January 5, 2021

RC Top 3: A new podcast from Regnum Christi

New for 2021, “RC Top 3” is a weekly podcast featuring the top 3 stories from Regnum Christi.  Coming next week on Apple Podcasts, and available now on  Google Podcasts, and Spotify, the podcast highlights inspiring and informative stories about Regnum Christi members of all vocations, and the impact they are making on the world by living their God-given mission.

Narrated by Colin Gore, a lay member of Regnum Christi, each episode will focus on the lives of people from all over the North American Territory, and how they have been inspired to share Christ’s love with others by living the charism of Regnum Christi and evangelizing in creative ways.

The premier episode debuts this week with stories featuring three great stories.

  • Praying for Our Prodigals: An Apostolate of Prayer and Peace, introduces us to Kristine Bruce, a member of Regnum Christi and the founder of an apostolate called “Praying for Our Prodigals,” designed to guide and encourage people to pray, fast, and do acts of mercy for their loved ones living far from the Church.
  • Victoria Backstrom Makes Final Vows of Consecration is an interview with Victoria Backstrom who just made her final vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi. We spoke with her about many topics such as community life, her relationship with the Regnum Christi family and her relationship with God.
  • RC Music Collective: A New Musical Initiative at the Service of the Church tells the story of Fr. Jaime Lorenzo, LC, who has been a music lover nearly his entire life, but when he joined the seminary to become a Legionary of Christ, he left it behind without much deliberation. A couple of years down the road, music came back into his life, and now Fr. Jaime, along with one of his Legionary brothers, Fr. John Klein, and one of his Consecrated sisters, Emily Roman, is able to contribute his love and talent for music in a brand-new initiative called the Regnum Christi Music Collective.

Tune in each Monday to get to know a new group of apostles and their inspiring stories!

Listen to the first episode here:

In Episode Two you’ll find:

  • Our first story, Caring for the Unborn and the Underserved in Downtown Wichita, introduces us to Dr. Jody Elson, a Regnum Christi member in Wichita, Kansas.  “What are you doing for the poor?” was the question that Dr. Elson’s spiritual director asked her one day during spiritual guidance, and it’s the one that ultimately gave focus to Jody’s career as a family physician dedicated to some of the most vulnerable sectors of the population – the unborn, the poor, and the underserved.
  • In our second story, A New Path and Purpose for Nashville Musician, we meet Rae Hering. Raised in a Catholic home in Minneapolis, Minnesota, singer-songwriter Rae Hering moved to Nashville to study piano and composition at Belmont University, where partying and playing music took priority over attending Mass. For years, Rae ignored her Catholic faith, until a close member of Rae’s family took his own life.
  • Our third story this week is  Rose Cunningham makes her final vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi, an interview with Rose that happened right before she made her final vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi in the Basilica of Our Lady of Guadalupe in Rome.
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“Ask a Priest: Should I Go Back to My Muslim Boyfriend?”

Q: I am a Catholic woman who loves a Sunni Muslim man. We broke up a few months ago because religion was going to become an issue if we had continued our relationship. Our concern lay mainly on the faith of our future children. Obviously I want Catholic children and he wants Sunni children. It is law that a child must take the religion of their father, so it was my responsibility to end the relationship. Since neither of us had done anything wrong, we ended on good terms. It has been a few months since then, and my emotional state seems to worsen by the day. I do not want to leave my house as I feel like I’m emotionally crippled. I’m constantly crying and I don’t want to be around people. He was a very loving person who always put me before anything else. Now, he checks up on me to make sure I am all right. I know he loves still loves me very much. It seems as if he was the missing piece in my life almost like my other half. Basically, we had everything in common except for the one thing we needed to have in common — religion. It is getting to the point where I am seriously considering getting back together with him as I am in so much mental and physical pain. I know Jesus teaches us to love, and I love him very much and I know he feels the same way. I need to know what will happen to me in the afterlife if I decide to get back together with him and marry. And what will happen to my children in the afterlife if they are not Christian. Please, I really need some guidance. – V.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It sounds as though your initial decision to break off the relationship was the prudent one.

You recognized that religion would have a deep impact on your marriage and on the raising of children. You took a long view of what lay ahead, and wisely decided that there was probably no real way to reconcile your Catholicism and his Islam.

And now … you feel tempted to reverse course. You feel tempted to resume the relationship, even though nothing fundamental has changed. Moreover, you are tempted after a period of feeling emotionally crippled and constantly crying.

Changing course on major life decisions in the midst of anxiety and emotional fragility is a recipe for disaster. This goes against one the key rules of discernment of St. Ignatius Loyola.

