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“Ask a Priest: Why Have Other Religions Been Around So Long?”

Q: I am a young man who is interested in developing my faith. I wish nothing more than to be a devout Catholic. However, recently I have been questioning many aspects of Catholic theology and Christology. If the true Christian God has been ever-present in the world, why do other religions such as Hinduism predate Judaism and Christianity? If God is of an all-knowing nature, did he know that man would sin when he initiated creation? If so, why would God create a being that he knew would ultimately fail him? Why did Jesus have to die on the cross? Why was there a requirement for sacrifice? In other words, if Jesus died to pay for our sins, who is getting paid? Do people who are exposed to Christianity and still reject it, go to hell? Do people who don’t encounter the word of God go to hell? Why do these people exist in the first place? – P.V.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good that you are serious about your faith. The faith is a great gift of God that we are called to nourish and deepen constantly. This includes the use of our reason. Let me try to address your questions briefly.

Leaving aside the question of whether Hinduism can be said to predate the religion of the Israelites, we could say that God, in his wisdom, revealed himself progressively.

First, he did it through the world around us. We can see the beauty of his handiwork everywhere. He started to reveal himself as a personal God, at a particular time, somewhere in the Middle East. This is when he chose to “enter history” more obviously, so to speak. It is part of his style.

At any rate, the fact that other religions might have predated Judaism simply shows that man has always had a religious impulse. He has always confronted big questions about the universe and himself and the purpose of it all. The early peoples in South Asia were searching for answers to such questions, and Hinduism, a complex phenomenon, emerged as something of an answer.

Did God know that man would sin? Yes. So why would God create a being that would ultimately reject him?

Here we could say that God gave man free will so that man could love God freely. If a person misuses his free will, that’s his fault, not God’s. Just the fact that God created this person is an objective good; indeed, everything the Almighty creates is good. If God only created people who would love him in return, that would imply that God wouldn’t have respected the free will he wanted to give people. Many people use their free will to accept God.

As to why Jesus had to die on the cross, and if he paid for our sins, “who is getting paid?” – let’s say this:

Sin is an offense against an infinitely good God. We, being finite creatures, couldn’t make up on our own for our sins.

It took God himself to make up for that. Hence, Jesus came and suffered. In one sense, it is fitting that the debt of sin was paid somehow, since God’s glory deserves as much. The alternative — to brush off sin as no big deal — wouldn’t have been just. It certainly wouldn’t have edified us, for we might have gone on sinning and not given it a second thought.

That God himself was willing to pay the price for sin is an extraordinary sign of his love for us. Jesus was willing to pay that price, in order that his heavenly Father would get the honor he deserves. There was a balance to be restored in the universe. It’s a bit mysterious, no doubt.

Will people who are exposed to Christianity and reject it, go to hell? They might, depending on their motives and a lot of other factors, some of which are known to God alone. Let’s not forget Jesus’ warning: “Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved; whoever does not believe will be condemned” (Mark 16:16).

Then there are your last questions: Will people who do not encounter the word of God go to hell? And why do these people exist in the first place?

People who do not encounter the word of God are not damned automatically. The Church teaches that people who have never heard of Christ or the Gospel can reach heaven if they follow their conscience and try to live a good life. You could find this in part No. 16 of the Vatican II document Lumen Gentium.

Whole books could be written to respond to your questions. For your own studies you might find it helpful to go through the Youth Catechism, or YouCat; the Catechism of the Catholic Church; or Frank Sheed’s “Theology for Beginners.”

In the meantime, I hope these short answers help point you in the right direction.

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“Ask a Priest: Should We Not Love Evil People?”

Q: I found this biblical quote on the Internet, from Romans 16:17-19 – “I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive. For your obedience is known to all, so that I rejoice over you, but I want you to be wise as to what is good and innocent as to what is evil.” My question is: Is this from the Catholic Bible? This quote would go against God’s rule that says to love everyone, even the evil people you come across. I try to avoid these people as best as I can, but after I accepted Jesus into my life I’ve become too nice of a person to reject anybody. Also, what does God mean when he says to treat people as a gentile or tax collector? “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector” (Matthew 18:15-17). Thanks so much for your time. – A.K.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good to hear that you have accepted Jesus into your life. He is “the way, the truth and the life” (John 14:6).

Let me mention at the start that you can find the New American Bible online. This is the version used in Masses in the U.S.

