March 26, 2021

Regnum Christi Spirituality Center Ask a Priest

“Ask a Priest: What If I’ve Never Been Sorry for My Sins?”

Q: I have not confessed my sins for about a year since I am not sorry for my sins. I don’t think I was ever sorry for my sins in my 26 years. I have become lazy and haven’t been asking God to grant me the grace of repentance as much as I used to before. Should I confess my sins and tell the priest at the beginning or end of the confession that I am not sorry for my sins? Or should I wait till God gives me the grace to be sorry for my sins? Also, should I receive the Eucharist in this situation? Can I receive the Eucharist so that I receive graces through it to be sorry for my sins? Or would it be using the wrong means to achieve a good thing? Also, through the Internet, I have found that we cannot receive the Eucharist in a state of mortal sin except in grave situations and when a confessor is not available and then too, you have to remember the obligation to make act of perfect contrition. Can I make a spiritual communion in a state of mortal sin? – R.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It’s good that you are at least showing interest in confession. This might be a sign that the Holy Spirit is trying to nudge you closer to God.

A valid confession requires, among other things, a sense of contrition for sin and a firm resolution to change and avoid sin. Without contrition, or sorrow, a confession wouldn’t be valid. From what you mention, one wonders if any of your confessions were valid. Perhaps this was due to your having received poor instruction in the faith.

In the case when someone can’t get to confession for lack of opportunity, the person should make a good examination of conscience and make a perfect act of contrition. This kind of contrition is sorrow for sin based on love of God rather than fear of punishment.

Even a perfect act of contrition normally wouldn’t be enough to receive Communion. A person still needs to actually go to confession with a priest. What the perfect act of contrition could do is save a soul from eternal loss in the event of death.

You could, however, make a spiritual communion. You can do that at any time, in any state of grace.

The “grave situation” you saw mentioned on the Internet would be a rare incident, such as a groom who wants to receive Communion at his wedding Mass and it’s impossible to reach a priest privately. In that case a person would have to make a perfect act of contrition with the intention to confess as soon as possible. “Grave situation,” by the way, doesn’t include cases where people are embarrassed to stay in the pew at communion time in a parish Mass.

Under no circumstances could a person in mortal sin receive the Eucharist in a bid to get the grace to make a good confession. That would be a sacrilege.

The ideal, of course, is that you make a good confession as soon as possible. That will take serious preparation.

You mention about getting lazy. Sloth is a serious problem. It makes us grow indifferent toward the things of God and the spiritual life. Our Lord has a way of letting us feel the full impact of that indifference. Life can start to become stale and frustrating. We stew in our own juices.

Our Lord doesn’t do this because he wants to punish us. Rather, we sometimes have to hit bottom before we realize how much we need God.

This might be such a moment. The good news is that there is hope. Our Lord is anxious to show his mercy. But he won’t force it on you. You need to repent and seek his mercy voluntarily. The ball is in your court.

For now it might be good to try to pray to Jesus and to the Blessed Virgin Mary for assistance. Also helpful might be our Retreat Guide, “Father of Mercies.” There is no need to keep mercy waiting.

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Regnum Christi Downunder: A Faithful Father’s Legacy

Very early on Christmas morning, Michael Devereux passed away in his hometown of Dunedin, New Zealand. Father of seven sons, including three priests of the Legionaries of Christ, Michael was a devoted husband and father who leaves behind a family legacy of faithful and generous service to the Church and Regnum Christi.

Michael Devereux was born in Dunedin into a strong Catholic family. The second of five children, Michael grew up close to the family’s parish of St. Mary’s, Kaikorai, where he served as an altar boy, and fellow parishioners and the local priests were frequent visitors to their home. The presence of God was a constant reality in the Devereux family – they prayed together daily, and the Mass and the Sacraments were integral in their lives. 

Steeped in the Catholic faith, Michael grew up knowing that God loved him with a personal, intimate, infinite love, and his faith grew stronger year by year. By the time he was in his early twenties, he had finished his formal studies and was working as an accountant, and he was ready to settle down and start a family. Because he had a great devotion to Our Lady of Perpetual Succor, Michael asked for her intercession in finding a wife, and Our Lady wasted no time – Michael soon met his wife, Marie, at a tennis tournament in Christchurch, and by the end of the weekend, the two were already “informally” engaged. Michael and Marie were married before the end of the following year, in 1959, in Wellington, New Zealand. 

