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When Sacrifice is Chosen for Us

Dear Friends,

Every Christian to some extent understands the concept of sacrifice. The dictionary describes sacrifice as the surrendering of something for someone else.

We choose which sacrifices we are going to make to help ourselves grow in holiness. We choose to not eat certain foods or drink certain beverages when we know they are harmful to us. We choose how we are going to tithe from our income to support the Church and which local charities we favor. So often, we view ourselves as generous because we choose to offer this or that.

But what happens when the need for personal sacrifice is chosen for us? What happens when the dreaded diagnosis of cancer or dementia or a child with special needs or the loss of a job are thrust upon us? No one chooses that.

One of my favorite authors is Jacques Philippe. In his book Interior Freedom, he shares his insights regarding choosing sacrifices or consenting to those chosen for you. He believes true inner freedom comes when we consent to that which we would not have chosen for ourselves or our loved ones. Especially when it comes to suffering. St. Therese, in one of her notebooks, reminds us we can only suffer one moment at a time. We often dwell on the past and fear the idea of suffering in the future, but all we really have is today.

Every day we have the choice to willingly accept opportunities to sacrifice our will in the present moment or fight against it. Fr Philippe says, “Hearts anxious about tomorrow can’t be open to the grace of the present moment.” What is most important is not what
we can do for the Lord, but leaving space for what God can do in us when we consent to a sacrifice we didn’t freely choose.

Yours in the Heart of Jesus,

Donna

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Freedom and Humility

Dear Friends,

Being Set Free: In Luke 1:67-69, Zechariah starts his canticle by blessing the Lord “who has come to his people to set them free,” free from their enemies so that they are free to worship him without fear. Zechariah foresees the fulfillment of God’s covenant in Mary’s womb and foresees the mission of his newborn son as the one who will “prepare the way.” I have often thought, “Does no one see the irony here?” He is talking about an infant and a baby in-utero coming to set everyone free.

This contradiction, improbability, and general unrealistic expectation sets the stage for what has become our central Christian belief: God became human, “dwelt among us” (Jn. 1:14), suffered and died, redeemed us from sin, rose from the dead and now invites us to his Kingdom (heaven). This is very different from the gods of other religions.

A Humble God?: Throughout the centuries, the many gods of the many peoples of the world have had human aspects that are often related to human vices. The Mesopotamian, Sumerian, Egyptian, Greek and Roman deities are all depicted with vices: they could be selfish and lustful, jealous and vengeful, yet sometimes merciful on a whim. Humans were their occasional play-things, subject to their whims rather than free. These gods were all relatable because of their human vices and were recognized as divine because of the power they had to commit vice, yet maintain their power as a god.

However, Jesus Christ, the God of the Christian, is depicted as humble, simple, and selfless: relatable because He became a human person; recognized as divine because of His virtue. Jesus proved His divinity by renouncing all of His power, submitting even to be conceived in the womb of a woman and to grow from baby to child to adult; to be understood or misunderstood, accepted or rejected and eventually captured, beaten, crucified and murdered. “And the word became flesh and made his dwelling among us” (Jn 1:14). He did not “call down fire” (Lk. 9:54) on his enemies or order legions of angels to rescue him in his moments of greatest need (Mt. 26:53). He used the power of his divinity by allowing his humanity to be free and by offering us his heart, full of love for us.

There is a beautiful quote about Jesus from one of the Second Vatican Council documents that is cited in the Catechism of the Catholic Church, and which says, “The Son of God. . . worked with human hands; he thought with a human mind. He acted with a human will, and with a human heart he loved. Born of the Virgin Mary, he has truly been made one of us, like to us in all things except sin” (CCC #470; GS 22 § 2).

The Attraction of Humility: Here is the attraction, for me anyway. It isn’t just that God became one of us, but that he chose to live the everyday, the mundane, the simple happiness and the suffering—and that he chose to love. Real human love takes humility, and Jesus did love. John 11:5 says, “Now Jesus loved Mary and her sister and Lazarus.” Lazarus was his friend and he wept at his friend’s death, even though he would raise him from death (Jn. 11:35). Jesus wept over Jerusalem as he looked at the cityscape, because he loved the people in it, past, present and future (Mt. 23:37-39; Lk. 19:41-44). At the end of his life, he prayed for us (Jn. 17:20) to be one in him and in the Father “that the love with which you loved me may be in them and I in them” (Jn. 17:26).