Regarding the two quotes you mention: You will basically find the same wording in any Catholic Bible.

The call to avoid people who can mislead others in the faith is simple prudence. We can still love those people, in the sense that we can pray for them and that we hope they reach heaven someday.

For this reason, we shouldn’t think of certain people as inherently evil; they too can have a conversion or come to the full knowledge of Jesus’ teachings. But loving someone doesn’t mean we are obligated to stay close to them and expose our faith to attacks.

And remember, that second quote is directly from Jesus. If he counsels people to keep their distance from someone who stubbornly opposed the faith, then we can be sure that that is good advice.

Being “nice” to people doesn’t mean we go to any extreme to accommodate them. The simple fact is, being Christian means to encounter opposition and at times ridicule. It also entails speaking out at times against the injustice and immorality we see around us. That will make us enemies. It made enemies for Jesus, but he didn’t water down his message.

Perhaps it would be good to read the Gospels with an eye toward how often Jesus faced opposition. That means we can expect opposition, too, if we really want to be his disciples.

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“Ask a Priest: Should I Forgive When Someone Isn’t Repentant?”

Q: Jesus commands us to love our enemies and to pray for them. My understanding is that the kind of love he is talking about is “willing the good of the other as other.” Love isn’t necessarily an emotion. Obviously, when we pray for our enemies, we should pray that they come to know the Truth who is Christ and his Church. But are we called to forgive them if they don’t ask for forgiveness? I’m talking about someone who has wronged you and is not sorry and has not asked for forgiveness. Is it just to forgive the unrepentant? It seems to me that it is not. God does not forgive the unrepentant (hence the existence of hell). Yet, I am troubled by one of the sayings from the cross: “Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.” Does God forgive the unrepentant? Does he ask us to forgive the unrepentant? – J.H.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: The short answer is yes, we should forgive even those who don’t ask forgiveness. Jesus on the cross didn’t wait for his persecutors to ask forgiveness; he went ahead and prayed for them. He left us a great model to follow.

In fact, when we angrily refuse to forgive others in our hearts, we allow their flaws and offenses to control us to an extent; resentment stews within us and impedes our spiritual freedom. But Jesus wants us to live freely, in the peace and the joy that comes from the Holy Spirit. Learning to forgive others, regardless of their own limitations, releases their control on our hearts.

It’s good to remember that our “forgiveness” is not the same as God’s forgiveness. We aren’t absolving someone of sin when we “forgive” them. We are simply letting go of any ill will we might have toward them, and in effect we are hoping that they reconcile with God.

God’s forgiveness does involve absolution, since sin is ultimately an offense against him. When someone offends us, it is really God who is being offended.

It is also good to remember that people act for all kinds of motives, sometimes out of ignorance. Ideally we should look on them with eyes of mercy, as Jesus did.

Real mercy doesn’t undercut justice. Rather, it perfects justice. And it can lead those of us who do forgive a little closer to Our Lord.

God, by the way, doesn’t force his mercy on anyone. If someone dies unrepentant of serious sin, God respects that decision. He is always ready to welcome a repentant sinner (his forgiveness is always being offered), but it is up to the sinner to be humble enough to receive the forgiveness. The soul gets for eternity what it chooses.

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“Ask a Priest: How Can We Know Psalm 22 Was a Prophecy About Jesus?”

Q: I am looking into the psalms and have noticed that Psalm 22 closely parallels the death of Jesus. I have found that many people believe this psalm to be a prophecy, but am not so sure about the latter myself. How can we be sure that this is a prophecy? That is, what textual evidence do we have to make that assumption? I realize of course that the psalm closely resembles the narratives of Christ’s death. But how can we be sure that we aren’t just reading something into the psalm that wasn’t meant to be read into it? – M.D.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: First, Jesus himself quotes from the start of Psalm 22 when he is on the cross (Matthew 27:46). This has enormous importance. We can imagine that all the words spoken by Jesus in the moments before his death have particularly heavy significance.

Second, Jesus himself said the Scriptures of his time (what we call the Old Testament) spoke about himself and pointed toward him. “You search the scriptures, because you think you have eternal life through them; even they testify on my behalf” (John 5:39). And then there is the moment with the disciples on the road to Emmaus: “Then beginning with Moses and all the prophets, he interpreted to them what referred to him in all the scriptures” (Luke 24:27).

