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“Ask a Priest: When Does Eating Become Gluttony?”

Q: When does eating become gluttony? Is it OK to slightly overeat? Say you want the last piece of meat, although you don’t really need it. It is not as though you would be sick if you ate it. Also, is eating dessert OK since it is not necessary for you? –D.L.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: The simplest criterion is to say that we start to slip into gluttony when we eat more than we really need to eat.

I say “start to” because there isn’t a hard-and-fast line involved. Each person is unique, each metabolism is unique. Some people go long periods between meals and thus might be justified to load up as many calories as possible. And there might also be times when an extra bite could be justified if the alternative is to waste something — for instance, at a picnic where cooked meat can’t be easily and safely stored.

Gluttony is a disordered use of food and of the pleasure that eating and drinking gives us. The pleasure itself is part of God’s plan. He made food to taste good. He gave us taste buds. It is no sin to enjoy food, to prepare good food, to have a cake at a birthday party, etc. The point is when we become unreasonable in our pursuit of this pleasure. This leads to a disordered attachment, damage to our health, and spiritual damage too.

Perhaps you are asking the question because you sense that you might be crossing or being tempted to cross the line into gluttony. That might be a reason to pause and see if the Holy Spirit is calling you to a greater spirit of sacrifice.

Forgoing a little food at each meal is a nice way to practice self-discipline and to show solidarity with the poor of the world. It can certainly discipline us to better stand up to other (and worse) temptations of the flesh.

The Catechism briefly puts the danger of gluttony in context. No. 1866 says:

Vices can be classified according to the virtues they oppose, or also be linked to the capital sins which Christian experience has distinguished, following St. John Cassian and St. Gregory the Great. They are called “capital” because they engender other sins, other vices. They are pride, avarice, envy, wrath, lust, gluttony, and sloth or acedia. [end quoted material]

So gluttony – or even just simple overeating – can lead us down a slippery slope of vices if we aren’t careful.

This might be as good a time as ever to see where the Spirit is leading you. Pope Francis has been calling for greater simplicity in our lives and a greater spirit of sacrifice for the poor. Wouldn’t it be nice to give up a little something each day and contribute the difference to the poor? Food for thought.

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“Ask a Priest: How Can I Cope With a Disturbed Husband?”

Q: Hello. I do not know how to cope with schizotypal personality disorder, depression, anxiety disorder, PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder] and insomnia that have been diagnosed in my husband. I need to act in truth, and I have failed to do so. I need to love him regardless, but it is so very hard when I can’t go visit family without him thinking the worst. I feel doubted, dishonored and blamed for my choices because he doesn’t like the choices. I am still going strong on the rosary, still going to church. Thank you. -C.

Answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC

A: My heart goes out to you as I read about your husband’s problems. Our Lord has allowed a heavy cross in your life. Just the fact that you are making an effort to love and support your husband is a powerful testimony to your fidelity and charity.

It is noticeable that your husband has been diagnosed with so many conditions. The biggest diagnosis is the PTSD, which means that he has suffered from a traumatic event or events. This is what is likely making him so difficult to live with.

It would be helpful for you to be included in the psychological treatment your husband is receiving. There might even be some kind of couple’s therapy available, such as Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT). A good place to start is this website.

The therapy is geared toward helping spouses understand each other more and see the good in each other. It is focused on keeping marriages together and helping spouses to experience each other in a new way.

In the meantime, take things one day at a time. Try to stay close to the sacraments. Look for spiritual counseling, at least for yourself; a spiritual director or regular confessor could be helpful. Continue to stay close to the Blessed Virgin Mary. She knows the heart of a woman and will intercede for you.

I hope this helps. Count on you and your husband being included in one of my Mass intentions.

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Alex Kucera

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Alex Kucera has lived in Atlanta, GA, for the last 46 years. He is one of 9 children, married to his wife Karmen, and has 3 girls, one grandson, and a granddaughter on the way. Alex joined Regnum Christi in 2007. Out of the gate, he joined the Helping Hands Medical Missions apostolate and is still participating today with the Ghana Friendship Mission.

In 2009, Alex was asked to be the Atlanta RC Renewal Coordinator for the Atlanta Locality to help the RC members with the RC renewal process. Alex became a Group Leader in 2012 for four of the Atlanta Men’s Section Teams and continues today. Running in parallel, in 2013, Alex became a Team Leader and shepherded a large team of good men.

Alex was honored to be the Atlanta Mission Coordinator between 2010 to 2022 (12 years), coordinating 5-8 Holy Week Mission teams across Georgia. He also created and coordinated missions at a parish in Athens, GA, for 9 years. Alex continues to coordinate Holy Week Missions, Advent Missions, and Monthly missions at Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Cumming, GA.

From 2016 to 2022, Alex also served as the Men’s Section Assistant in Atlanta. He loved working with the Men’s Section Director, the Legionaries, Consecrated, and Women’s Section leadership teams.

Alex is exceptionally grateful to the Legionaries, Consecrated, and many RC members who he’s journeyed shoulder to shoulder, growing his relationship with Christ and others along the way. He knows that there is only one way, that’s Christ’s Way, with others!