Looking at it from this perspective, the “unrealistic” statements in Zechariah’s canticle came true on a deeper level than even he could fathom. The freedom we gained from the birth we await at Christmas and the suffering and death that brought us life with resurrection gain us a greater freedom than anyone could have imagined. May our hearts be open to this freedom and respond with love to Love.

Your Friend in Christ, 

Nicole Buchholz

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“Ask a Priest: Who Is the Church to Tell Me How to Vote?”

Q: I’m 69 years old, was baptized Catholic and attended Catholic schools through the completion of a four-year degree. I am deeply distressed for a number of reasons. Tell me if I’m wrong — I’ve always considered priests and nuns as my primary role models. That notion has been shattered throughout my adult life, and yesterday a line was crossed. A parish pastor used the homily as a political directive to vote “pro-life.” I will NOT be told to vote on one issue when that candidate has so many evil attributes. I hate abortion and would never condone it. However, I believe in a woman’s right to make decisions (free will) for her body. I believe the Church is usurping its power by demeaning women’s rights but never, ever placing any responsibility on men. When God created man (and woman) did he not give us free will to follow the Ten Commandments or to follow Satan? Did God give the Church the right to judge or did God say all of us will be judged upon death? If a woman chooses to end the life of her fetus, that is between her and God. People of faith should provide counsel as to “right and wrong” but not to force her decision. The Church provides the safety and holiness of confession which is the appropriate role of the clergy. On the flip side, if a woman has an abortion, does the Church want to put her in prison? I’m still hoping to meet a priest who actually follows Christ’s footsteps as a compassionate, loving person who reaches out to his flock. Hasn’t happened yet. In 1982 I lost my oldest son (age 12) to cancer and reached out for help from the clergy — someone who would reassure my son that he should not fear dying. Guess what — nobody came. Yes, I was mad at God but eventually returned to my faith. Guess what — attending Mass yesterday just destroyed me again. I will still pray and believe in God as I know I have a saint in heaven. However, I’ve lost respect for priests and Catholicism. Telling me how to vote is the straw that’s broke my back! I will pray for God’s understanding. — M.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: I am sorry to hear that you feel so alienated from the Church.

It is especially sad to hear that you didn’t sense the support you needed from the Church when your son was dying. Jesus loves your son and was ready to greet him in the next life. Jesus would have also wanted your family to feel his love through representatives of his Church.

The Church certainly has an all-too-human dimension. It comprises people who have limitations and weaknesses and lapses in judgment. This has been true since the beginning — Jesus’ first apostles displayed pride, pettiness, cowardice and betrayal. They were humans with lots of failings. But it was precisely humans whom Jesus came to save.

Yet, it is through faith we know that the Church is first and foremost the mystical body of Christ. It is God’s instrument to help us on the way toward eternity, an eternity that we hope to spend with our loved ones.

One way he helps us is through Church teachings. Now, I agree that the pulpit is not the place for political endorsements; perhaps the priest didn’t intend for it to be interpreted as such.

The pulpit, however, is a fitting venue where Christian principles can and must be taught. Among those principles is the value of human life and the need to protect innocent human life.

The Church knows that women who undergo abortion often do it under pressure from the men in their lives or even from their families. The Church also knows the agony that many women live with the rest of their days. It certainly isn’t infringing on anyone’s right to try to protect human life and to help keep a woman from making a decision that could haunt her the rest of her life. Also, it is notaccurate to say that Church teaching ignores men who contribute to abortions. A man who helps procure an abortion is subject to excommunication.

Perhaps it wasn’t that homily alone that is leaving you feeling alienated. Perhaps if you delved deeper into why the Church defends unborn human life, it would be more apparent that the Church has the best interest of women at heart. All too often it is women alone who carry the psychological scars of abortion. A society whose laws permit abortion is ignoring that horrible damage to women. It is also abandoning the members of that society who are the most defenseless, the least able to fend for themselves: children in the womb. In the same way that Church teaching points out the evils of slavery and sex-trafficking, it points out the evils of abortion.

I’d venture to say that it is the proliferation of abortion that has demeaned the meaning of sex and coarsened the culture (examples of which were rampant in a recent campaign).

Linked to a lot of problems is a mistaken idea of freedom. Freedom means we have the capacity to choose evil but not the right. If we had the right to do evil, there would be no prospect of punishment. And abortion is certainly not just between a woman and God – there is another life involved that has rights.