One reason the early Christians kept the Jewish Scriptures was precisely because Jesus himself quoted from them and affirmed, as we see above, that they pointed the way toward his coming. This alone counts more than any simple textual analysis.

None of this takes away from the fact that the psalms and all the Old Testament were written for a particular audience in a particular historical moment, and thus they have a meaning that was relevant in that time, long before Jesus appeared on the scene. Still, this doesn’t preclude our seeing a deeper meaning in Old Testament passages, in the light of Christ.

As the Catechism says in No. 140: “The unity of the two Testaments proceeds from the unity of God’s plan and his Revelation. The Old Testament prepares for the New and the New Testament fulfills the Old; the two shed light on each other; both are true Word of God.” I hope some of this helps.

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New Book Shares the Adventures of the Missionary of Wall Street

Sometimes you come across people with stories so compelling you wish you could sit down with them for an afternoon and just listen to them relate their adventures. Steve and Evelyn Auth are good examples.  He is an energetic Wall Street investor with a wry smile, and she is a warm and engaging prayer warrior who speaks softly and in a way that makes people pause to listen. You know there is something unique about this couple just by meeting them.

What am I, a chief investment officer of one of the country’s largest investment managers, doing hailing down strangers at night on the streets of New York City? “Are you Catholic?” my friends and I ask… -from The Missionary of Wall Street

Steve is indeed the Executive Vice President and a chief investment officer with Federated Global Equities. He earned his undergraduate degree at Princeton University, where he graduated summa cum laude, and his graduate degree at Harvard Business School, where he was a Baker Scholar. As a leading investor and financial analyst,  Steve is a frequent guest on CNBC, Fox Business News, and Bloomberg TV, but in his new book, The Missionary of Wall Street, published by Sophia Institute Press, Steve ventures out of his investment wheelhouse and shares an entirely different side of himself.

You can almost hear Steve’s New York accent and the hint of humor in his voice as he relates not only his story, but stories of some of the estimated 2.5 million New Yorkers that he, Evelyn, and a band of street missionaries have encountered over the last 10 years around Prince & Mott in SoHo.  Of those 2.5 million, over 10,000 people have come to confession during the missions, many for the first time since their first communion.  Many thousands more have been accompanied by street missionaries into a church to pray or light a candle.

The book shares the true and remarkable stories of the miracles that happen on the street when Catholics become missionaries in the city that is the epicenter of secular culture. They base their evangelization outreach at Old St. Patrick’s in SoHo, led by the inspiration of Monsignor Donald Sakano, the pastor.  Their primary goal is to engage fallen away Catholics and accompany them in taking their first steps back into the Church. Stationed on neighborhood street corners, they greet passers-by with a warm smile and the question, “Are you Catholic?”  The answer to that question (or more often the lack of an answer) determines what happens next. Steve estimates that for every person who says yes and stops to speak with a missionary there are about 40 who just ignore them or respond with a quick negative.

The harsh reality is that, for every successful encounter on the streets of SoHo, our missionaries are rejected or ignored or yelled at by a minimum of twenty passers-by, an average of forty, and on some nights eighty or a hundred.

On top of our own natural human reactions to that abuse in the streets, add the role of the devil. Rest assured, the devil is not happy about our new evangelization. Most of the souls we encounter are on some level of his slippery slope—some are near the bottom, convinced they’re lost, or even no longer aware of eternity and their impending lost future….Most are practicing a reasonably sophisticated form of rationalization, convincing themselves that, for some reason or another, their behavior is morally acceptable….

Before we head to the streets, I stop in the church to pray, maybe even do a daily confession. I put myself in the hands of the Holy Spirit and ask Him to carry me through. When I do this sincerely and with deep faith, I always find I have joyful, confident perseverance through the long night of darkness.

Once you have the habit of joyful perseverance, you’ll keep going even when everything seems to be working against you. Even the weather.

Then success will sneak up on you and surprise you.

In today’s world of me first, love—true love—is in short supply. Lost souls hunger for love. And when they sense true love in a missionary’s spirit on the street, inevitably they’re drawn in. -from The Missionary of Wall Street

Sometimes God uses the missionaries to reach people outside of the Catholic faith as well, like Khalid, whose story Steve relates in the book:

Prince and Mott, SoHo.
Tuesday of Holy Week, 2017

It’s a beautiful, joyful evening in SoHo. It appears summer has come two months early. The afternoon sun is shining warmly in our faces, and joy is in the air.