Michael passed on that atmosphere of faith in which he was raised to his own family – he and Marie had seven children in total, all boys! Says one of Michael’s sons, Andy, “My parents had a sense of mission raising their family in the Catholic faith and tradition, balanced with providing opportunities for their sons in education, sport, and later on, travel abroad. They wanted us to have the opportunity to engage with the Universal Church and experience its Catholicity through its history, art, culture, and most importantly, through the Vicar of Christ.”

And Michael and Marie’s mission to raise their sons with a deep understanding and a profound love of their Catholic faith soon began to bear fruit. In 1985, their fourth son, Peter, approached them with the news that he felt a call to the priesthood. Father George Duggan, who was serving at St. Patrick’s College, Silverstream, the boarding school that many of Michael’s sons attended, passed on the name of a missionary priest who had just come to New Zealand and who might be able to help Peter with his discernment process. That priest was Fr. Anthony Bannon, LC, and after some discussion and planning, Michael and Marie travelled with Peter and his younger brother, Matthew, to visit the novitiate of the Legionaries of Christ in Cheshire, Connecticut, and then on to Rome to meet the Legionary community there. The trip – and the Legionaries of Christ – had an enormous impact on the family, and two years later, in 1987, Peter began his studies to become a Legionary priest.

Michael and Marie were thrilled at the prospect of having a priest in their family, and began to learn more about the order to which Peter had been called. After visiting Peter several times – often with some of their other sons in tow – and witnessing his joy in his vocation, they decided to become members of Regnum Christi themselves, and were incorporated in Rome in 1991 during the 50th anniversary of the Legionaries of Christ. That same year, their son, Matthew, who had accompanied them on that first trip with Peter to meet the Legionaries of Christ, decided to join the order as well, and in 1997, their youngest son, Simon, followed! Peter was ordained a Legionary priest in the year 2000, Matthew in 2004, and Simon in 2010. Father Peter is currently serving in Raleigh, North Carolina; Father Matthew is in Krakow, Poland; and Father Simon is in San Jose, California.

Throughout his life, Michael, along with his wife, Marie, worked to establish Regnum Christi in New Zealand and Australia. The couple sponsored the road teams of Legionary priests and Consecrated Women that would make the annual trip Downunder to offer spiritual guidance and accompaniment, and to establish and develop the Regnum Christi section in the cities of Sydney, Melbourne, and Adelaide in Australia and in Auckland and Dunedin in New Zealand. One of the highlights of Regnum Christi’s presence in Australasia was the Youth & Family Encounter held in Sydney, followed by World Youth Day, in 2008. 

RC Men’s Retreat in Australia

Over the years, Michael and Marie sponsored many young men and women to travel to the United States and Europe so that they, too, could experience the charism of Regnum Christi, and further supported these individuals in their various academic and apostolic endeavors. Through the couple’s help and encouragement, many initiatives were established in New Zealand, including retreats led by Legionaries of Christ and Consecrated Women of Regnum Christi, various youth camps, and regular Eucharistic Adoration in their hometown of Dunedin. Although the Legionary community that was originally formed in Toowoomba, Australia, is now closed, there are still many RC members in Australia and New Zealand who are committed to living out the charism of Regnum Christi in their families, their parishes, and their communities. Father Simon Cleary, LC, who is currently based in the Philippines, serves as their chaplain.

RC members in Australia with Fr. Simon Cleary, LC

Today, many people from New Zealand and Australia can attribute their vocations – to the priesthood, to the consecrated life, and to a lay life committed to service and charity – to the quiet testimony and generosity of Michael and Marie, who, despite all obstacles, worked diligently to share the charism of Regnum Christi Downunder, with constant prayer and trust in God’s guidance. Their son, Andy, who hopes to carry on his father’s legacy of faith and mission, sees promise for the future of Regnum Christi Downunder, and expects that new digital opportunities for virtual Encounters and formative talks will allow the Regnum Christi spirit of faith and apostolate that his parents established in New Zealand and Australia to live on.

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Alex Kucera

Atlanta

Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!