Moreover, as Catholics we can’t just sit by and do nothing in the face of gross injustice. To say that abortion is purely between a woman and God is like saying assault is purely between an attacker and God, or theft is purely between a thief and the Almighty. There is a social dimension to sin. We are our brother’s keepers. We are called to guard the rights of others – foremost among them the right to life. “Whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me” (Matthew 25:40).

Perhaps more than ever this is a moment to draw near to the Blessed Virgin Mary. She will intercede for you. She wants you to be reunited with your son someday in a far happier place.

I hope some of this helps. Count on being included in one of my Mass intentions.

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“Ask a Priest: Did God Make Us as Sinners?”

Q: I have been raised as Roman Catholic. I’ve tried my hardest to remain faithful. I make it my duty to teach my children the beautiful teachings of the Bible and Jesus Christ. However, recently I have run into a huge hurdle regarding my faith. I don’t understand why God made us sinners. Why is sin inevitable for every single one of us? If it is already pre-determined that we are all sinners, then why must we repent? God made us like this. Is it really our fault, or is it his? And if this is how he made us, doesn’t that mean we are not good? If it’s impossible for a person to live and die without ever sinning (with the exception of Mary, mother of Jesus, and babies, I suppose), then did he truly make us good? Please help me. It has been on my mind for a very long time, and I feel I am pulling away from God. -A.S.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: It is good to hear that you are taking seriously your responsibility to educate your children in the faith. That is one of the greatest acts of love and service you can do for your children.

Now to your question. It is good to remember, first and foremost, that everything God creates is good. “God looked at everything he had made, and found it very good” (Genesis 1:31). That includes human beings, who are made in his image and likeness (see 1:26).

It is not pre-determined by God that we are sinners. In his original plan for the world, we were all meant to live in perfect harmony with his will.

The sin of Adam upset all of that. In a mysterious way the sin of Adam affected all of his descendants, including us. Just as we inherit certain features from our own parents, so we (including babies) inherit something from Adam: original sin.

Original sin can be thought of as a defect in our nature. It can be removed by baptism, yet it leaves an aftereffect – namely, concupiscence, the tendency to sin.

The Catechism in No. 405 says, “Although it is proper to each individual, original sin does not have the character of a personal fault in any of Adam’s descendants. It is a deprivation of original holiness and justice, but human nature has not been totally corrupted: it is wounded in the natural powers proper to it, subject to ignorance, suffering and the dominion of death, and inclined to sin — an inclination to evil that is called ‘concupiscence.’ Baptism, by imparting the life of Christ’s grace, erases original sin and turns a man back towards God, but the consequences for nature, weakened and inclined to evil, persist in man and summon him to spiritual battle.”

God in his mercy didn’t give up on the human race. He sent his Son as our redeemer. With the grace of God, especially through prayer and the sacraments, we can attain holiness.

It is good to be clear: God did not make us sinners. He never makes anything bad. He does, however, respect our freedom. He respected Adam’s freedom, just as he does ours. If we commit actual sin, it is our fault, not God’s. Still, he is always there ready to extend his mercy to those who repent.

So how should you move ahead? With great humility! Be humble and honest enough to recognize that your sins are your choice – and that you need God’s mercy and forgiveness as do the rest of us.

All this should give you a sense of hope. You are, after all, a beloved daughter of God. He only wants the best for you and your family. If you stay close to Jesus and the sacraments, and cultivate a devotion to Mary, you will sense God’s goodness and closeness.

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“Ask a Priest: Isn’t It Perverse to Create a Person, Knowing He Will Be Damned?”

Q: How far back does God’s foreknowledge of someone’s damnation go? Does he know that someone will be condemned before he creates him? I mean, if God knows that a person will be damned before he creates him, why does he create him at all? Wouldn’t it be perverse to create a person, knowing that he will be damned? If God knows that we will be saved or damned before he creates us, and he still creates us, wouldn’t that be predestination? How do I reconcile God’s foreknowledge with human freedom? With the power of prayer? Could you give me any references that I could read to better understand this issue? Thank you very much and God bless. -F.A.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: Some of your questions touch on matters that have generated lots of theological debates over the centuries. Obviously I won’t be able to resolve the issue here, but perhaps a few observations and replies will help.

God sees and knows everything — past, present and future — since he is outside of time. Even before he created the physical world around us, he already knew where everyone would end up. So, yes, God knows whether a soul will end up in hell even before he creates the soul.