Then Khalid, a Muslim from Morocco, walks by.

“You Christians all want to kill us!” he tells one of our missionaries.

A heated discussion follows. We have lots in common. Abraham, the father of both faiths. God, who inspired Mohammed, is the same God we worship. Jesus is at least a great prophet in a Muslim context.

“But the world is going to hell! Too many of you are trying to get us!” Actually, he uses some much more colorful language, but I’m not going to repeat it.

“Khalid, can you stop using those kinds of words out here on the street? You’re bigger than this. You’re a child of God. Come on!”

Khalid is still hostile; and the language is no less colorful. “Khalid, you’re trying to rile me up, but it’s not going to work. I love you too much. You’re my brother. Love will always conquer hate.”

“No way!”

“Khalid, I want you to go into the church to light a candle before God, and to pray for me. Can you do this for me?”

It takes some talking and a lot of Christian love, but somehow, someway (the Holy Spirit, perhaps?), Khalid finds the strength to head into a church for the first time in his life.”

 

Steve has a compelling story of his own as a cradle Catholic who had a dramatic “re-version” almost 20 years ago. He is a Regnum Christi member, and a national board member of the Lumen Institute. He makes it clear that the cause of the missions’ success, and of each individual conversion he has witnessed, is not him, but Jesus Christ who calls the missionaries out into the streets and lets them actively witness what he is doing in the lives of the passers-by that they engage. The Missionary of Wall Street invites the reader out of the holy huddle and on to the cold and tough street corners of New York.  You get the sense that as he tells these stories, each more improbable and transformative than the last, Steve is just as amazed as the reader is.

 

These inspiring tales of Steve Auth’s faithful band of Catholic missionaries working the street corners of New York City reads like a 21st-century version of the Acts of the Apostles.”

Jim Towey
President – Ave Maria University

 

Woven among the stories is another key component of the book. Pausing from his narrative every now and then, Steve speaks directly to the reader as a would-be missionary, giving tips on how to engage in street evangelization effectively.  In an experienced but accessible way, he shares the key elements of running a street mission, essential strategies, and some do’s and don’ts that he has learned over the years. Having touched millions of passers-by in New York over the last decade as the missionary of Wall Street, Steve may very well touch millions more through those who read this book and are inspired to step out and become missionaries themselves.

The Missionary of Wall Street is available in paperback and e-book from Sophia Institute Press.

For a taste of what you’ll find in the book, watch a recent talk Steve gave at an Atlanta Regnum Christi Convention below.

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“Ask a Priest: Why Does Jesus Evade Mary’s Question in the Temple?”

Q: When Jesus was 12 years old his parents were looking for him and after three days they found them in the temple. Why did he not make a direct, literal response to his mother about why he went missing? Instead of giving a proper explanation, he surprised her by asking her why she should have been worried in the first place. In fact, that should be like a mean thing a child says to his mother, especially after she has been frantically looking for him for three days. Over and above this he started speaking about his Father’s house, which seemed out of context. Second, why does it say that after this, he became obedient to them? Was he not before this as well? What does that mean? – P.M.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Your questions touch on one of the core mysteries of our faith: the Incarnation.

Jesus is both true God and true man. This means that as a 12-year-old his thinking was similar to that of a youth. Jesus shows a bit of naivete, if you will, in that he didn’t think to mention to Mary and Joseph beforehand that he intended to stay in Jerusalem.

Yet, as God the Son, he stayed behind in Jerusalem because he knew that his mission was to do God the Father’s will.

This is where Jesus shows his two natures. He displays awareness of his divine mission and yet shows youthful inexperience by not informing his parents. If these seem odd to be happening in the same Person at the same time, that is a reflection of the mystery of Christ himself.

If you don’t understand it totally, don’t worry. Mary didn’t understand it totally, either. That is why she “kept all these things in her heart.” She needed time to process what her Son said.

The Gospel passage simply says, “He went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them” (Luke 2:51). It doesn’t say that he was disobedient to them beforehand. His staying behind in Jerusalem could be attributed to youthful innocence rather than to malice.

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“Ask a Priest: What If Everything Seems Pointless?”

