Who Keeps His Promises, by Scott Hahn.

This book outlines how the God who loves the human race had reasons known only to himself for what he did. He undoubtedly chose a way that has an internal logic, based on love, which respects freedom while at the same time gradually revealing the fullness of his plan.

As to your last question: As mentioned above, people could discover something of God in the beauty of nature.

They also had consciences, however imperfectly formed. If they tried to follow their consciences, God could lead them on the path to salvation.

But even their salvation, like ours, ultimately depended on the redemption won by Jesus on the cross.

This is a quick answer, but one that I hope is helpful.

 

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!