God’s Providence

Lessons from Dahlias

Dear Friends,

 

This summer, a package of Dahlia seeds gave me food for thought about the nature of Christian maturity. Two years ago I received a gift: dahlia seeds. Being winter and knowing nothing about them, into the “everything” closet they went and were forgotten… until June of this past summer when I stumbled across them again. Despite having missed the ideal planting season and on the verge of a scorching hot summer, I was tempted by two empty pots in front of our St Joseph statue. They sat on the other side of a glass door, two feet from my chapel spot. I finally mustered up the resolve and in they went, with hopeful anticipation. A little constancy to water them was all it took, nature did the rest. I delighted when the first shoots of green peeked through the dirt. I cleaned out a few stray weeds that had wandered in and thinned out the crowded starters to make room for the healthier plants to take root. They grew and grew and grew, one foot, two feet, three feet high. On a typical morning, I arrived to my chapel spot for morning prayer, and lo and behold, three full dahlias were lifting their faces to the sun. Each one possessed its unique color and design. Enchanted by the plants’ healthy stalks, green foliage, vivacious flowers and a multitude of buds ready to display their splendor, I had the genius idea to assure that the plants would not be harmed by possible fungus. Congratulating myself for the initiative, an anti-fungus spray became my insurance policy. Or so I thought. The next day I arrived to my chapel spot to discover plants, flowers and buds wilted and burnt from the chemical. It was a tough lesson. I should have left well enough alone. Perhaps there comes a point in our relationship with the Lord when we need to do the same. The vocation to loving communion with Him seems to follow the rhythm of those dahlias. It requires constancy in “watering” as we nurture the heart’s desire to seek God. We must “weed, thin and prune” the extra stuff in our lives to make space for deep roots of friendship with Jesus to take their hold. But there comes a time when we must let “nature” takes its course. Far from lethargy or relinquishing our participation in God’s transforming plan for our lives, Christian maturity is the art of humility and surrender. It is knowing when to let go of our desires to control God’s project. Give up our “insurance policy,” so to speak, and let God act upon our nature in His way and time. He is the gardener who knows best how to tend our souls. Thanks to His loving providence, the slow emergence of virtue is possible. We would do well to cast away fears of what might be and contemplate the beauty of what is. To this end, I offer this prayer to the Gardener of our soul: Let my soul be a resting ground for you; that it might be pleasing to You. Make it a garden of paradise according to Your good pleasure. Root out the weeds and do with me as you will. May my heart and soul console you in this dark world where beauty is obscured. Let it be one more place you can come and know you are loved. You are my refuge, but make my heart more like yours that I too may be a refuge for you to be loved and for others to drink from the font of your love. Your Friend in Christ, Jennifer Ristine Jennifer lives in the formation center for the consecrated women of Regnum Christi in Madrid, Spain, and is the author of “Mary Magdalene, Insights from Ancient Magdala” and “Nine Days with Mary Magdalene.”  

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Entrusting Others to God

All things serve the Lord (Psalm 119:91)

I am always at work, and my Father is always at work (John 5:17)

Hello Everyone,

Unsurprisingly, C.S. Lewis puts it best. In The Horse and His Boy, Aslan reveals some of the actions he has performed for Shasta’s benefit. The boy Shasta presses Aslan, particularly eager it would seem, for more information about his friend Aravis. And Aslan replies: “Child, I am telling you your story, not hers. I tell no one any story but his own.”

This is, perhaps, an echo of Jesus’ words to St Peter in John chapter 21. Jesus and Peter concluded their conversation in which Jesus asks Peter if he loves him, and reaffirms Peter’s mission as pope. Peter then sees John and asks Jesus, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus replies, “If it is my will that he remain until I return, what is that to you? Follow me.” In other words, “I tell no one any story but his own.”

Herein nests a call from God: to entrust others to him, and to trust that our following the Lord will bring grace to others. There are as many stories as there are people, and yet the master author is writing them all. The Lord is always at work; he is endlessly creative; and his pen never runs dry.

God bless you,

Fr. John Pietropaoli

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“Ask a Priest: So Many Lost Souls – Where Is Jesus’ Victory?”