Q: I’ve been very upset for a while because I know that once we die and go to heaven all earthly ways are left behind, and none of it will exist in heaven and Scripture tells us to set our minds on things above and not earthly things. So now I don’t really enjoy anything I do, and everything seems pointless because ultimately it won’t matter in heaven. So all the things and activities that I previously enjoyed and the idea of marriage just kind of lost their appeal or enjoyment. I find no joy in being a Christian anymore. I feel really disappointed and depressed like all the time. – J.K.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: If you are feeling disappointed and depressed all the time, that might be a symptom of something else going on in your life.

Disappointment and depression are not the normal states of a Christian. Being a Christian, in fact, should give us a deep-rooted joy. After all, we have faith in Jesus, we know what he has done for us, and we understand what life is about. It lifts our gaze toward the hope of eternal life.

I would qualify that notion that “everything seems pointless.” True, the things of this world will pass away. But that doesn’t mean they are pointless.

Rather, this world as a kind of test run for eternity. What we do or don’t do here will have a huge impact on our eternity.

In this world we have the chance to pray, to sacrifice for souls, to spread the Gospel, to help other people get closer to Jesus, and to help them on their way to heaven. In this world we have the chance to become saints or to turn into tyrants.

In this sense the things of this world, including the opportunities they give us to grow in the virtues, are not pointless.

Moreover, Jesus himself doesn’t want us to just hide away in a cave. Here it might be good to read the parable in Matthew 25:14-30 and to note what happens to the servant with the one talent.

None of this implies that we should become attached to the world. St. Paul expressed the ambivalence of being a Christian nicely: “I am caught between the two. I long to depart this life and be with Christ, [for] that is far better. Yet that I remain [in] the flesh is more necessary for your benefit. And this I know with confidence, that I shall remain and continue in the service of all of you for your progress and joy in the faith” (Philippians 1:23-25).

There we have a nice summary of what a Christian might feel: a desire to leave this world behind and be with Jesus, and yet a tug in the other direction, to stay here and help other souls to grow in their faith.

(For more reading see my colleague Father Bartunek’s Seeking First the Kingdom.)

Be sure of this: You have a mission in life. Jesus didn’t put you here just to wait for the day when you leave this world. He wants you to jump into the arena, to use your talents for the glory of God and the good of others, and to bring his love to the souls you meet.

Living this mission to the full will allow you to begin to experience the joy of eternal life even while you are still here on earth — in fact, that’s why Jesus came to be our Savior: “I came that they might have life and have it more abundantly” (John 10:10).

The deeper our friendship with Jesus gets here on earth, the more we experience the lasting happiness that he wants us to experience. Jesus himself designed human life; living it according to his example and teaching leads us to experience more fulfillment in life, not less.

Perhaps it might help to pray about this point and seek out a confessor or spiritual director to guide you. And if that sense of depression lingers, you might consider seeing a counselor, too.

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“Ask a Priest: What If Family and Friends Don’t Believe in Jesus?”

Q:  I’m so worried and concerned about my family. I have an agnostic father, very good Islamic friends, and other friends who are atheists. I really love these people, but they are not the type to listen to me talk about Jesus. They are quite confident in their own beliefs. My Islamic friends are brought up in that lifestyle and don’t believe in Jesus the way I do. My atheist friends don’t believe in anything in the Bible. And even though I respect that, I worry. I understand that the only way to God is through faith of Jesus Christ as the Son of God. But can you say there might be a chance that the people I love are judged as individuals by God? Is there any hope for those who have different beliefs? – S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: The short answer is yes, people of other faiths and even of no explicit faith could attain salvation.

Permit me to quote from a Church document, Lumen Gentium, which came out of the Second Vatican Council (1962-1965):

“But the plan of salvation also includes those who acknowledge the Creator. In the first place among these there are the Muslims, who, professing to hold the faith of Abraham, along with us adore the one and merciful God, who on the last day will judge mankind. Nor is God far distant from those who in shadows and images seek the unknown God, for it is He who gives to all men life and breath and all things, and as Savior wills that all men be saved. Those also can attain to salvation who through no fault of their own do not know the Gospel of Christ or His Church, yet sincerely seek God and moved by grace strive by their deeds to do His will as it is known to them through the dictates of conscience. Nor does Divine Providence deny the helps necessary for salvation to those who, without blame on their part, have not yet arrived at an explicit knowledge of God and with His grace strive to live a good life” (No. 16).

The idea of salvation for atheists would need to be qualified, however, since people can reach a certainty of the existence of God based on reason. But in theory they too still have a chance, as Lumen Gentium says.