He urged that “In time of desolation never to make a change; but to be firm and constant in the resolutions and determination in which one was the day preceding such desolation …” The Holy Spirit works in moments of calm, not anxiety and desolation.

So how might you proceed? Perhaps a few things are worth considering.

First, it would be good to double-down on your Catholic faith, intensify your prayer life and sacramental life. You want to stay close to Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

Second, you seem to think that either you go back with your Muslim friend or you face a life of loneliness and misery. But that is a false dilemma.

An option would be to try to get out of the house more and find a network of Catholic friends.

It sounds as though you are a bit isolated, which isn’t healthy. You need a wider community of Catholic friends to help you keep things in perspective and to live your faith more easily. Having Catholic friends would also increase your chances of meeting an eligible man who shares your faith.

Third, you want to remind yourself why you broke up in the first place.

To be a good Catholic, you need to raise your kids Catholic. And for your friend to be a good Muslim, he will assume that the kids need to be raised Muslim. It is hard to figure out how to reconcile these two positions. It is not clear how to square this circle.

It is possible (though not automatic) to get a dispensation to marry a Muslim. But a 2004 instruction, Erga Migrantes Caritas Christi, from the Pontifical Council for the Pastoral Care of Migrants and Itinerant People calls for caution:

“67. […] In any case, the marriage between a Catholic and a Muslim, if celebrated in spite of all this, requires not only canonical dispensation but also the support of the Catholic community both before and after the marriage. One of the most important tasks of Catholic associations, volunteer workers and counselling services will be to help these families educate their children and, if need be, to support the least protected member of the Muslim family, that is, the woman, to know and insist on her rights.

“68. Finally as regards the baptism of the children, it is well known that the norms of the two religions are in stark contrast. The problem must therefore be raised with absolute clarity during the preparation for marriage, and the Catholic party must take a firm stand on what the Church requires.”

How much, in practice, you would be supported by a Catholic community and how much your rights would be upheld in a marriage, is something you would need to gauge.

A very real possibility in a case of an interfaith marriage is that the Catholic wife will be tempted to downplay her faith for the sake of domestic peace. She will be tempted to forgo her faith in a practical way and fail to pass it on to her children.

Careful! In the afterlife a Catholic parent who fails to try to pass on the faith to children will have to answer for that negligence before God.

All this advice is geared toward the long term. Sure, your friend might be a very fine man, and yes, you might have lots of romantic feelings for him now. But feelings don’t last. What is more likely to last is the deep religious chasm that separates you and him.

If you are still tempted to reverse course, think about the consequences of marrying him.

How would your children handle that? How would they reconcile the differences between Islam and Catholicism?

How would they handle Mom saying that Jesus is the Second Person of the Trinity who took on human nature, and Dad insisting that Jesus was only a prophet, only a man?

What would they make of Mom believing that Jesus is really present in the Eucharist, and Dad’s religion thinking that to reverence the host is idolatrous?

In any case, even marrying a wonderful man won’t lead to the fulfillment our hearts yearn for — we are made to live in communion with God, and if that suffers, we can never have interior peace either in this life or in the next. For perspective, you might find our Retreat Guide on marriage helpful.

Whatever you do, you want to make Jesus first in your life. And ideally you would expect the same of your children.

Perhaps you might want to turn to the Blessed Virgin Mary for help. And count on my prayers.

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Rose Cunningham makes her final vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi

Rose Cunningham makes her final vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi

On December 8, 2020, Rose Cunningham made her final vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi in the Basilica of Our Lady of Guadalupe in Rome, accompanied by the communities of Consecrated Women present in Rome, some Legionaries of Christ and by her family and friends through social media.

The Ratio Institutionis of the Consecrated Women of Regnum Christi, in #449 explains that: ” In making final vows, it has been confirmed, on the part of the Consecrated Woman and of the Society, that the discernment which led to the making and renewal of temporary vows has been carried out. With final vows one passes from a stage of vocational discernment and verification to a stage of consolidation and maturation that continues throughout life”. (p. 224. Ratio Institutionis CRC)

Rose Cunningham was born in San Diego, USA, 1994 in a big family with eleven siblings, where they looked out for each other. Being one of the middle ones, she had the experience of being taken care of by the older ones, and she, in turn, enjoyed taking care of the younger ones. Since childhood, her family was involved in the Militia of the Immaculada and the Blessed Virgin has always been very present in her life.

The following is an interview with Rose before she made her vows.

Question: What is in your heart as you consecrate your life definitively to God?

Answer: So much gratitude to God, and to so many people who have accompanied me, who have been part of my journey and have helped me become who I am today. A lot of praise to God for what he has done in me – for what he does, and how good he is.

Q: What has been your journey to make this decision?