Q: I often feel a sense of unease when I come across such phrases in the Gospel as “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven” or “The gate is wide and the road broad that leads to destruction, and those who enter through it are many.” If Jesus through his death and resurrection has won a victory over sin, death and Satan, then how am I to understand this victory if, as the Gospel and the Church Fathers suggest, very many, probably the majority of humanity, will be damned? Surely, the high number of damned souls would be Satan’s victory and consolation. Although I am also against abortion because it is murder, I sometimes wonder whether giving birth to a child is just adding to the sum total of human wickedness and potential demon-fodder. Unless my thinking is mistaken, how am I to understand the Gospel as good news? – P.S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A. First, the Church has never officially declared what percentage of humanity would be lost. It is a speculative question, and we won’t know the answer until the last judgment.

We should always have hope for the salvation of souls. There is no reason to abandon praying for souls of the living or dead. Prayers make a difference!

Second, it is good to remember bringing children into the world is a good thing. God’s first command to the first couple was to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). The idea that somehow a new life is adding to the misery in the world is badly mistaken. I dare say that you might have been influenced a lot by the world’s viewpoint here. Many people who support abortion and contraception try to justify them on the grounds that limiting the number of people in the world is good. That isn’t a Christian viewpoint. God wanted the first couple to multiply and to “fill the earth” (also Genesis 1:28). Suffice it to say that each person’s very existence is a sign of God’s glory. It isn’t for us to judge that new lives shouldn’t be raised up in the world.

Third, God gives everyone enough grace to reach heaven — if the person does his part. No one ends up lost but for his choice.

Fourth, as for the world being a nasty place: It has been a mess since the sin of the first humans. That sin brought original sin into the equation. The result is that we inherit a damaged human nature which is prone to doing bad things. The devil is strong — but Jesus is much stronger. Our faith teaches us that. The world is good; sin brings evil. But that isn’t God’s fault.

What is needed here is a spirit of faith and confidence in God’s providence. This is the moment when the world needs Christian witnesses. This is when the world needs to see the Gospel come alive in the lives of Christians.

This is the moment when we need to bring the light of Christ into a darkened realm. Mother Teresa did that, and she helped change the lives of millions. Such is the grace of God that can transform hearts.

So it might be good to forget the world thinks. Look to the example of Mother Teresa and other saints. They didn’t buy into the pessimism of the world. Rather, they built their lives on Christ. One way to imitate the saints is to stay close to prayer and the sacraments, and do what you can to help those around you.

Be bold about your Christianity. The world needs to see such boldness in you. (Perhaps the online retreat about discouragement might be helpful, A Cure for Discouragement.

I will pray for you!

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“Ask a Priest: What If Fears of Violence Keep Me From Going to Mass?”

Q: As I live in the U.S. I know that the likelihood of something terrorist or violent in nature taking place during Mass is minimal. But I still can’t help feeling vulnerable at Mass. I don’t live in a community that is unsafe either. I am a devout Catholic and attend Mass every Sunday, however, if I feel the slightest feelings of hesitation or worry come over me prior to Mass I just scare myself out of going. I pray daily to try to help me get rid of these feelings. Any help and guidance is greatly appreciated. -M.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is understandable that you experience fears, given all the tragic news of recent months.

Still, as a devout Catholic you have every reason to cultivate a sense of hope and trust in God’s providence.

Sure, we live in a world marred by terrorism. But there has always been violence in the world. As Christians we ideally should be encouraged by the words of Jesus, “I have conquered the world” (John 16:33). Christians have suffered persecution and martyrdom throughout the history of the Church, and God has shown that he will give us whatever strength we need to face the difficulties that come our way. When we feel fearful, we can renew our faith in God’s goodness and wisdom.

At a practical level, the chance of you or I being attacked in Mass is probably much smaller than the chance of our being in a car accident, or having an accident around the house.

Perhaps part of the solution here is to limit your exposure to the news media.

Let’s face it, the news can be depressing. And Jesus doesn’t want us to go through life depressed.