One observation might be good to keep in mind. If you find that you can’t speak about Jesus around these folks, you might want to be sure you aren’t endangering your own spiritual life.

One of the things that helps us in our Catholic faith is being able to share it and live it with others. In your relationships with these people, you need to keep learning how to do that in a loving, creative, constructive way.

To that end, you might want to consider using this book of meditations written by my friend and colleague Father John Bartunek: Go! 30 Meditations on How Best to Love Your Neighbor as Yourself.

If you find that you need to bracket off your religious beliefs from your interaction with your friends and family, that isn’t healthy.

Ideally, our faith should encompass all aspects of our lives — what we speak about, what we read, etc.

One suggestion would be to look for ways to network with believers with whom you can speak of the faith. Perhaps this is something to take to prayer. And keep praying for those people you love so much.

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“Ask a Priest: How Can I Trust God After My Mom’s Death?”

Q: When I was 12 years old I saw my mother take her last breath and die from cancer. That was 10 years ago. At that time I had been an altar server for three years at my parish and I continued to serve. But as time passed by I started to feel like God betrayed me and didn’t love me. Every time I served I felt anger, because here I am serving someone who took my mother away. So, after serving for six years I left because that sense of betrayal was hard for me to cope with and it still is. I’m afraid to get close to my faith again because I’m afraid to get hurt once more. When I pray, I do it because I’m afraid of God. I’m afraid of what he can do in my life if I don’t pray. I’m sacred of him and his power. I hope you can give me some advice. Thank you and God bless you. – A.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: My heart goes out to you. I am sorry to hear that you lost your mom at such a young age.

Hard as it was to lose her, you mustn’t think that God somehow betrayed you. God loves you and your mom. And while it might be difficult to grasp, God loves your mom even more than you do.

It was not part of his original plan for suffering and death to be present in the world. Those came because of the sin of our first parents.

There are three sure signs of God’s love for you.

First, he created you. Your very existence depends on him. He sustains you out of love.

Second, he created your mom and gave her as a gift to you.

Third, he sent his only Son to suffer and die on a cross for your redemption and your mom’s redemption — and for the redemption of all of us.

Now, there is no doubt that one of the great mysteries is why God allows pain and suffering and evil in the world.

Here we can recall that the suffering of Jesus brought something good — redemption. Likewise, our own suffering can be united with his for the sake of souls.

God can also bring something good out of suffering. Perhaps beneath your sorrow and fear is a desire to want to be close to God. You aren’t indifferent to him, which could be a lot worse. And it is significant that in the closing of your e-mail, you wrote, “… and God bless you.” You might already have a sense that he is really is a good God, a loving God.

Sometimes it is the people we are closer to who can baffle us and seem mysterious at times. It is the same with God. Even the psalmists complained to him – and that was recorded in Sacred Scripture.

Perhaps the passing of your mom has kept you asking the deep questions of life. Perhaps this has helped you avoid a lot of the frivolity that seems to grip many of your contemporaries.

Perhaps the passing of your mom has kept you asking the deep questions of life. Perhaps this has helped you avoid a lot of the frivolity that seems to grip many of your contemporaries.

Regardless of the good that God will bring out of that painful loss, you might want to try thanking him for all the good that you received from your mother and for the years that you did have her, rather than being angry at the Lord for her death.

Death comes for us all. Suffering comes for us all. But those hardships don’t have to negate the many gifts and good things that God sends us in our lives. We have the freedom to think of those and let them shore up hope and gratitude in our souls.

In the recent past there was someone else who lost his mom at a young age — he was only about 8 years old at the time of her death. He later lost his brother during an epidemic and at age 20 he lost his dad. With faith and confidence in God this young man went on to become a priest. Today the world remembers him as Pope St. John Paul II.

Certainly, the ways of God are mysterious. But be sure that he loves you and wants you close to him.

Perhaps this is a moment to draw close to the Blessed Virgin Mary. She is your Mother, too, and she wants nothing more than for you to be close to her Son, Jesus. Perhaps Mary might be a little easier for you to draw close to. John Paul II found great comfort in his devotion to Our Lady.

It might be good for you to cultivate your devotion to her. Ask her to help you trust God and to see his plan for your life. You can be sure that Our Lady would love for you to be reunited with your own mom someday. (You might find helpful our Retreat Guide “God Is Faithful.“)

I hope some of this helps. Count on my prayers.

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!