A: When I was seven years old, I met the Consecrated Women of Regnum Christi for the first time. I have this memory engraved in my mind: we were with them and some other families. At the end of the day I saw one of them enter the Church, and that simple moment clicked in me. Years later I understood better what it meant: during the day the Consecrated Women were there with us, transmitting a love and presence that wasn´t just their own, that went beyond them – the love of God, and his closeness.  And then, at the end of the day, when everyone was gone, they were alone with Christ. I loved that and I think about it a lot. Now when I get to the end of the day, tired from whatever I was doing, I go to the chapel and find peace and consolation in finding myself alone with him. At the end of the day I am Christ’s.

After graduating from school I entered the candidacy, at the age of 18. For me, the first year was about discovering what it means to be a Christian and the call to holiness that comes with baptism. A whole new horizon opened up for me and I was struck by the beauty and grandeur of my identity and mission as a baptized Christian. From there I was able to go deeper into what it means to follow Christ in the consecrated life, through the vows of poverty, chastity and obedience. They were two years of a lot of reflection – on questions that touched my personal identity, and on the vocation to consecrated life, viewing it from the outside in order to understand what it is. After those two years I took my first vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi. I remember that the day of my consecration I thought, what can happen in six years? Why do I need so much time? At that moment I saw my vocational call clearly, but during the years I did question it many times.

I began my studies, which lasted three years. I did the first one in the United States and then I went to Madrid to study theology at the University of San Dámaso. There were challenges in those three years, but I began to live the consecrated life trying to be really sincere with myself, wondering if I was growing as a person. For a long time, I thought that if something was difficult for me it meant that I did not have a vocation. It has been a very long, very beautiful process, of experiencing day after day, in very small and ordinary things, how God confirms his call in very simple ways.

Q: How would you describe your apostolic internship?

A: I spent those three years in Monterrey, working mostly in elementary school. I loved being with the kids. It was a little difficult to adjust because I entered a new world, a very different culture, and an environment I was not used to. It was hard for me to adjust at first, but being with the kids every day helped – kids are kids wherever they are, whatever language they speak. I enjoyed spending recess with them, talking to them about God, taking “fieldtrips” to the chapel with them to visit Jesus and maybe sing him a song. They are really open and it is beautiful to see how they receive God’s beauty and goodness so easily. I know the seeds planted in their hearts at this age will stay with them, and sooner or later grow and give fruit.

Q: What lessons did you draw from your apostolic internship? What did you learn?

A: The greatest insight was the experience that along with external elements that are difficult and things that might make me feel out of my comfort zone, there is also an innate sense that makes me understand that those external things aren´t everything – that there´s something there in the middle of what´s different that “fits,” and that is “mine” in some way: the mission. The external things may or may not be what I would choose for life, but I would, and do, choose the deeper mission for life, and will try to live it out no matter where I end up. We are sent by Christ, and we can live our consecration and our mission wherever we are.

Q: How has your family played a role in your vocation?

A: My parents and my older brothers and sisters have had a great influence on making my relationship with Christ very real, taking very seriously the fact that we have a God who knows us, loves us, knows how we are doing and wants to makes us happy. They passed on to me that trust in God. They told me that doing God’s will is worth it, because he knows us and wants the best for us. In my family the whole idea of having a vocation was very naturally and openly present.

However, the theme of a vocation in Regnum Christi has been difficult at times; since the beginning legitimate questions and doubts arose. I have a sister who was consecrated for nine years and then returned home. It was a difficult and painful situation, and I think my parents were afraid the same thing would happen to me. It has been a process for all of us, but I know that all my parents and siblings are happy to see that I´m happy. And I am so grateful for their support.

Q: What inspires you in the mission of making Christ’s Kingdom present in society?

A: There are so many people in the world who have no idea of the beauty of life and who God is, how good he is and how much he loves us. I think there is a lot of suffering that arises from the insecurity of thinking this world is all there is, or that God is distant or harsh. If people knew, but really knew, all the way through their hearts, that God knows and loves them, I think they would be a lot happier. I’m happy to know that my life, in some way, can announce the presence of this God who is so good and who loves us so much.

Q: How do you define the final vows as a Consecrated Woman of Regnum Christi?

A: I would say that it is final seal that says that this is forever. What I have been living for the past six years has matured and become who I am. When I received the official approval for my final vows I felt a renewed sense of commitment with the whole family of Consecrated Women of Regnum Christi – not only have I felt identified with this vocation, but the other Consecrated have also recognized it in me, and together we share the responsibility to respond faithfully to the call of Christ, so that we can be who he is calling us to be, and live as he is calling us to live.

Translated and adapted from: https://consagradasrc.org/votos-definitivos-de-rose-cunningham/

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!