We are supposed to be apostles of hope to the world around us. This isn’t to say that we cut ourselves off totally from the world; as citizens we should try to keep informed about what is happening around us. But don’t let the media dominate your worldview. Media specializes in bad news, not good news. So perhaps you want to limit yourself to 10 or 15 minutes of news during the day, be it by radio, TV, or print media. And then focus on more positive things the rest of the day: prayer and good works, for instance.

Another consideration is your daily social life. Do you have a network of family and friends to support you? Are you involved in any kind of volunteer work that will help you channel your energies?

Dedication to those in need is a good way to keep our own lives in perspective. It helps us appreciate all the positive things God has given us, and it reminds us that we can make a contribution to others. All this can help get our minds off the relentless bad news out there.

Another factor, of course, is that you don’t want anything to come between you and the Mass. Jesus is waiting for you.

Perhaps an online retreat about trust could help you. I hope some of this helps.

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“Ask a Priest: What If I’m Told to Stop Confessing the Same Sins?”

Q: I’m wondering about something that has been said to me several times during confession. After I have finished confessing my sins (I generally go to the same priest), the priest tells me to stop saying the same sins. This is incredibly disheartening as I am repeating the same sins, and because it is the same confessor it is most embarrassing to go and say the same thing. I usually consider that it is part of going to say sorry, and I am trying to improve. Is this comment something I should just bear with? I want to be completely honest, and when I go to confession, I pray before and after, very much searching my conscience. I think the priest is trying to help me, but isn’t God and his grace going to perfect me? Can I tell my priest this comment hurts me, or should I just take it as respectfully as I can? -K.S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I’m assuming that these “same sins” are venial sins, since to withhold mortal sins would make the sacrament invalid.

It is possible that the confessor thinks your constant repeating of the same sins might be counterproductive. I imagine he is trying to help you, though his advice needs to be taken with a grain of salt.

First, it isn’t unusual that we confess that same sins. We are creatures of habit, and some habits become deeply ingrained. They are hard to change. We might have developed habits of anger or vanity or laziness or whatever — these take time and prayer and work and the grace of God to overcome. Besides, struggling with our faults and weaknesses and day-to-day venial sins can help us stay humble.

Second, the Church encourages us to confess venial sins. The Catechism in No. 1458 says:

“Without being strictly necessary, confession of everyday faults (venial sins) is nevertheless strongly recommended by the Church. Indeed the regular confession of our venial sins helps us form our conscience, fight against evil tendencies, let ourselves be healed by Christ and progress in the life of the Spirit. By receiving more frequently through this sacrament the gift of the Father’s mercy, we are spurred to be merciful as he is merciful.”

So, you aren’t wrong to confess venial sins, even the same ones over and over.

Now, let’s step back a moment. There might be various factors that prompted the confessor’s advice.

First, he might detect some scrupulosity and is trying to help you focus on other issues. If scrupulosity is indeed a problem, then he as a regular confessor would be in a better situation to help you.

Second, he might detect that you are in a rut, in the sense that he isn’t perceiving more progress in your spiritual life. Maybe he is trying to get you to look at bigger issues or approach things in a different way.

For instance, instead of your saying, “I was angry with my boss” for the umpteenth time, perhaps he is hoping that you say something like, “I failed to see Christ in my boss, I failed to see him as a brother whom I need to be more patient with.” (This is a speculative point, but I offer it anyway.)

Third, some clergy and spiritual directors over the years have suggested that it is better to focus on one or two of the most common sins, and just mention them, but to do so in depth. The example above would apply here too. The idea is to do more introspection in order to understand the roots of a particular sin. For example, why don’t you get along with your boss? Perhaps the boss reminds you of someone from the past. Or perhaps you have a problem with authority. Or perhaps you have doubts about whether you should be working where you are working.

Ideally a regular confessor could help a penitent go deeper in order to understand the basis for patterns of sin and to help combat these sins systematically.

If you feel as if you have hit a limit with your confessor, then perhaps it is a moment to look for another one, or at least to go to another confessor occasionally.

It might be helpful to see the RC Spirituality Retreat Guide on confession, “From Sorrow to Joy,” especially the conference (which is the final video or the last part of the PDF document).

Whatever you do, continue to take advantage of the sacrament. It is a great source of grace. And don’t despair if you find it hard to shake certain sins. This is part of the human condition. We wrestle with problems all the days of our lives, but with a spirit of hope in God’s providence.