Here it is good to recall what condemnation and hell are about. We shouldn’t think of hell as some kind of superheated furnace into which God flings souls who have stepped out of line and who didn’t repent before death.

Rather, think of it like this: God, who is infinitely good, infinitely merciful, infinitely loving, wants to share his love with creatures made in his image and likeness (see Genesis 1:26). He creates them out of nothing and gives them free will. He makes them free because he wants them to freely love him. After all, love requires freedom. God could have made us like robots. But can a robot love?

Now, some people use their free will to love God, others don’t. Some people use their free will to offend and reject God. If they die in that state, they in effect live with the eternal consequences of their decision. If they didn’t want God, well, they will have to live with that decision forever. That is what hell is. It is not something imposed by God as much as it is something chosen freely by people.

If anything is perverse in all this, it is the decision by souls to reject God. That God created us in the first place is a marvelous sign of his greatness. That some of us reject this loving God is a sign of how badly we can use freedom.

God’s knowledge that a soul will end up in hell shows his omniscience, not his malevolence. An analogy might help here.

Imagine that you give your neighbor a bottle of his favorite wine as a gift on his birthday. Now, imagine that a few minutes later you see your neighbor toss the bottle of wine out his third-story attic window. You know that within a second or two the bottle will shatter when it hits the cement sidewalk below. And, lo and behold, the bottle shatters and the wine is lost. Did your “foreknowledge” cause the bottle to break? No. Are you perverse because you gave him the bottle of wine in the first place? No.

Or take a more personal example. Let’s say a man and woman marry, with the hopes of starting a family. Lo and behold, their first baby arrives a year later. Will this baby grow up and someday sin? Probably. Now, sin is offensive to God. So why did this couple ever marry and have a baby? Are they “perverse” because they wanted to bring children into the world, children who someday will likely sin and offend God?

Of course, we wouldn’t consider such a couple perverse. Rather, we think of them as a very healthy couple who want to share their love with their own children. Let’s say that the parents raise the children as best they can. If the kids grow up and sin and misuse their free will, will that be the parents’ fault? No, the onus is on the kids. What the parents did was honorable, beautiful. What the wayward kids do is foolish, a misuse of freedom. It’s similar with God who creates us. Our being created reflects his greatness; our sinning shows our bad decisions.

It sounds odd, but even souls in hell reflect the goodness of God. Their very existence as souls shows the miraculous creative power of God. And the fact that such souls are barred from God’s presence is a sign of his infinite holiness; the souls who sinned grievously cannot mar the beauty of God, they cannot disturb the happiness of heaven.

Now, what about predestination? It is good to recall what predestination doesn’t mean. It doesn’t mean that God decided ahead of time who was going to be saved and who was going to be lost. God’s ideal plan is for everyone to be saved. Indeed, he “wills everyone to be saved and to come to knowledge of the truth” (1 Timothy 2:4).

The Catechism in No. 600 says: “To God, all moments of time are present in their immediacy. When therefore he establishes his eternal plan of ‘predestination,’ he includes in it each person’s free response to his grace: ‘In this city, in fact, both Herod and Pontius Pilate, with the Gentiles and the peoples of Israel, gathered together against your holy servant Jesus, whom you anointed, to do whatever your hand and your plan had predestined to take place.’ For the sake of accomplishing his plan of salvation, God permitted the acts that flowed from their blindness.”

The idea is that somehow God has already factored in people’s free choices when looking at the sweep of history. This raises even more questions, I know. Here, we are up against the mystery of how God works in history. That kind of topic has inspired whole libraries to be written. (For more reading see this article.)

And what about reconciling God’s foreknowledge with human freedom? And with the power of prayer?

Again, just because God knows something in advance doesn’t mean that he directly causes it. God foresaw 9/11, but his foreknowledge didn’t take away the free will that the attackers used that day for such horrific ends.

Also, God foresees our freely offered prayers and acts of repentance, and has already factored them into his own response. For more reading on this topic you might look at the Catholic Encyclopedia entry or the Catholic Answers piece.

I will be the first to admit that this answer can’t explain fully the connection between God’s providence and foreknowledge and man’s free will. Getting to heaven is a grace of God. We can’t get there on our own. Yet, some of us will, and apparently some of us won’t. That is a mystery in itself.

We can be sure of one thing, though. God loves us and wants for all of us to be saved. Yet he seems to respect our free will enough to allow some souls to be lost. That is a bit scary. That should keep us praying for the grace of final perseverance.

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!