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“Ask a Priest: What’s a Distressed News Junkie to Do?”

Q: Is there any true hope left in this world? I am a self-described news junkie, which might be contributing to my distress. However, it seems that every day there is yet another incident of self-absorbed hatred, violence, or simple lack of compassion for our fellow man. Whether it be the police being targeted, or the non-stop political posturing that we are flooded with on a daily basis, it seems that no one really looks out for one another. Yes, there are the occasional “human interest” stories put forth, but even the religious foundations which I was brought up with seem to be an unstoppable example of hypocrisy, with members of the clergy being brought up on charges of the most heinous nature. And those who I was taught to believe were the channels of the Word instead play word-games to limit their liability. Would a true God allow for such madness to exist for so many years? I have so often found myself questioning the existence of such a presence, as it would take but the merest lifting of a finger to prove one’s existence to quell virtually all of the turmoil in the world. I have read those parts of the Bible which deal with the necessity of such events to occur as a prelude to the return of Jesus, but at what point is enough proven to be enough? Can the narcissistic mentality of so many human beings really be a requirement to herald a Second Coming? In desperate hope of an answer … -R.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I think it was C.S. Lewis who, when asked why he didn’t read newspapers, said something like, “Because they make unnatural demands on my sympathies.”

Overexposure to the news can make anyone despondent — which might be a good reason to limit your exposure to the news. One strategy is to just glance at a newspaper for a few minutes daily, and then focus on more uplifting things, such as prayer, Bible reading, acts of charity, spending time with your family, etc.

It is good to remember that news reporting is part of a business, and in order to “succeed” it often plays to people’s fears and present exceptional things (which make for catchy headlines), rather than present a balanced vision of the good and bad. Unfortunately, good news isn’t often thought of as news. This is all the more reason why secular news outlets shouldn’t be our primary window on the world.

The world has always been a mess. That God didn’t give up on us is a great sign of his mercy. So much did he love us that he sent us his Son.

Imitate that Son as best you can. That is how you will give glory to God, bring a bit of light into the world, and maybe, with divine grace, become a saint. That is what life is really about. So do yourself a favor: Limit your intake of news. But not the Good News that Jesus brought.

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“Ask a Priest: Did I Err by Burying a St. Joseph Statue to Sell My House?”

Q: I’m selling my home and my cousin asked if I had a buried a St. Joseph statue. I didn’t. I went to a parish gift shop and they had a home-sellers kit, which is a small statue of St. Joseph, and instructions to bury him upside down, feet pointing in the direction you want to move, and a prayer and novena. After the house sells, you are to go get him and put him in your new home for all to see. I posted about it and was torn up by one woman. Did I do something horrible? Should I go get him? Can I leave him? I don’t know what to do. I bought him from a Catholic church gift shop. If it was wrong, why would they sell it? I’m so conflicted and confused. -D.T.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: In principle it is OK to bury the statue and say the prayers if it is intended as a petition for the intercession of St. Joseph. The Church has long accepted the custom of the faithful having statues and images of the saints.

The danger with this particular practice is that it can border on superstition, or at least give others the impression that Catholics endorse quasi-superstitious practices.

The Catechism in No. 2111 says, “Superstition is the deviation of religious feeling and of the practices this feeling imposes. It can even affect the worship we offer the true God, e.g., when one attributes an importance in some way magical to certain practices otherwise lawful or necessary. To attribute the efficacy of prayers or of sacramental signs to their mere external performance, apart from the interior dispositions that they demand, is to fall into superstition.”

In other words, a Catholic shouldn’t bury the statue thinking that, with a few prayers added in, a house sale will be automatic.

Indeed, the instructions spelled out in the “kit” could be perceived as leaning toward the error of presumption. And one should never presume that a certain prayer or act is going to bring a desired result.

If you want to leave the statue buried, that is OK; that is an acceptable way of disposing of blessed items. If you want to retrieve it and display it later, that is OK too.

Whatever you do, do it with a genuine interior spirit of prayer and trust in God’s providence. His main interest is bringing us to an eternal home of rest.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!